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Can I ask about sex and wee? At the same time?

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PintandChips · 09/06/2012 21:32

In a new relationship - he has an 'interesting' sexul request. Am not sure about it. Can anyone advise if I am being totally prudish?

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madonnawhore · 09/06/2012 23:12

Doggiemumma I think I get it. Thats kind of how I feel about bum sex. And I know that's not everyone's cup of tea either.

dittany · 09/06/2012 23:13

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Perriwinkle · 09/06/2012 23:13

OP I feel sorry for you.

You say this man is not pressuring you into performing this act, which you clearly have grave reservations about performing. Maybe he is not slamming your face against a wall and telling you to do it but he nevertheless, "keeps coming back to it" as you say.

That is pressure. It is pressure because you have said that you feel he will clear off if you don't do it so the pressure is clearly there.

This is clearly this man's "thing" and so it's obvious he will want you to do it time and again.

You say you have esteem issues and do things to keep people happy.

You do not want to do this and doing it will not make you happy. The only thing it will do is to make this man happy and he will want you to keep on doing it time and time again which will not make you happy.

Look after number 1 and keep yourself happy. You will never be truly happy all the while you are doing things that make you unhappy just to make others happy.

My advice is be strong enough to tell this man that you don't want to do this and get some help with your esteem issues.

If he goes down the road then so what? It'll just prove he didn't care about you.

BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 23:13

Its not disgusting, its a each to there own situation.

madonnawhore · 09/06/2012 23:15

Btw I totally agree with dittany.

This doesn't sound like a relationship. It sounds like its all about his sexual preferences and what he wants.

All OP has said she gets out of the relationship is some 'ok' sex. He doesn't sound like a great catch tbh.

fallenangle · 09/06/2012 23:15

If it turns you on to turn him on and the act doesn't revolt you then why not try it. If you know your reaction is YUK, then tell him no.
I suspect you could tell him that he has to earn it and get your house cleaned by a naked slave boy before you dump him
Seriously, if you do this for him he may well become devoted to you. That may be good or may be creepy. It certainly won't be a one off, he'll want it a lot.

dittany · 09/06/2012 23:16

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doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:16

DP says that its "just anotther dimension" and that you shoudlnt knock it til you've tried it, no different to using a rabbit

McPhee · 09/06/2012 23:17

Knowing your luck, it'll just dribble down your leg Grin

Rachog · 09/06/2012 23:17

If you want to try it then go for it. It does sound to me that you only want to try it because your scared to lose bloke in which case its a very bad idea.

FannyFifer · 09/06/2012 23:19

Had an ex who was into this, its not an uncommon fetish.

(didn't pee in his mouth though)

dittany · 09/06/2012 23:20

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FannyFifer · 09/06/2012 23:21

(That'll be a name change fail for me then) Blush

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:22

I have to say, for all my "go for it, its great, we love it" talk, i do agree with those who say you shoudlnt do it just to keep him. If you really feel he'll walk if you don't do it, then don't. It would be the same advice if you didn't like oral sex and he pressured you for it, just because this is a little more unusual is no different, its not the act its that you weren't sure and he kept pushing for it.

ThatVikRinA22 · 09/06/2012 23:22

is he a porn watcher by any chance op?

imo - the fantasy has to be better than the rather messy reality....

BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 23:22

What doggie said!

EnjoyResponsibly · 09/06/2012 23:23

ROFL@McPhee, nothing like performance pressure Grin

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 09/06/2012 23:24

This is pretty niche op your far from a prude if you don't want to.

But your an adult and if you fancy giving it a whirl then that's your decision.

Has he experience in this arena? I too am interested in seeing what happens once the wee is in?

I couldn't do it, I would laugh.

anonacfr · 09/06/2012 23:27

A bit late but I am sitting here literally crying with laughter at YouBrokeMySmoulder's suggestion.

Bring out the potty!

fallenangle · 09/06/2012 23:27

pickles I suspect he would enjoy the laughter. He wants to be humiliated. You could get him to post on MN OP. We could definitely humiliate him.

ThatVikRinA22 · 09/06/2012 23:28

i think actually drinking it is a no no....from a health point of view anyway. i would be askign about his porn usage if it were me....

btw. my dog just threw up, just this second - i think that says it all really...

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:29

fallen, that isn't necessarily the case - my DP is most definately not into submission or humiliation.

ThatVikRinA22 · 09/06/2012 23:29

doggie - i am intrigued as to exactly how one brings this up in the bedroom....?

NannyPlumIsMyMum · 09/06/2012 23:30

Sounds like a weirdo to me.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 09/06/2012 23:30

I'd have to piss on him then run away laughing before he could try and touch me with the piss particles all over him.

I'd be no use.

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