His 'holidays' in bloody Thailand

[NotSoEdenRoc]

Name change.

I'm single. I've been involved in an on/off fairly casual thing with this guy for 3 years.He goes to the Far East about 4 times a year. Turns out that he goes to Bangkok and somewhere else in Thailand...I've only just found this out, he's never mentioned Thailand usually says he's going to Malaysia and/or Singapore but doesn't talk about his trip when he gets back home.

Can there be any innocent reason why a single man in his mid 40's goes to Bangkok 4 times a year ? On his own? And if it's all innocent (yea yea) why not just tell me the truth about where he goes?

I know I need to get checked for STI's. I am going to die of embarassment a woman of my age going in there, are these clinics full of 16 year olds?

But my main question here is, would anyone else feel like I do? I feel like I've lost all respect for him as a man. He's a horrible repulsive creature doing this. I feel dirty myself. I feel as if he must hate women.

Rowan!

'You have no idea how I think. I contribute money to real charities helping real people in countries like Thailand. I find prostitution of any ilk a bit seedy and have never used a prostitute, nor would I. However, I don't think it is evil or necessarily exploitative (as long as the prostitutes are adults).

I was brought up to believe no means no and embrace the law on rape and feel the conviction rate should be upped if it is safe to do so. I do disagree with certain ideas that seem prevalent on these pages and would (luckily) hold no water in a court of law. I do think it is offensive when people say that you should bring your sons up "not to rape" as if parents need to be told to bring up non criminal children. We all do our best to bring up respectful thinking people, of either sex.'

Good luck bringing up your son not to rape, if you have a son, Larry, if that is your idea of a clear message to give to a formative mind or the way to bring up someone to be a 'respectful thinking' [sic] person.

What might a real person receiving the care and help of a charity in a country like Thailand look like, I wonder?

And Helen who does the reviews not the tellings off.

Lol at the limerick,you are funny fuckers.

@babyheaves

And Helen who does the reviews not the tellings off.

lol at obviously being the Helen that does the tellings off

I'm quite nice, really.

Oh REBECCA

REBECCA!

i bet you deleted my limerick

@ Helen.

Ok, erm...

And Helen who does the reviews rather than the amusing replies to the multiple reports I send in when I have nothing better to do with my time than bug MNHQ.

Better, and more honest.

There are a lot going on in Thailand. From most beautiful beaches, nature reserves, waterfalls, traditions, ... down to lady boys bars, pubs and clubs. It?s all your choice and your man?s choice where to go. When I was in Thailand I sticked with the local. Did what they did and went where they went. I found Bangkok women are very lady-liked and highly educated. Most of them still keep their virginity until they married. I also have been to some places you are talking about, looked around me, there were no Thai men! It?s special place for tourists. Not saying that Thai men are wonderful. They also have their places which are like hot bath tubs with ladies. From what I was told it was cleaner and safer as it is established business and each place relies on it?s own reputation. IMO it doesn?t seem fair for the country and people there having to see their culture being lost and at the same time acquiring bad reputation from all around the world just from what tourists chose.

As per OP?s questions, I think 4 times a year is far too often for normal tourist. Does he have a child there? I don?t think there?s an innocent reason and if there is he would have told you.
All in all if the guy is dishonest he will be dishonest anywhere anytime. I do feel that he?s very disrespect you and I think you should still see value in yourself even if he doesn?t. I hope things go well for you and wish you all the best.

KelliSa it really shows that you haven't read this thread!

yes there can be innocent reasons for going to Thailand,the north is brilliant for cycling /motorcycling culture /food ,I've spent a lot of time touring and enjoying the wonderful climate and friendly people with groups of men and alone ,we're not all perverts.

Zombie thread!

Ahem, have you cancelled the cheque yet OP?

Oh ffs, sorry.

Just RTZombieT. Shame so many posts were deleted, sounds like it was mayhem.

Hi everyone. I'm newly married , less that two months actually. DH are already having lots of problems. Well after arguments he storms off and says he is going to sleep on the sofa all night. Which he has already done several times. However a couple of times over the last month he has stormed off whilst we've been driving somewhere. A couple of weeks ago he wanted me to drop him off at the station as I was on my way somewhere , he directed me to Hanger Lane roundabout. I went round the roundabout twice listening to him shouting at me that he's going to be late . There was no where safely to pull over to let him out. So he told me to continue driving on the a406 , I suggested stopping elsewhere and then he shouted out me ( very aggressively ) so I had to come off at the nearest exit at which point I had shouted back. He got out the car whilst it was still moving and slammed the door so hard I thought it would break. Then I didn't hear from him the rest of the day and he said we both need to respect each other more. I was really upset and left it at that. However now yesterday we were in the car and I was getting out to pop to marks and spencer. We were on a side street and the door was open and my legs were out, I was just checking I had my bank card and he shouted really aggressively at me to get out of the car bc he was on a double yellow. I felt so hurt the whole time. Then we were driving and I was being curt back after he'd been so rude and he didn't apologise we were arguing about it . All of a sudden he was raging, got out of the car , screaming and then punched the back window of the car really hard. Luckily it didn't break( he did break one a few years ago) and stormed off.
He refused to answer my calls , and then said he was going to go to his parents or get the keys to his house from the estate agent ( we are renting out his house soon). I said we could talk later but he refused . I had no idea where he went the rest of the day and then later he said he'd been with his friends and he wasn't coming back to my flat/our home ( where he has moved into after marriage) he stayed at his house .
Is this normal behaviour ? I feel really lonely and heart broken. Does this happen in other marriages ,? I would really appreciate your help and advise. There are other issues but I feel like I'll be going on and on . I know I've only talked about the negatives but we do love each other very much.

Oops sorry I'm new to this and I posted in the wrong section . So sorry. But I did read your post- you are best rid of him, get or whilst you can .

@Anya2012
You might be better off starting a new thread as this is an very old one.

And Anya
He's showing you who he is now he thinks he has you trapped by marriage.
Run for the hills before he has you barefoot and pregnant

Anya
Please start a thread in the Relationships section. You know that's not normal behaviour, right? No one should put up with that.

Please start your thread so you can get some support.

ZOMBIE THREAD

I've been to Thailand a few times, I've spent a lot of time there. It's a wonderful country.

Maybe he just loves it there. However, I think the majority of men are there for the sex.