I haven't had a conversation with another adult for weeks

[LettyAshton]

I hope I'm in the right place - as this is mostly about me and not me and dh.

I have no family except for a sibling who lives abroad and has their own life.

I have no friends. Not even one. I did occasionally have lunch with an old school friend but she is Quite Important and after hearing her talk about Dave, Nick et al I wasn't surprised to receive a "if you're ever in London do get in touch" e-mail.

Dh leaves the house at 5.30am and returns about 9pm. When he's at home he's like Uncle Quentin and never leaves the study. He hasn't taken a proper holiday for several years. I booked a lunch on Travelzoo but that has languished unused for six months.

Due to dh's work and the dcs it is difficult to return to work. I have applied for a few things but not been successful.

I used to do some volunteering but I've quit as, to my shame, I had had enough of old people and bossy organisers.

Any advice or sympathy or just a pull yourself together pep talk?

Sadly not in Yorkshire. I am in Hampshire. A particularly dreary-looking bit - especially today.

I'm in North Hampshire if that helps... just turned 44 and have one DS (7)

Am just getting back to work after 13 years, but ought to have some time if I'm not too far from you.

Thinking though that you might be t'other end of Hampshire as it's been mostly glorious here most of the day!

It's just pissed down on 6 bathmats hanging on the washing line. [sounds like a book title - or song by warbling female vocalist in girly dress and biker boots...]

We escaped it today, and it was DS sports day too...

You do sound very witty Letty! You could write a book- diary of your quest as a SAHM to make friends and get more involved in your community. I would buy it as am in a similar position.
Just wondering your friend ....it's Theresa May isn't it ?

Letty you are funny and clever and a boozer. Perfect friend material :)
Please read Sisan Cain's book 'Quiet' about we introverts. It might make you feel better, if not actually addressing your immediate problem.

I would LOVE to meet you, you sound GREAT( especially after your DCs descriptions)

I'm in a similar boat as are lots of mums. I have nothing very interesting to add, just wanted to say I know how you feel. I think lots of mums do.

I'm an "old enough to know better" goth type stuck in the land of the orange wag. I think my ex is the only adult I've spoken to in a fortnight. It sucks but I cope by finding things to occupy myself. I'm currently taking band/film t-shirts apart and making tops, skirts and dresses from them to set up an ebay/etsy store. No substitute for company but I feel I have to make the best of it. I've made arrangements for mates to come here, and I have a night out arranged with a friend on Saturday (this is not usual). My DC are old enough to leave for an hour or two, but I've found that as my friends don't really have kids and I've never really got involved with the mummy stuff that's why my social life is so sporadic. Abusive relationship with the DC's dad, and moving area totally a couple of times for good reasons hasn't helped me much either tbh!

kerstina - you're not far off!

Norks - that book is now in my Amazon basket.

WorryDoll - glove punch of solidarity. That's a brilliant idea about the band t-shirts. Dh has - and no exaggeration here - hundreds of band t-shirts. I can just see his face if he came home and found me wearing a dress made out of a hybrid of his Posies and MyMorningJacket t-shirts... hee hee.

Your friend knows Dave Cameron?

Hi Letty - I've just found your thread and weirdly I watched this video this morning on the BBC magazine site. Worth a go?!

WingDefence (my favourite position, too short for WA) that's a very interesting video.

Letty, I have felt a bit like you for...a long, long time. Currently I manage it by pretending I'm a different species which isn't meant to interact with these strange 'people'. Works for about 10 minutes.

More constructively - I hope that the warm response you're getting from posters here is helping. You are delighting lots of discerning strangers here :-)

Hi Letty how are you doing? Agree with many others-you write really well!