DH would like me to wear a dress.

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I feel uncomfortable in dresses - I am wellbuilt and my tummy is bigger than my boobs so I think I'd look like a barrel.
I only ever were a tunic top over linen wide leg trews as I feel it's the most slimming option, and although I never look great it suits me ok. He reckons if I change from this "365day uniform" it'll give me more confidence and he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes. And he'd be really pleased to see me in something more........ (but never really says a word here, iyswim?)
Would you give it a try? TIA.

Exactly AF

My husband once said that he would love to see me wearing pale lemon and silvery grey underwear.

After it cost him £££ at a very expensive lingerie shop, he has never made those type of suggestions since..

Wow, good taste!

Tell him you'll wear one if he does.

You don't boost someone's confidence by implying that what she normally wears isn't too appealing, isn't making the most of what she's got, or doesn't suit her.

What does is tell her her taste in clothes is crap. And that his view of how she looks is something she should pay attention to, never mind that she may feel perfectly nice in what she normally wears.

I think it is reasonable to pay attention to what he say. After all, he selects clothes based on her colour preferences. It's normal give and take.

Do these posters who say the op should wear what they like,presumably they think the man shouldnt take any notice of his wife either.

Is odd that the OP's DH keeps on buying her dresses that she dislikes, and later sells on ebay. That goes beyond suggestions IMO and if it happened more than a couple of times is pushy and disrespectful of him. Also odd that the OP doesn't just return the dresses rightaway.

Ok : I now can't find the post where she says he buys and eBays.

Also, in OP, it doesn't say the DH has ever stated he is fed up. That is OP's description of his attitude. We have no direct quotations on how he has said this.

So, back to basics, we have a husband who chooses his clothes mainly in accordance with his wife's preferences, and would occasionally like her to try something new that he would like. That's fair exchange to me.

"Basically being a controlling twunt and people are advising her about dress shapes????? Have i woken up in the 1950's???"

He dared ask his wife to wear a dress once in a while. This, from a guy who wears blue shirts all the time because OP likes blue on him.

Oh yeah, we should have said:

LEAVE THE BASTARD

Edith - EBayer is not OP, but mrsrantsalot:

msrantsalot Fri 22-Jun-12 01:06:06
he buys me dresses and nighties and lingerie... which i wear once then go back to comfy clothes. so he buys me more dresses. I have loads of dresses...and a very active ebay sellers account too....

My DP would like me to wear all sorts of things I don't, mainly because turning up to work in a skimpy black negligee would be a bit inappropriate.

In general (and yes this is a generalisation) straight men's views on women's clothes are To Be Ignored. Ditto haircuts. OP, if you do want to stop wearing tunics, take a nice female friend with you.

shopping with you, I should have said.

Ruby, I tend to feel communication is overrated in relationships .

amillionyears you are correct I don't tell my H what to wear, either

Invest in House Of Colour style day. Get a birthday / early Christmas present. It will give you confidence in choosing the correct dress/styles for you.

OP maybe you should repost in S&B to get advice on where to go for flattering dresses?

If you dont want to wear a dress just tell dh no its not you and he should support you in your choice.

Im happy with my husband as he is and i only comment on clothes when he asks for my opinion. I have given up smoking 5 years ago because he didnt like me smoking and i have not got a tatoo because he doesnt like them but it was my choice to do so.

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Give and take in a healthy relationship is ok but you should not feel pressured in to doing something you dont want to do and you should feel ok in saying no to your partner.

"I only like to see him wearing blue tops as it brings out the colour of his eyes and so mostly he wears and buys blue tops as he likes to please"

Blimey - well if thats the kind of relationship you have/want then wearing something he wants you too seems fair swop.

I would set him the task of finding you a dress you do like and look good in and hope with fingers crossed that he has some style sense.

Presumably wanting to "please" each other doesn't involve by necessity looking like shit?

PMSL at the wearing a dress whilst doing the housework to keep him happy comment. OF course if you are Doris Day then you should of course do this.

I think it is reasonable to pay attention to what he say. After all, he selects clothes based on her colour preferences. It's normal give and take.

I can't believe what I'm reading on this thread, I would love to see this posted in the feminist section..