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Original poster

Can I ask about sex and wee? At the same time?

373 replies

PintandChips · 09/06/2012 21:32

In a new relationship - he has an 'interesting' sexul request. Am not sure about it. Can anyone advise if I am being totally prudish?

OP posts:
bogeyface · 09/06/2012 22:50

Will someone PLEASE fucking tell me what happens once the peeing has been done?

Does he judge it for flavour and bouquet or what?!

Original poster
PintandChips · 09/06/2012 22:50

Ok I'm gonna do it. I will report back. Wish me luck. Not tonight though tomorrow. Gulp (him, not me).

OP posts:
Puffykins · 09/06/2012 22:50

One of my ex boyfriends was into this. We compromised. I would pee in the shower when we showered together. Not in his mouth though. Which I probably wouldn't have been able to do anyway - I can't pee on demand. You can always start in an easy fashion (I.e. Bath or shower) and then progress from there if you discover it's okay? I think a lot of men are into it - more than one would imagine. And I think that it's positive that he shares his fantasies with you.

BabylannShallFall · 09/06/2012 22:50

that should say "dry bath", not wet.

bogeyface · 09/06/2012 22:51

Does he have a wank and then gob it out? Does he expect the OP to shag him with a gobful of her excretions?!

Original poster
PintandChips · 09/06/2012 22:52

Yeah bogey, cause ,mine will taste of wine or coffee. Or both

OP posts:
BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 22:53

Interesting angle from dh...."At least he is telling you now, rather than wait til you are besotted and madley in love and telling you then. From a blokes point of view, he is just being upfront and honest, and hoping for a positive outcome"

EnjoyResponsibly · 09/06/2012 22:53

If you try it, I'd suggest you stick to half a pint with your chips if you don't want a Tsunami sitch, also does he spit or swallow

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 22:54

If he says "ooh baby thats really sweet" it might be an idea to do a diabetes test - just saying ;)

bogeyface · 09/06/2012 22:54

The friend of the landlady at our old local admitted that her BF was into this (she was v pissed when she told us :o) and she had to shag him with her on top, have her orgasm and then lean back and pee on him while he had his. She admitted she had never had an orgasm as it is impossible to do with a full bladder! From what we gathered, he couldnt get off without the pee.

She didnt come in much after that confession, but he did and never could work out why the girls all laughed and made that pssssss noise you make when you are trying to get a young child to wee :o

BelieveInPink · 09/06/2012 22:55

I'm disappointed you're not doing it until tomorrow. There's my Saturday night entertainment down the pan. Ooh how ironic!

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 22:56

madonna, my DP doesn't tend to drink it, he likes to finger me Blush sorry if thts TMI i think its more a visual thing

DonkeyTeapot · 09/06/2012 22:56

I don't normally post without reading the thread, but I'm going to on this occasion as I'm finding this quite distressing to read. (Got as far as p3.)

OP, If you're not sure, don't do it. The fact that you started the thread confirms that you're not sure. If you liked the idea, you'd have known straight away. He keeps on coming back to the same thing after you've said no? That is pressure. If you give in, what will he want next? You'd be opening the floodgates, he'd know that all he has to do is keep on "gently coming back" to it and you'll give in.

I've had some bad relationships in the past, and too many times I've done things sexually that I wasn't comfortable with, and you know what? I felt like shit afterwards. Miserable, disgusted, and ashamed of myself. Just do yourself a favour, and don't put yourself in that position.

I'm not passing judgements on anybody else's preferences, if you're happy with it, go nuts.

Apologies if what I've said has already been covered. Will see about reading the rest but no promises.

BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 22:56

Its a fact that orgasms are more intense with a full bladder Wink

Or at least not compleatly empty!

madonnawhore · 09/06/2012 23:00

No, not TMI at all. I asked!

Genuinely intrigued by how/why it's a turn on cos I don't get it at all.

If both partners are into it then all good.

If one person feels pressured or coerced into it then that's not cool.

I think OP is trying to convince herself she wants to try it, when really she just wants to hang on to this bloke.

bogeyface · 09/06/2012 23:01

Is that a fact Bonkey? She said she couldnt have one and I have to admit that I cant if I need even the smallest of wees!

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:04

Donkey, i think the OP is sort of comfortable with it, but maybe just a little freaked by it at first, wanted confirmation that it wasn't disgusting - which it isn't. We have all agreed that she has to be comfortable with it to give it a try. None of us think she should do it to keep the guy (that is my only problem with it).

If you read through the thread til the end i think you'll agree that actualy shes ok with it.

BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 23:04

If i know we are , erm, going to have some bonkey time Wink then I purposely do not go to the toilet before hand because I notice the difference.

Its all about being able to relax and not think 'oh shit I need to pee' , you body seems to forget because its concentrating on other stuff iykwim.
Something to do with pressure maybe?

I'm sure its true!

BonkeyMollocks · 09/06/2012 23:05

Take your pick

Its not just me Grin

dittany · 09/06/2012 23:08

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doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:09

oh i much prefer sex on a full bladder, and my doctor once told me its really good to do a wee after sex as it prevents UTIs (not during though!!!)

Im not sure i get why its a turn on, for him, or me (i like him to do it to me too, but i dont drink it, i have done, i dont like the taste) For me, its a bit of a submissive thing, but for him it definately isn't. In fact i just asked him but he got all Hmm that i was discussing it online Shock but says he doesn't know why. I have asked him in the past and i think it is just because its intimate and a little bit "dirty" I do have to be very turned on before it happens though.

QueenOfPlaguegroup · 09/06/2012 23:09

This just sounds like such a bad idea.

Your thing is kisses.

His thing is having someone wee in his mouth.

You don't want to kiss someone who will taste of piss (fair enough, I wouldn't either).

Therefore him getting his kicks will spoil you getting yours.

You're a people pleaser with low self esteem.

Have I missed something? What do you get out of this? Apart from the possibility of continuing a relationship with a very high probability of ending badly.

bogeyface · 09/06/2012 23:10

wanted confirmation that it wasn't disgusting - which it isn't.

except that it is Wink

izzyizin · 09/06/2012 23:11

Jeez., this thread has moved on a pace while I was out picking up a 6-pack of the offy variety.

Going to back to page 3 (appropriately) maybe you could adopt YouBrokeMyShoulder's suggestion? Turn up with a container of 'one I did earlier' and pour it into his open gob?

ROFL @ bogey's 'mouth as a bog'. As for what he does with it after, I sincerely hope he spits it out after he's used it as mouthwash and that he cleans his teeth before you engage in a post urinary coital snog.

Rather you than me, honey,and that said I can hardly contain my eagerness to read your update after you've pissed on him the golden showers event.

doggiemumma · 09/06/2012 23:12

boyface - it isn't though

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