His 'holidays' in bloody Thailand

[NotSoEdenRoc]

Name change.

I'm single. I've been involved in an on/off fairly casual thing with this guy for 3 years.He goes to the Far East about 4 times a year. Turns out that he goes to Bangkok and somewhere else in Thailand...I've only just found this out, he's never mentioned Thailand usually says he's going to Malaysia and/or Singapore but doesn't talk about his trip when he gets back home.

Can there be any innocent reason why a single man in his mid 40's goes to Bangkok 4 times a year ? On his own? And if it's all innocent (yea yea) why not just tell me the truth about where he goes?

I know I need to get checked for STI's. I am going to die of embarassment a woman of my age going in there, are these clinics full of 16 year olds?

But my main question here is, would anyone else feel like I do? I feel like I've lost all respect for him as a man. He's a horrible repulsive creature doing this. I feel dirty myself. I feel as if he must hate women.

Sorry- I see that talk to him wasn't an option, beyond F off!

I would ignore, if he persists perhaps a 'I don't want to discuss it further, please do not contact me again' might be necessary and then ignore.

By the way, I love when cornered how he said he had a problem, as if it was some type of medical disorder that made him fly to hot sunny places to shag desperate economically destitute young women and ladyboys. Not seen that one in any medical manual lately myself.

I knew you would Roc, I just didn't want anyone else to take me seriously!

My best advice is Do Not Engage With Him. I have a feeling that if you do, he will try and use you as his counsellor. So he will pour his heart out and, eventually, still expect to fuck you. As bodies to him are commodities.

Can you block his number? If you can't, call your phone provider(s) and ask them to do it. Until then, ignore any contact from him. He has been found out and is panicking. Ugh.

Good luck

What's he got to talk about? The lady boys?

You've been strong.

The talking is done. It's time to walk. Correction. Run!

I'd be tempted to say that you do not wish to engage in speaking to anyone who refers to women as whores

Hope it goes well tomorrow.

Just ignore and well done you.

Roc, well done.

I don't usually post much on this board, but as for going to the clinic tomorrow, please don't be nervous.

In my previous life, I often used to accompany teenagers (I was a youth worker) to the GU clinic and never ever came across anyone who had a bad experience with them; everything was explained every step of the way. I didn't always go in either, sometimes I sat outside in the car.

I did wonder if this was to do with their age, but when I went myself, they were exactly the same- reassuring, professional and friendly.

You absolutely deserve a big brandy in that coffee! Well done.

Just read from start to finish and wanted to say
Well done! you're well rid.

As for the STI checks...you're GP might do them, mine does. Although you may need to volunteer a little more info than what the GUM clinic will ask of you, but you can just say you found out your partner cheated on you or something similar.
Good luck, hope all comes back negative and he was at least honest with you about the condoms xxxx

Yes, you're both right. Better to not engage at all. I've blocked his email, and have deleted his number from mobile.

I think the adrenalin is wearing off now, I'm feeling knackered! Time for a nice glass of .

If you get your STI checks done at GU though dondon they won't show up on your medical records- you're literally just a number there; handy for health insurance etc.

I hadn't refreshed the page when I wrote my last post so I'd missed all the following ones..... Just read all the other posts since and thank you all so much. Mumsy you did make me laugh, yes he made it out like some medical disorder that he was helpless to deal with. The shaking and tears in his eyes, nearly handed him an Oscar (rather, nearly stuck it up his bum)>

THANKS ALL!

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block and ignore

if he makes a nuisance of himself (knocking on your door, or turning up at your work), threaten him with the police and that you will tell them exactly why you have dumped his sorry arse

On tge bright side, no worse than you'd guessed

Ignore! He wants to continue to make excuses and find ways to justify himself. He has a 'problem' which manifests itself in paying for sex? Why not go the whole hog and declare himself to be a sex addict - blah blah blah.

Take care of yourself, and let him stew in his [possibly] infectious juices.

Ah Stella, didn't think of it that way ;)

Well done Roc

No advice but bloody well done

Sadly your story reminds me of a friends hen do, she now lives in Australia so we had the wedding and hen do in Thailand as it was half way for both families.
Friend's mum had a breakdown during drinks, on the realisation of the western men and what was going on with young Thai girls and ladyboys she was now spilt up from the bride/her daughters father but she was just horrified as he'd had many holidays toThailand with friends whilst they were still together

Attagirl Roc

UA, you have some history with the behaviour of Western men (okay man) in Thailand. Any thoughts you'd like to share? Suggestion that OP asks for 'the full Silkwood' decontamination treatment tomorrow?

Well done.

Don't hold back when acquaintances ask you why it didn't work out with him...

Oh bloody hell UA. I thought of you when I first saw this thread. Big hug and you and your DS are always in my thoughts.

What a horrible experience, and well done you for getting it out of him.

I might be being very naive here, but is there anything the op can do in terms of passing his name onto border control either here or there? Or anything similar? Because ultimately this man is probably raping children in Thailand and it would be good if anything at all could be done to put a stop to that. God, I could weep for all the children caught up in the sex trade out there.

OP, you are a marvel. Please PM me this chaps name and I will do the rest.

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Well done, and you are dead right not to believe what he tried to tell you about his 'problem' and the ladyboys being in the past.

Hope you will have a decent experience in the STI clinic. I felt very supported myself though I had my test done at my midwife's.

Gum clinic is a walk in the park. Honestly. They are brilliant. Professional, sympathetic. Nothing they haven't seen a squillion times before sadly. The fact is, they respect you for being sensible enough to get tested. Zero to be ashamed of or worried about.