Is he having an affair...with his sister?

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I joined mumsnet about a month ago as I thought my partner was having an affair but I had no concrete proof, then last night while giving him his obligatory fathers day 'present' he used his sisters name as he was about to come. I think I'd prefer him just to be having an affair I'm so screwed up, please help.

You know, I think what made me suspicious about this thread was the title - it's just struck me now - it reads like the ticker along the bottom of the screen on the Jeremy Vile Show.

Not that I watch it

On fathers's day presents, my DH got (and asked for) a handheld dyson. He's delighted with it.

That should counteract the fry ups and other present suggestions on here.

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I see what you mean, you can almost hear him saying...

My next guess suspects her partner of eight years of having an affair ::dramatic pause:: ..... with his own sister . That's all coming up after the break, don't go anywhere.

I don't watch it either...

maybe we need a DNA test - dan dan durh!

It is inappropriate, sorry OP.

It might be a slip of the tongue. I have called my partner "Dad" twice (luckily he didn't hear it, but I felt horrible afterwards).

If he is close to his sister, there is an element of affection there which he may connect unconsciously to the love he feels for you. It doesn't mean that he is shagging her necessarily!

Ew Distance were you about to 'arrive'?

We're getting a good line up sorted for the JK 'Incest Special' anyway

for all those raising eyebrows at the shouting out during sex thing

dp goes "SpriiiiingHeeeeeledJaaaaa...aw sorry, love"

I did try it once, just because I'd seen it on the tv - I was but a Flumplet then.

Man on top replied with 'what'?

I felt very silly

^

Badtaste Erm, no, not under those circumstances. I had just kissed him in a more affectionate than sexual way, iyswim.

Lol. Never met a man who called out mine or anyone else's name when hitting a peak - bit of a clique don't you think? I'm more likely to piss myself laughing whatever the name.
Having said that, I know that when I'm round at my bro's house he often inadvertently calls my SIL by my name. It's just a slip when been chatting. Certainly nothing like that going on though I love him like a sis should. Could it just be that he's spoken to her recently? Hardly much to go off jumping to the affair conclusion?

"Man on top replied with 'what'?"

Hi all,

Thank you to those who reported this thread rather than troll hunting.

Can we please remind you all of our Policy on trolls and troll hunting

We have no reason to believe at this time that the OP is anything but genuine.

I am very sorry for casting aspersions.

This reminds me a story my friend told me once. Her dh & her neighbour shared the same first name, pretty common name.

She is quite verbal during sex & she would often say his name...one night it was all going as usual & she said his name & he freaked out. He thought she was calling out their neighbours name...she said it was like he forgot it was his name too (he may have been somewhat drunk). We still get a few laughs from that...

Sorry for going off there, OP. But are you sure you heard what you think you did? Could it have been something else?

Are you sure it was a word at all...people can make some odd noises in the throes of passion!

I had a fella who once said his own name during the 'end'

That was the last time I saw him

Back at uni I once said someone's name during, say "Jim". This was because I was actually thinking about Jim the incredibly fit bloke from lectures What made it SO much worse was that actual bloke, Not-Jim, whose toil was going unappreciated, not unreasonably thought I was talking about my flatmate's boyfriend Jim who was in the room next door. x 10.

I think there probably is a reasonable explanation, OP, even if it was just the not very flattering one that his mind wandered to Sunday lunch plans or whatever. But if he gives you bad vibes anyway and it's not working, you need to deal with that. Will he talk about how things have changed with you?

Oh sorry HQ

Wow that was fast!

Were we mean to have sex yesterday?

Oh dear, poor dh ...

OP - just ask him about it!

Ask him.

Then come back and tell us what he said.

As an aside, why did you think to join mumsnet because you had suspisions of infidelity? Seems an odd reason but each to their own I suppose.

I've called him my brother's name and XH's name but that's because they're all the same... XH once accused me (not during sex though) of calling him by an x's name but I hadn't and they sound alike anyway.

OH calls me by his XW's name (hasn't got the same excuse) and Mum by his X-MIL's name. I've also regularly got called his friend's partner's name and I'm pretty sure nothing's happening there!