Weekends...

[Pickles77]

Does anybody think that if I book a weekend away, and get XP to come along, talk & have a great time it will work? He'll see sense? Want to be a family... Slowly try again?

Or

Am I being a crazy lady?

Im being a crazy lady again aren't I? :(

But marking it as severe or urgent isn't a reflection on you, it just means you'll be treated as a priority & get the help you need sooner, which can only be a good thing.

Trust me, things take on a while different meaning when you have a child & those things that you thought were vitally important suddenly become meaningless. I don't mean to sound patronising, but it happens. I hope this happens to you & you can relegate your partner to where he belongs, as the father of your child & nothing else.

So do i MrsHels i really do....

You are a priority - you are an unsupported pregnant woman who us quite understandably anxious & depressed. Suicide has become the highest cause of death in pregnant women & for a year after the birth so perinatal mental health services are really shit hot now. They will do whatever it takes to support you & we are here too. You will get through this & have a happy life - you just need help at the moment.

Yes, priority is good, some people have to wait months for counselling.

Don't write the letter, well write it but don't send it. We want to hurt them but they just get annoyed and think oh for gods sake here she goes again...

Yes i thik thats what he'd do not even read it.

Mum sat down and calmed me down a bit about the priority thing and thinks what you guys do too which is good :)

Sorry, got here quite late.

Looks like everyone has everything under control though :)
Echo the advice on writing the letter to let it all out but DO NOT SEND. As for the priority status - that's good. It means you are getting the attention and 'ranking' you deserve in terms of having your needs met.

I am off to put up the playtent indoors and play 'going camping' as it is STILL BLOODY RAINING and we're going camping in 2 weeks time. Got to get DD used to being in a sleeping bag. Oh joy!

I didn't do it
Struggling though, really miss him.

Indoor camping sounds fun,
At least the weather is better today x

How are you today love?

Struggling... Been out to see a friend for a little bit but couldn't wait to get home... Just want my baby now. Hope your okay

Please don't flame me but the xp has had exchanged rather nice polite texts with me today (via old phone) and I'm feeling a bit

Nice & polite won't change what he's done

I know it won't I've turned it off and taken the sim card to mum as I know it could end bad for me. I saw sense...

I just think I'd like to lie down, sob myself to sleep and be woken on sept 28th. That would do really nicely, because that's the start of my life. I've planned all I can for now... & I HATE waiting!

Ah Pickles, how are you doing today? Sorry I've not been online for a while - been trying to get stuff organised for the memorial 'do' this weekend. Just had a panic because there will be children there and I was worried they'd be bored. Then had a panic that the venue toilets may not be 'up to scratch' and had to go get handwash, air freshner and spare toilet rolls. And then I thought about the activitites the children could do and thought I'd need an extra thick tablecloth and dustsheet AND handwipes......

All done now other than a little light baking, and listing everything we're taking (and of that what needs to come home again).

You are doing all the right thing - keeping away from letter-writing, holiday offers and handing over the sim to your mum. You're going to be such a great parent .
I've just sorted out some of DD's clothes that no longer fit - they'd be a bit big for your baby at the moment but if you want them, you're welcome to them (tops and sleepsuits 9-12 and 12-18 months), otherwise I can easily drop them off at the charity shop next week.

Am off to scan in some photos now, make the bed, do the washing up, and see what DD wants for her tea. :)

Your such a bloomin busy person, I envy this wish I had as much enthusiasm!!
Glad you have faith in me, just posted on the dog house actually having slight wobbles.
if your sure, that would be lovely. Thank you

Yeah no problem. PM me the address and I'll get them sorted out asap. :)

Thank you.

Please
Can someone explain what this means to me:
I haven't forgotten the good times, you have disregarded them and not appreciated they don't come easy?

Mind games.... Just ignore it....

Bloody crap. Same crap diff day!

Ignore him!!!!!

Done

That's grade 1 BS that is. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Now put your feet up, get some chocs and watch some crap telly!

So far I have managed to get the bed remade, and clear up all the toys. DD has only just settled down to bed. Too late to do any photo work and I have a phone call yet to make. The washing up will have to wait.

I don't know that what I have is called 'enthusiasm', it's more a sense of needing to get things done. I'm really not an organised person at all, and I am pretty lazy but when push comes to shove I can step up and get stuff done. I work better to deadlines than working to my own devices.

Lewis is on, now I love Lewis, well the assistant ! Made a cake so stocking up on that!

Well you sound bloomin organised to me! I'm impressed!!! Seriously!

Just caught up with this thread. Pickles you're doing SO MUCH better than you think. You are very impressive - just keep going. One day at a time!