DH would like me to wear a dress.

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I feel uncomfortable in dresses - I am wellbuilt and my tummy is bigger than my boobs so I think I'd look like a barrel.
I only ever were a tunic top over linen wide leg trews as I feel it's the most slimming option, and although I never look great it suits me ok. He reckons if I change from this "365day uniform" it'll give me more confidence and he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes. And he'd be really pleased to see me in something more........ (but never really says a word here, iyswim?)
Would you give it a try? TIA.

When I wear something I am not comfortable with, I feel its not really 'Me'... that's about identity, about me feeling like myself...

clothes as id: goth punk biker or prepy.

Whats wrong with skirts or leggings and tunics or dresses?

Why is it a dress?

Thete are lots of different types of clothes. Find something that you like and feel good in.

If you want to try and please your dh (yuk) try wearing a teddy or babyboll thing on sexy night. You dont have to wear dresses to make your partnet love you.

AnAirOfHope,it is not about making your partner love you.
It is about the giving and taking in a healthy relationship.

I've just looked through the thread and cannot find the post where OP says her DH is fed up - can someone help me find it and say what time it was?

But expressing being "fed up" is still far from being controlling. Especially in light of the post where OP says she's talking about a normal functioning relationship, and says her DH tends to wear blue as she's said she likes to see him in that colour.

It's in the OP's OP (IYSWIM!): 'he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes'.

"I only ever were a tunic top over linen wide leg trews...this "365day uniform"...and he's fed up of seeing me in the same clothes...And he'd be really pleased to see me in something more........ "

Nothing wrong with an occasional change, surely?

PJ is this your first foray into R-ships from Property, or were you a secret lurker? though I suppose advice on clothes is akin to advice on interiors (not that that's one of your many specialities) - was quite to see you here !

OP do you tell him the type of top he should buy?

I think if OP changes the tunic colours and , say, jewellery, then the look can be varied as it is. But if pretty much same than 365 days can be a bit samey to look at (though I think 'fed up' is far too strong as emotion - but he probably didn't say it as such).
I second Trinny and Susannah as someone suggested, if you DO want to try different styles OP. They cover all shapes and in fact Susannah is squarish with no waist (which she says herself) so what she models may suit you too. I agree though that dresses are difficult they aer difficult for slim women like me too, I don't wear then either (skirts and tops - complete;y different, and I like jeans). You could wear a A-line that draws attention to the neckline (or a large necklace) and the dress has to be dark colour like navy, OR it should be printed! Large pucci style prints on light background (or vintagy Cath Kidston) aer really good at diverting attention fron multitude of sins!
But you shoud stick mainly to what you know and like, just maybe try those sometimes.

Been mulling this over and realised I have a few 'looks' in my wardrobe depending on whether I'm feeling girly or mumsy or sharp and tailored. Smart dresses to a fleecy gilet! And I prefer my dress or tunic days to jeans days, unless it's very nippy.

OP it's fun having more than one 'image' to project to the world, TheSpokenNerd is right, remember that bit in The Devil Wears Prada where Meryl Streep bangs on about it? Whatever we choose, we choose and by not 'making a statement' people still make a statement.

Many older men have chauvinism entrenched in them, I'm afraid (how old is your H, OP?). I just had an argument with a male friend (who admittedly was after me in the past) who told me that I don't dress 'to my advantage' i.e. I have a great body that I'm hiding - yuk! I said to him it would NOT be to me advantage in any way to have people on the street leering while I'm spilling out of my clothes! It surely would be 'for men's benefit' , not my advantage. That said I do not wear baggy clothes, and wear clingy jeans that younger men see as sezy (and with them fitted knitwear) - but no, he still thinks it's not to my advantage as i should show more - they just don't get it do they (he IS quite a bit older than me though). If it was my P/H I'd be very put out, as i think I dress nicely andi do feel dynamic not resticted which makes me feel good. I would ress up for a date though more, but I'd never freeze for the sake of showing flesh. To me it';s all about occasion - what's suitable when!

So, let me get this right - the OPs DH is trying to dictate to her what she wears.HE is sick of seeing her in the same old clothes? Basically being a controlling twunt and people are advising her about dress shapes????? Have i woken up in the 1950's???
I agree with this xx

Men are funny characters. They generally mean well, but sometimes say it wrong!

I generally find they say exactly what they mean.

chillyex I agree with your whole post, but there is a sensitive moment in that if he thinlks she'd look fabulous in a dress (that she doesn't wear) it implies to a woman that she doesn't look fab already - andthat's what can be upsetting. He should admire her anyway, and it's not just about figure, it's her face, hair, the colours, the whole person. I understand why most women dont like these comments - they sound as if there is room for improvement! (which may be fine from female friends, but not your partner really)

Victoria, I said 'if you DO want to try other style, Op' with hte emphasis on 'do want' if it's still not clear. OP sounded like she dresses for her shape and as others noted, she may be open to suggestions to add to her wardrobe as she may want variety too (calling her clothes 'uniform') - I alspo clearly added that she should mainly stick to what she knows and likes.

142 messages later.
Just wear a fecking dress already

here we are

Goose, Gander, Sauce.

142 messages later, sod right off and wear the dress yourself, I'm wearing what I'm comfortable in.

I suppose the OP could turn to her husband and say "oi, you controlling bastard, dont you DARE suggest I wear a dress".. then she really might have a bigger reason to post on Relationships..

If my husband said to me "you should wear a dress now and again, I get fed up of seeing you in trousers", I would probably tell him that I dont really like dresses, can never find any that I feel suit me or that I feel comfortable in, and he would either accept that, or he might disagree and tell me that he thinks I look great in a certain dress.

Not all dresses are the same, and there are plenty that would minimise a bigger tummy and stop the wearer looking like a barrell.

I regularly tell my husband that I wish he would wear trousers more often rather than jeans, but it falls on deaf ears anyway.

I just do not, and never will understand the posters who try to convince people that their partners are being controlling or abusive or have no respect for them, simply because the partner has passed a comment that goes against the ethos of feminism.

Many successful relationships work because the two people in them are not trying to be politically correct, tread on eggshells, and can speak their minds to each other.

The OP has posted a reasonable question, and plenty on this thread are, as per usual, trying to create a relationship breakdown where there isnt one.

trying to create a relationship breakdown where there isnt one

Well what i would say to that is if there isnt a problem then the poster would just take from the thread what was necessary to her and not worry. I personally find the people that become "hostile" with women that won't take shit need to look at their relationship a bit more closely because they are uncomfortable with something.

The OPs DH doesn't sound controlling. OP he sounds like he's just trying to help boost your confidence. Why don't you give it a try occasionally if you find you really don't like wearing dresses then go back to your usual wear. By the way DH sometimes tells me what he likes me to wear and I do the same to him. It doesn't mean either of us are controlling just giving each other our opinion.

Oh crikey, I briefly misread that as "DH would like to wear a dress", so in the light of that, perhaps think yourself lucky.

at Nimpy, yes a whole different matter there.

Blimey

Wear what you like to wear

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