Is he having an affair...with his sister?

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I joined mumsnet about a month ago as I thought my partner was having an affair but I had no concrete proof, then last night while giving him his obligatory fathers day 'present' he used his sisters name as he was about to come. I think I'd prefer him just to be having an affair I'm so screwed up, please help.

Dunno??!?!?

Is his sister's name a popular name? i.e. will there be other women who share that name?

So he gets sex for fathers day?and you think he's sleeping with hi sister?
Affair or not, get rid of him

'Obligatory' father's day sex?

i'm sure there is a reasonable explaination....

I once called out John whilst in the throws of passion.... it was a mixture of do you know (that this is the best ever) and dont stop.

needless to say it did stop... and so did the relationship!

Do you not think a "world's best dad" mug would be more appropriate?

Stealth

he actually used the family nickname for his sister. I want to get rid but I haven't worked since our first was born, he's a great dad and the kids adore him. I feel trapped, if I throw him out I'll have no money. What about the kids? I would not have hesitated before the kids were born but you should see them when he gets in from work. I'm so messed up, I know they will blame me.

stealth?

Err... have you actually asked him why he said his sister's name? Have you noticed him being very close to her?

Are there other reasons why you want to get rid besides calling out his sister's name when he climaxes?

Dh call me by dd's name, his brother's name, anyone's name but my own really. He has so far managed the right one when having sex. Mind you that hasn't happened in a loooong time . Slip of the tongue surely.

Are we supposed to shag them on Fathers' day then? It this where I'm going wrong? Mine got a giant gingerbread man.

Did you say anything??

not unusually close to his sister but ...
Haven't spoken about it as he left the house this morning and I couldn't face him. He left about 7 this morning, I waited until he'd gone before I got up. I can';t think straight. They hug when they meet, the kids love him.

so next time you do it call out your brother's name, see if he nptices then have that conversation.

I've never understood this calling out names thing...

Does anyone actually do that?

OP, maybe ask your DP if he is shagging his sister?

Kids are like dogs. They love anyone that shows them a bit of affection. Staying with someone 'for the sake of the kids' is a really bad reason. You don't mention if there are other reasons why you'd want to end the relationship. A slip of the tongue in isolation doesn't sound like a deal-breaker.

Of course the kids love him, he's their dad, if they didn't it would be a huge worry.

I would have said something immediately after - probably as he said it tbh, I wouldn't have been able to wait.

Maybe he was thinking about his sister for another reason - you know, his mind was wandering.

You really need to talk about it with him.

the thought of him touching me freaks me out. joined mumsnet as I thought he was having an affair, no concrete proof but suspicious but now.

Hold on, what did he say after it happened?? There's no way on god's earth you just lay there and went to sleep afterwards so you're bound to have asked him why he said it?? If so, why was his reason?

What* was his reason?