DH would like me to wear a dress.

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I feel uncomfortable in dresses - I am wellbuilt and my tummy is bigger than my boobs so I think I'd look like a barrel.
I only ever were a tunic top over linen wide leg trews as I feel it's the most slimming option, and although I never look great it suits me ok. He reckons if I change from this "365day uniform" it'll give me more confidence and he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes. And he'd be really pleased to see me in something more........ (but never really says a word here, iyswim?)
Would you give it a try? TIA.

Jeez some of you need to lighten the f*ck up! Do you actually enjoy getting so worked up over such trivial matters?

The OP's DH is not controlling, so stop trying to tell her that he is, it's just unnecessary trouble making.

OP your husband sounds lovely and it's flattering that he takes in interest in your appearance.

Disregard the MN ?professionally outraged brigade?, they just love a thread like this that they can jump all over with their OTT nonsense; I'm surprised no one has said you are being EA yet, but I guess there is always time?

Me thinks JustRight is the one that needs to "lighten up" somewhat here.

yes, keep quiet, women with another opinion

I'm withJustRight Your husband thinks you're sexy and would look lovely in a dress. Indulging him once in a while won't make you a repressed woman. People do get rather hysterical on here.

I personally wouldn't want a partner "suggesting" what I wore. On the otherhand if he liked what I had already chosen for myself and made a nice comment then that's different entirely and appreciated.

I feel uncomfortable in dresses

he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes

I do wish people would read the OP's thread properly.

If he's fed up of seeing OP in the same clothes he has probably made a few cutting remarks in the past.

wearing a dress that she knows she will feel uncomfortable in WILL NOT give her more confidence.

It's not as if he's tried to get you in red lacy knickers. Mind you if my DH suggested that I'd take it as a compliment/come on and be quite chuffed. Others may consider it grounds for lynching. All depends on your POV/decade you should have been born in :)

you might be shocked to know that there are some women who will hide clothes or shoes they don't approve of, or send them to the tip or charity shop while DP's out.

Did you ever hear of such a thing?

Oh yes piglet, two wrongs don't make a right though do they?

Not so far as I know.

But I bet if it happened to you, you would think it far worse than "a partner suggesting what I wore."

MissFaversam - We are reading the OP:

"I feel uncomfortable in dresses - I am wellbuilt and my tummy is bigger than my boobs so I think I'd look like a barrel."

It's not as if she doesn't like dresses or has a physical allergy to them. She feels like they won't suit her.

Maybe they will, maybe they won't. She won't know until she tries a few styles.

Her DH is not a pig because he is saying she should try.

OP's question is:

"Would you give it a try?"

Yes, I would. I have. And found some flattering styles.

That was the OP's question not his, he told her that he was fed up in HER choice of clothes and wanted her to wear something for HIM.

Wearing something different once in a while to please your partner isn't a big deal. Doing (transitory) things to give pleasure is part of normal give and take - not really different from cooking his favourite dinner as a treat, even if it's a recipe you're not that keen on.

It's only controlling if the partner is nasty when they don't get their way, or is trying to insist on something either permanent or harmful. Nothing OP has said suggests that hers goes in for that.

That's fine Edith but i'm not comfortable with the OP writing that he's fed up with what she wears.

It is different from cooking his favourite dinner, because the OP doesn't have to change her appearance to cook his dinner or eat it if it isn't her favourite.

It's the fact that he's 'fed up' of seeing her in the same clothes that I find the most offensive.

Her DH is not a pig because he is saying she should try

He didn't say she should try, she did. He said he was fed up with what she wears, there's a difference which tips the balance here and not in his favour.

Surely not Piglet!
I am sure there are women who deliberately accidentally ruin DPs horrible favourite track suit bottoms in the wash too

And what I'd say to those women is I hope he finds out and ruins her favourite thing too.

Not nice either way is it?

Your perspective on this feels like you are projecting, sorry. Nothing in the OP's posts suggests to me that her DH is being out of line. In fact, OP later says that theirs is an equal relationship and that her DH is not controlling.

Sometimes DH starts looking a bit like a mad scientist and I tell him his hair is too long, maybe book a haircut. Over the last year or so, he bought several white sports, loved how comfortable they are, and wore them every day to work, rain or shine. When he tried wearing them on dinners out and cocktails, I told him to get himself some real shoes to wear on such occasions.

And he has told me a number of times that a favourite item of clothing has gotten too old (faded colours etc) and I shouldn't wear it anymore. He was right, I realised.

This sort of conversation happens in a marriage and it doesn't mean spouses are being controlling, because your OH is one of the very few people who will be totally honest with you about how you look, and who want what is best for you.

Clothes are a big part of my identity, and maybe I am over sensitive, but it would hurt my feelings if my DP gave the impression he was bored with how I look and wanted me to look a certain way.

I HATE dresses, I am not comfortable in them, I am also overweight, and dresses make me look like I'm just stuck in a tent lol. If my DP suggested about me wearing a dress, in a way that made me think that's what he thinks is attractive, it would make me feel like my current look is inadequate, and that ultimately I am inadequate...

Its very different to showing your pleasure when they wear something different that you like imo.

Why are clothes a big part of your identity?

Cote clothes are a big part of ANYONE'S identity. We all identfy with a "Look" even if we aspire towards the "doesn't give a shit about fashion" look. Otherwise we'd all be in overalls like communists.