Weekends...

[Pickles77]

Does anybody think that if I book a weekend away, and get XP to come along, talk & have a great time it will work? He'll see sense? Want to be a family... Slowly try again?

Or

Am I being a crazy lady?

Im being a crazy lady again aren't I? :(

have a lovely day

AIBU to be having a really feeling sorry for
Myself day and to stay in my bed with my pooch and comfort food & films...

Aww - no, take the time to wallow if you need to.

Have done my errands and now going to have a nap. In the daytime! Because I can. Because DD woke us up at 5am and I didn't get back to sleep again after that.

What food and films do you have?

Ouch.! U deserve a nap!

Haribo, and moam (baby requested these)
And good old dirty dancing and pretty women

Mm haribo, have just eaten some of DD's!

I love the tangfastics, ate a lot when I was pregnant but worried about baby getting a sugar rush, lol.

Yes I learnt the hard way hyper bump

Today I am sad. I've just read the thread about presents from partners after the birth and now I'm really upset. I've commented.... That's going to kill me. All these husbands coming to the ward after the baby is born. I'm not even going to have a boyfriend, I don't want presents or to be told im amazing.
The lady is NBU- I know I am.

But it's really upset me

I'm in same position pickles, my bf didnt want to know either! Im probably a little older (but i wouldnt say wiser or wouldnt be in this position!!) my ex lives down the road and its hard but i love and want my baby and so do my DC's so we dont need him!

Yes all that stuff bothers me too am scared of labour knowing nobody there to hold my hand or seeing their child for the first time

That's what I try to tell myself, but I just feel so bloody sorry for myself

Me too hun know EXACTLY how u feel

Thank you, for taking the time to write to me

Thats what this place is for, support each other hope u ok

Hi pickles I know what your going through my sister was in the same boat. Hope your ok x

My H didn't buy me a present lol, he went home at 6am after the birth and didnt come back til gone 3pm coz he was tired.... I wish I had asked him to stay with me.

He wasnt much use when I was in labour either, didn't know what to do and got upset rather than being helpful. Thank god my mum was there!

Luckily my mum came to visit in the afternoon and so did my cousin .

Oh good- he sounds exactly like what twunt would be like! Glad I've highlighted the big warning signs on my birth plan

U see men are useless and we dont need them Pickles

I'm coming around to this way of thinking

Do any of you think its possible for someone to change?
I really miss him & I'm really sick of doing this alone. No one to feel my bump or hold my hand.
And just sick of generally being a wreck.
My life is just a train wreck.
I know I'll have my baby soon but if I can't cope now I won't cope then...
No one to see her smile, burp or laugh about pooey nappies with. No one to do anything with

I'm so sorry for posting again. Sometimes I just need to write...

I find people seldom change. I can fully see how things must feel overwhelming, and that you feel lonely, but I think twunt has proven that he is not up to standard in the partner stakes, let alone in the parenting stakes.

When you have the baby, you'll have your parents, you'll have your DD and you can sign up to lots of 'bumps and babies' groups or similar. You'll meet new people and can chat about pooey nappies to your heart's content. :)

Generally men are pretty feeble though - a cold is flu, a stubbed toe is a broken leg, anything that can be put off or deferred is, and they can sleep though anything!

Hopefully you will meet lots of people through your local Sure Start children's centre, and you will have people to go places with,

It's not easy being on your own, but look at it another way, you will only have to worry about yourself, you won't have to worry about having two babies to look after (X being one of them). You will have the support of your family too.

It's just so lonely

Although. Baby did just kick the pooch in the chin as he was resting his chin on my belly. Made me

lol at the kick, bet the dog was surprised! My friend had a baby 6 months ago and didnt know hardly anybody in her town before then, but through the baby groups she now has people to meet for coffee etc, and has done baby massage and cooking courses and all sorts of things.

I have made some very good friends through my toddler group and now our children are all at school together, so the friendship continues for many years hopefully.

i know its not the same as being with somebody. i am grateful to have good friends and grateful that they still include me in their couples nights out, but it does feel odd sometimes that I am on my own after ten years of being with somebody......

I actually really dont want to be here anymore, it's all just too much and I can't do it. It would be so much better if I wasn't here. The tablets don't help nothing helps.
I've just been informed by my father that I'm just a guest here. I'm aware I don't have a home I don't need reminding. They don't want me either.
I've just been sat on my own all day. No one rings or texts. I spend all day on here. I try make out im okay but I'm not.
The sure start place was too much, full of people with no ambition... I'm not a snob but I felt out of place.
Everyday I wake up counting the minutes until I can go to bed. I hate myself.

hey, please dont feel like this. If you want to chat more, INBOX me, let me know your email,, or facebook and we can talk in private.... more than happy to do that. A gang of us have just joined up on facebook, if you want to join, let me know. One of the ladies would be able to help you a lot I think.