Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

[MyLittleMiracles]

watch I still get that feeling when I chat to the first person I fell for. Still. I wonder what could have been but Thats life and you are better off without him.

He has no control over you. Delete and ignore and I am hoping you deleted his number.

[snapespeare]

yes, the one I gave my number to yesterday - he seems more gregarious by text. Sunday afternoon stroll, eqi-distant to our houses, have warned him I might be terribly hung-over. we're flirting! eeep!

watch really glad you're not engaging - love that description of stomach-flips being a warning mechanism rather than lust.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

ah - SEE!!!! :) now im going to be all pleased because you took a chance and it worked :) hurrah!!! very excited, because from what you said he seemed lovely, and very much your type. cant wait to hear all about it.


mlm, i have not deleted his number, its ingrained on my brain in any case. But ive not used it.

adn time - hark at you, picking up men in wilkinsons :) you are right though, like i said my friend was dressed as a reindeer! lucky girl now has free aa assistance

[hatesponge]

snape that sounds good :)

I have to go to the races tomorrow with work colleagues, well those at my level, & my manager. I have no enthusiasm for it at all at present mainly because they are all so bloody boring, and I have to behave myself so cant have a drink

[watchoutforthatsnail]

snape - yes, i have learnt, that is someone is causing that much of a physical reaction in you, if just a text or a phone call can cause that feeling, that is NOT A GOOD THING. Its not lust, its your brain trying to tell you to get the fuck away :)

[hatesponge]

oh and (this is further example of my luck with men) one of the guys who will be there tomorrow fancied me for ages, we finally had a massive snog after an office party a couple of years ago, spoke about going out for ages after, never did a few months later he met someone else, and a few months after that married her. prior to which he hadnt had a girlfriend for about 10 years.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

but sponge - you might meet someone there... you never know! races are socialable places, hang around the boards in the betting place, play the useless female card and ask nice looking men for help because you dont understand it, or are picking based on their colours :)
and carry a pie!!!!!!
:)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

but thats nothing to do with your 'luck' with men. its just one of those things :)

[snapespeare]

i'll need to wear a dress, rather than my usual dragged through a hedge. and not look like i havent been laid in almost three years (excepting for the unfortunate blip..)

[hatesponge]

Well I might meet someone :) But more than likely I will be stuck with my joyless colleagues. I'd actually quite like to be going there with my friends, but I know this is going to be such a best behaviour type day it sucks all the fun out of it!

And it doesnt finish til nearly 10 (following which I have a 2hr journey home on my own on the train) so I cant even go & meet friends later.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Last year I acquired one in Morrisons too. He was coming out as I was going in. We looked at each other and exchanged smiles, we both turned around to look at each other as we walked away. I had just started shopping when I saw him coming back in! As he strode backwards and forwards along the top of the aisles, obviously searching for me, I was ducking and diving! He looked nice but I wasn't ready for men at that particular time.

I know I can pull a man, I just pull men I don't want.

[MrsToddNeeLovett]

Can I ask a question about my date tonight?

I'm 5ft 10in and my date is 6ft. I don't want to tower him so want to wear flat shoes ... I'm thinking of buying some long boots to go over my skinnies/leggings (which?) or will this look frumpy?

(I'm not buying boots specifically for this, I want some anyway thanks to the shit British weather).

[Lueji]

About paying for a site:

With my equivalent of matchaffinity, we can send and receive one message for free, but not look at pictures. We get a fuzzy one only. And can't link directly to the profiles of who have put us on favourites. (but then I reckon that if they are interested they will send a message.)
However, they keep sending me special offers of one week for 1 Euro. And I was in one of them when I contacted Mr VN.
They have since sent me another when I haven't continued a proper subscription.
Maybe they are in need of women... :o

[watchoutforthatsnail]

mrstodd. wear what you like :) the sucess or failure of a date rarely is based on clothes/ shoes.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Mrs Todd wear what you feel comfortable in, because then you will feel most confident. If wearing boots and leggings/skinny jeans makes you feel frumpy then maybe you shouldn't wear them, if they make you feel good about yourself, go ahead. I love skinny jeans and long boots so I would have no problem wearing that outfit

[Lueji]

I agree, wear what makes you feel happier and more confident.
And wear one less thing than what you were planning to. (that's a general rule for dressing, anyway :) )

[lubeybooby]

watch yeah I think you have possibly hit the nail on the head there, it's really difficult with the distance thing as time goes on and I just know we won't survive if he moves halfway round the world, he was recently abroad for two weeks and that was so much strain on us. We smiled and chatted through it but it was actually a nightmare. So I think I have defences up a bit. It's disappointing to feel like that when he is so close to being everything I want, and we have such a great time. He hasn't mentioned it for ages now though so I think he might be re-considering. I daren't even ask at the moment (which I suppose is actually telling of how I really feel despite surface CBA)

Time I am so freakin' happy sat here in my leggings right now! :o I am sure too that once I have recovered a bit and restored my inner mad cat lady status quo that I will feel better again. I am so not ready for anything more serious than this, at least that much is clear :o

[MyLittleMiracles]

Always wear something you feel amazing in. (for me this is either my dress which shows everything, or skinny jeans and one of my two favourite tops. Though I now have three.

[MyLittleMiracles]

And seeing as my dress shows practically everything wearing one less thing would mean taking my knickers off or bra but bra would show.

[snapespeare]

I am certainly not at the age or weight to purchase a dress that 'shows everything' but my lovely Navy blue Joules boat print dress fits again - just under knee length, A line, lovely bright red zip detail that subliminally says, 'unzip me' and cleavage, cleavage CLEAVAGE! Thats getting an outing on Sunday.

quite looking forwards to it now.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Sounds to me like you've got the balance just right lubey, a whirlwind period of action with your man and then a few days being 'just you', doing what you like, wearing what you like, just generally having time to catch up with yourself. Sounds perfect to me

Outfit sounds lovely Snape

[snapespeare]

no idea re shoes though - my manky black converse or usual summer attire of fit flops probably arent going to hack it.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Next have got a half price sale on at the moment, I saw a lovely pair of red low wedges for eight quid. Red would go with your frock.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

red wedges sound good!!! dress sounds lovely :) you will look fab.

Lubey - its understandable i think, long distance is very difficult to do. And of course if you know hes going away forever... meh. But like you said, maybe hes reconsidering, when will you know by? i supose all you can do is take it day by day and go with whats feeling good,and if its not feeling good, then you have to make choices then....When is he meant to be going?

wear one less thing than you were planning too????!?!?!?!?!?!/ huh, really? since when? tbh i went on so many dates it was literally just a case of grabbing what ever was clean and weather suiting out of the wardrobe :)

[snapespeare]

I'll have a look tomorrow morning - cheers time