Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

ok - so, you want a plan? i understand, something that you can be doing, so it feels like you are DOING something, rather than nothing.
Ok - i get that :)

In hindsite pof got me ALOT of dates, most of my dates were from there. POF is good for getting dates, its maybe not so good for men serious about dating as it does tend to have a very ' casual sex' reputation.

Change dating site. Honestly. Have your tried okcupid - or, if you have tried it, try it again. How about doing a paid site, for a month? i know you have done it in the past - but the past is the past, and this is now, and there will be other people on there ( and maybe you might be looking for something different than you were last time)

[OhWesternWind]

Can any of you recommend some sites? Not ones for casual sex though, I'm looking for more of a relationship. Thanks.

[MyLittleMiracles]

sponge I suppose technically you could carry on for the rest of your life and never get a second date, however the chance of that happening are so low and you have much much better odds of ending up in a similar situation to watch

I met an old friend and see them again Monday (he actually asked me out) and I wasnt expecting it. I done nothing any different to my dates, in fact I made less of an effort. Sometimes it is pot luck.

[MyLittleMiracles]

Free sites:
Plenty of fish www.POF.com
Ok Cupid www.okcupid.com
Oasis www.oasis. com

[hatesponge]

Thanks - a plan is good :) Makes me feel less like a leaf fluttering aimlessly in the breeze...

I actually put myself back on OKCupid earlier in the week (I think when everyone was saying on last thread it was better than POF) - I've had about 10 messages so far, 8 of which were odd, pervy or both, 1 from a guy who was married & wanted some fun - so all deleted. 1 seemed normal, I have replied to but nothing back (as yet).

I'll give a paid site a whirl (nothing ventured etc). At this stage in the game I have to exhaust every possibility. Does anyone have any recommendations? I know lots of people rave about GSM, but when I've searched on there (as much as you can for free) I've not seen anyone I'd find even vaguely attractive...

[watchoutforthatsnail]

time - glad cupid is giving better messages - thats at least a good sign, there are less men, but i do think better men- and more of them can spell and put a sentance together :)

MLM - thats great - dont sleep with him!!!! :) not yet, anyway.

i do think its just luck - of meeting the right person, at the right time. and a bit of chemistry, and a bit of timing. If it were easy and everyone met someone after 5 dates or somehitng, dating sites wouldnt exist, people would be falling in love in the street. Which they arent. or it only happens in films. Or to my friend who is currently dating the AA man who rescued her and her broken down car while she was dressed as a reindeer for a christmas fun run :)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

great :) i know when i had odd times when i got disheartened that i had to have a plan to feel like i was doing something about it, because i didnt want to give up.
A plan is a good thing :)

I dont know - i tried match, just because its a big one and i figured lots of people automatically know it. But what about eharmoney - which is a personality match thing and is something you havent tried before?
or match affinity - which is the same sort of thing. These might be more sucessful at matches, because they match for you based on questions and answers.....

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Yep, totally agree with you again Watch, on all counts.

I'm still hoping fate will send a man my way, like it did your friend I can't say my heart is totally into internet dating but it is a way of coming into contact with men. I'm just going to leave my profile hanging there for a bit, see what happens.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Here sponge, try this apps.facebook.com/futureofrelationship/

[hatesponge]

I am very fussy generally about men. I think I expected to go on dates and hate most of them (prior to this year, with the dates I went on quite a lot of the time I didn't want to see them again). So I was surprised by the fact I wanted to see most of them again, & pleased they apparently felt the same.

And I know (or I should do) that it is all timing. My lovely Ex I met through friends, in the pub, on a night when I really didn't want to go out, hadn't made any effort, wearing a jumper and leggings, barely wearing any makeup, and my hair was all flat.

:)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

also - maybe discount looks for the momment. Im not saying go out with a potato
BUT - mr l isnt my type looks wise, not really, he has mousey blond hair, CURSE OF THE BLOND!!!! and hes short 5ft 7 and doesnt wear what is considered ' fashionable' at the momment. and he needs to go out in the sun to get rid of the whiter than white skin :)

But - hes bloody lovely, i like him alot, and i do fancy him lots. LOTS!! ( even when hes wearing my christmas dressing gown, a paid of socks and my pink crocs!!!) hes sex on legs :)
from just his pictures online... no, not so much, i went on the date because he had a frankly awesome profile and i really liked chatting to him.. and then on the date he was just lovely, and its gone from there.

[KirstyWirsty]

Eharmony are advertising on tv just now as well so may get a new uptake of eligible men customers

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Erm, you went on the date because I gave my approval Watch, lets not forget that. chief bridesmaid position filled by me and I also get to catch the bouquet and choose the best man

[watchoutforthatsnail]

see - you met your lovely ex like that - its all timing and luck. promise. it really is.

And i am very fussy about men, i hardly fancy anyone - ever. and if im totally honest, i wouldnt have actually dated hardly any of the 60 i had a date with.... for various reasons. i was more pissed off that i was dating so much and not getting anywhere!! and then most of that time i wasnt interested in an actual relationship - i was only interested in ' dates' and certainly wouldnt have made time for any of them like i have for mrl.

After my massive casual sex athon, i decided i wanted an actual realationship, thought about what i wanted from that, and then got chatting to mr l.... who wasnt what i would have gone for maybe 6 months perviously, but who was, when i thought about what i wanted... exacatly what i wanted :)

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I started to sign up to Eharmony a few days a go, just to see what the 'free' personality match would bring, but I got bored answering all the questions, there are so many of them, before you even upload a photo or create a profile.

[hatesponge]

I try not to be too much about looks...

The ones I message - yes, usually because I find them attractive from their pictures . having said that my success rate in getting so much as a reply is only about 1 in 20!

The ones who message me - I'll consider photos, profile and message - if 2 out of 3 are ok I'll generally reply :) so even if they're not my physical type, if their profile is funny or interesting, and I like their message, I'll give them a go. A couple of my vanishers, and last sundays date were ones like that.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

yes, it was times fault!!! i was wavering, based on the looks thing, because hes NOT my usual type, Time told me to go. so i did.
maid of honour and i promise not to make you wear a hideous dress

[MyLittleMiracles]

I won't be sleeping with him any time soon. There wasn't even a peck on the cheek, loads of hugs and arm rubbing.

I am going to be very very hard to get and will await your approval to sleep with him. Consequently watch he is also blonde. Maybe Thats the key, go for a blonde.

[hatesponge]

Time I signed up to Eharmony last year I think when they did one of their free communication thingys, but I felt like I lost about a year of my life answering all the questions . And at the end of it you still couldnt see peoples photos... too weird for me!

I might look at matchaffinity though provided there are less questions

[MyLittleMiracles]

My former FWB seems not very happy I have a second date. Think I upset him? He asked. I was honest. Anyway he has a girlfriend. Was he expecting me to wait around for him? I think not.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

BUT - if those questions match you with someone amazing, it will be less time taken than spending months going on crap, going nowhere dates, with POF losers :)

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Yes! That is correct! His profile was lovely though, even I fell in love with him.

can I go on honeymoon too and bring the best man

[Girly]

sponge if you want to pm me please do. I can show you my profile. Am happy to help x

[Girly]

I am having a better quality on Okcupid. Pof is more of a meat market, which is fine if thats what floats your boat. I would say 3 out of 10 are nice the rest are dodgy to say the least.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Ialmost lost the will to live Sponge. To tell the truth I was only signing up cos DD told me she had seen The Ex looking at dating site and it began with an 'E'. He's not worth trawling through all that lot for though!