Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

MLM, I felt a lot like that about the Evil Ex. He once threatened to leave & my only emotion was relief (and then disappointment when he didnt). I ended it eventually - he also begged me to change my mind, stupid man.

Glad your date went well btw, you sound like you're approaching it in exactly the right way too :)

sponge he probably is you know, sitting there regretting it and you wont give him the time of day from now on right? Not even if he comes begging.

I am approaching it for what it is, a few evenings enjoying each others company, and although some touchy feely no sex tonight. Though next time there has to be cos i am getting needy now, and that is not a good look I think he likes me i mean an hour round trip says that he does

Why do men beg us to change our minds, do they not know that once a woman's mind is made up, thats it, they can forget it?? GAH men!!! Very few good ones out there, though i dunno, my date 4 of tonight seems like a good one at the moment, dunno how long it will last, he wants to see me again soon.

I know the feeling of relief, thats how i felt when i got my money etc sorted, i knew housing wouldnt be easy by god it was difficult but i knew then that it was finished and that i would never return despite even his recent pleadings.

Sponge, I also had an ex who threatened to leave me, he overplayed his hand, I knew he was bluffing and I ended it.

Really what gets me is the lack of sophistication in their games.
Is it that they lack a sophisticated enough theory of mind?
Or is it that men don?t feel the need to bother with the contents of the minds of mere women?

Bit of both maybe but the upshot is that we can run rings around them

sponge he sounds like a bit of a nut job I hate guys that are so full on and say weird things like what he was texting you! Thank god he doesn't want to see you again as no way do you need to get involved with someone like that! Weird crap men! Was he from Pof? Big sorry that it makes you feel crap!

I love the idea of a non online dating thread! They are all weird and rubbish and as it meant to be summer then I think we should all start practising ways of meeting real life men! And not the crappy ones from behind there computers!!!!

Moving, yes he was from POF.

I'd be tempted to link to his profile but he's hidden it now I thought at first that was cos he'd met me, but as it turned out clearly not!

Tips for meeting a guy in real life or more accurately the only things i do;
Look at them, plenty of eye contact as you walk past, a thank you if they move out of your way, wiggle your bum a little extra as you walk away from them, and sometimes just sometimes, they will come up and ask for your number, which is great, i love knowing that someone is watching my bum, and last time i knew i was right cos he asked for and got my number,

In terms of non Internet dating so far for me all the mini adventures I've been having recently have been through friends of friends... Normally involving liberal quantities of alcohol and big nights out. But where I live there is also quite a good amount of available men plus some fun places to go so that helps...

Also several have been quite a lot younger. Mainly not really long term potential type adventures therefore....

Sponge happy to hear you're beginning to see this guy for what he is. I bet he's regretting it but he's too damaged to do anything about that. The last person who did something similar to me went on to have a kind of nervous breakdown

Well, what was a 5th date went well.

He brought a birthday present, that was cheap and thoughtful in at least two counts, so no red flags and four ticks.

We ended up making out in the car park, then we drove home separately and he called to make sure all was alight. During which he apologised for something he did, which I didn't think was bad. Another tick on picking up cues and being able to apologise.

Although, when we went past a scenic new hotel, he mentioned it might be a good place for the honeymoon. Not sure whether to be happy or worried.

Sponge. Hope you feel a bit better today :) it is galling when you give someone a chance , someone who you wouldn't usually look twice at, then they reject you. Happened to me loads. One memorable one, sat in costas, guy dressed like man at debebhams ( those that know me know thats not my thing) didn't fancy him really, he had those watery blue eyes, seemed nervous..lived with his sister and her boyfriend!!!! Bit of contact after, then he vanished. Hes still on pof and now has a ranty profile about how he can dress casually and that women are timewasters! Lol, serves him right. Your date will be like this too. Also well done for talking to those Australian girls. Im always talking to random people, though did tend to avoid talking to men my age..... Which is possiblly where I was going wrong.....!!!!

Lubey, how are you today?

Actually just checked that guys Profile, so amusing. He's labelled all his pics things like ' latest pic April 2012) except the very same pics were on there last summer, when we met. Lol, silly man.

wiggling your bum at random men might work in your twenties MLM in your 40's it's likley to get you carted off to an institution.

I barley even have a bum, It's flat as a pancake. If I tried wiggling it i would look derranged and send people running.

I do however have excellent boobs, perhaps I could constantly bounce them?

LOL
( crazy madness)

Well I am only 24 (as of last week). I don't have trouble chatting to people helped by the fact my little boy gets plenty of attention, one worry for his teenage years

lueji glad date 5 went well for you.

Dunno when I will get date 5, we are both pretty busy for the rest of the week, so next week sometime.

Lueji, glad it went well, wouldn't read anything into the honeymoon comment really :)

Mlm, good, sounds like It's going ok.

:) watch, i have a terrible arse, there is nothing there. we'll just need to wear red swimsuits and run for buses in slow motion. :)

Hey watch - thanks for asking.

I dunno really. I just feel really numb and in limbo. Couldn't sleep til about 5am though, mind running at 100mph.

I had to email him last night to say my available days/times had changed, which they have with stuff I can't be flexible on or get out of, which was annoying. I know it was mundane and I didn't stray from the topic but I'd really prefer to have been able to keep up complete silence.

I also can't make up my mind if this week or next is better to meet and talk. On one hand I hate it hanging over me but on the other I think a decent amount of space before meeting could be a good thing. Basically the choice is down the Thurs which feels too soon or Monday onwards which seems forever away. argh.

Boobs and bum. My mummy always told me if I have got it I should flaunt it. Being single gives me the right to.

Lubey, id go with sooner, I couldn't hold out till Monday, thats ages away. You must feel awful, It's the not knowing. Sorry :(,

my mum never told me what to wear to attract male attention. maybe thats where I'm going wrong? I tell DD (17) to wear what she is comfortable and happy with whilst maintaining a level of decorum that doesn't make her look like she has everything on display for male approval...but then I'm a ball-breaking feminist. (again, probably where I'm going wrong, but thats not really negotiable...)

Snape, I'm the same. Had this conversation at work the other day. One ladies dd, same age as mine ( 6.5) had had a meltdown over not wanting to wear last years fashion. And that weekend They were going for haircuts and manicures to ' look pretty together'
My dd wilk pull on a pair of orange joggers, green t shirt and purple hoody and doesn't even think about it. I certainly wont be telling her what to wear, definatly not ' how to attract a man' she should wear what she wants, so long as shes not Indecent.

I have asked dd if she wants her nails painted for the summer, I get firmly told no. Shes never had her face painted, her choice, did have her first glitter tattoo Friday, but scrubbed it off an hour later because she ' likes to be me without things on me'

Well I am only 24 (as of last week). I don't have trouble chatting to people helped by the fact my little boy gets plenty of attention, one worry for his teenage years

lueji glad date 5 went well for you.

Dunno when I will get date 5, we are both pretty busy for the rest of the week, so next week sometime.

Watch, I know what you mean but I really have had such a mindfuck that thurs feels way too soon. I also have loads of work to do on the Fri and over the weekend and I'm worried about being upset and not doing my best/being at my best if we have officially put the last nail in the coffin. At least if I'm in limbo I'm likely to just still be feeling a bit numb and wtf rather than upset - if that makes sense.

Bet he gets back to me wanting it to be thurs

Happy birthday MLM. :)

wiggling your bum at random men might work in your twenties MLM in your 40's it's likley to get you carted off to an institution.
What!?
I don't know about that.
I got lots of attention the other day with a low cut sleeveless top. And my boobs are not fantastic.

Apparently (well, I know I do) I have lots of male oriented interests. Mr VN finds it a novelty and slightly puzzling, it seems.

After ex, it's refreshing to talk about books (we did a tour of a bookshop yesterday) and good music. And Mr VN kisses me everywhere (within decency).

And I laughed off the honeymoon comment. I really don't think there's anything to it. :)

Also, Lubey, I'm not sure I'd want to have the face to face talk, particularly if it can't be done straight away. And what's the point?

If he wants to finish it, why extend the misery?

I'd just ring him and clarify it.