Turning Tavern IV - Down Bi the riverside, near the well of loneliness...

[NotForProfit]

Hi all,

thought i'd be proactive and start a new thread for the wenches of the turning tavern as the old thread's pretty much full...

for anyone new to this, it's a thread for women suddenly finding themselves attracted to another woman, so grab a glass of something intoxicating, pull up a chair by the fireside and we'll try to help one another deal with the elation, confusion and heartache of rediscovering your sexuality.

oh yes, outmy, it did occur to me that I'm not as straight as i thought purely as I've never encountered gay women as friends and my generation wasn't as obvious about it. The hting i still wouldn't know for sure until I'm with a woman sexually - even with wiq I'm still nervous (but of course want to try, slowly).
You didn't answer about being single - how do you feel long term?
I would not go to clubs - I find any mmass gatherings of a type unpleasant, like a herd of sheep . Online fine - it's much more one to one and you can build up chat before meeting. I'm still hoping for wiq though so don't want to think of other options with women so closely. I still know that Im less attarcted to women in GENERAL than to men - I'm much more demanding about the looks aspect (with men much less so) - wiq has it all to my taste, looks and personality and brain - it's very rare.

not that she is in-your-face beautiful or model like at all, but she is generally attractive looking and to my taste she is beautiful.
I'm friendly with a model from a big agency (not famous but still), and she is nice and likes me as a person, but I wouldn't be interested sexually even in her.

and i said before wiq has a strong boyish element to her face and manner - I really couldn't be attracted personally to a very feminine looking girl.

..and especially not to a feminine-sounding one (high pitch voice, chatty, girly) - sorry for dripping!

I wouldnt do girly either,have to have that tomboyish edge(but still look like a girl). Personality wise, i love crazy and witty, someone who doesnt really care what others think and would stand up to me:o Cant stand it when people agree with you all the time. I would have to have someone who would put me in my place:o

i'm with you on the tomboyish edge and the forceful personality. wiq for me combines very nicely the elements of feminine and masculine which appeal to me. and she's very good at standing up to people, but very subtle about it. not sure about her in other ways though.

outmy, haha, aer you so challenging and unruly that you need to be put in your place ? what if someone doesn't do that, what do you do ?
I like beautiful women (if tomboyish a bit) and could enjoy kissing/touching them (that's crossed my mind in the hetero past) but to actually go to bed I need to be very enarmoured and that never takes just looks.
ah ok, thought you are considering to be always single. Wd definitely be a waste as you are so young. well I'm the same that if wiq turns me down no way I'd be in the mood to jump into dating.
NotFor do you think you could feel that for CW or definitely not (deeper connection), you really need to be gently going off wiq.

well, you mean quetly irrritated and walk away, or give them a black eye ?

tomorrow, I can't have the chat unless she phones (not likely) - she will be busy with dc and friends celebrating with her so I doubt if she even would have time or energy. BUT I'm hoping she comments on hte card and then text something quite staright-forward (i.e. no room for misinterpretation) but not full on - i already asked whether saying it full on by text is not erally a bad taste? i can of course offer to chat if she wants to after text. Also it could be that she doesn't text me on the day but later, then will wait. do you think it's a good plan or wiser to wait another week till i see her? I possibly could wait, not surewhat's best. There is a good chance for a change that there won't be peoplearound in a week (no guarantee though).

i was joking! funny though.

in bad

I know outmy - don't you think I got the idea of your (nice)personality on the threads? I'm very short fused when tired.

yes, could do that, I just feel suddenly very impatient - another week! also I meant that is she comments on the compliment it would make sense to text back something to that as a follow up?

if she

I don't mean to be vrey emotional in the text just to say it very simply (without any big words in it) something that let's her know I'm attracted.

obviously if she wants to hear more, I would offer to chat on phone or talk when i meet her next. or do you think this would let her think too sensibly about it all (unlike the face to face excitement). I just don't know fir sure she will be alone or in good mood etc and i may lose the nerve - just handing over the note is not different fron texting?