Can I ask about sex and wee? At the same time?

[PintandChips]

In a new relationship - he has an 'interesting' sexul request. Am not sure about it. Can anyone advise if I am being totally prudish?

bit disappointing really :) not a flavour of wee or anything

Yeah, who would want sex that didnt smell like a urinal? :o

I am not vanilla all the time, but I do think it is underated. Its a bit like wanting a 5 course gourmet meal but you are too tired to cook. In that case, egg and chips can be just lovely!

thank fuck for that

Do you think you could flavour your wee?

I have drank rather alot of wine tonight, is it possible my wee would taste like a wine/wee combination? Could someone get drunk on it?

Would wee taste like twiglets if you had eaten a packet? It stinks after

PMSL at BabylannShanFall?s thorough list of potential outcomes.

Well, not PMSL, that?s an unfortunate turn of phrase in the context of the thread, but YKWIM

WTF happened to the sexual revolution? Wasn?t it supposed to be about women finding sexual satisfaction and not just being expected to do what men want them to?

I personally would not have any respect for a man with a fetish like this, sorry if that makes me narrow-minded, but I wouldn?t. The only time I?d want to piss in his mouth, would be if he?d really pissed me off about something. Oh dear I am using bad phrasing, sorry. And even then, I wouldn?t really because I?d feel ashamed of myself for being so abusive.

I don?t think you should do it because you clearly don?t want to and it sounds as though you have been socialised to believe that you should automatically consider all sexual requests as if they are equally worthy of consideration.

Unless you really fancy doing this, you really shouldn?t. This guy sounds abusive tbh - he keeps going on about sth he would like to do even though you?ve already made clear that you wouldn?t like to do it. Abuse comes in all shapes and sizes and just because it?s not constant aggressive nagging, his returning to the subject over and over again, makes it clear that he?s not going to drop it so it?s always going to be there.

You?re allowed to be single you know. It really doesn?t matter if he goes off and finds someone else who is happy to piss in his mouth.

Is my DP abusive because we like watersports?

Asparagus changes its colour. And what men eat changes how their semen tastes (from totally gopping to.....slightly less than totally gopping I suppose). So if you ate 3 hundredweight of cola bottles then I guess it would taste like sour cola cubes :o

Is my DP abusive because we like watersports?

If he hits you around the head with the surfboard, then yes.

I think Basil was talking about doing it against someones will, as a punishment for them pissing you off (no pun intended) and that would be abusive.

at bogeyface!! thats actually rather witty!

It's not about his watersport fetish doggie.

IT's about the fact that he won't STFU about it when the OP made clear to him that she wasn't up for it.

I once had a lover who suggested a threesome. I thought about it a bit, wasn't sure.

He mentioned it again, so I thought about it some more. Decided I ddin't want to.

So he STFU about it, he respected my decision and didn't feel he had the right to nag me about it or keep gently mentioning it so that it was there the whole time, causing pressure.

It's not about what he wants to do. It's about the fact that she doesn't and he won't stop pushing it.

periwinkle do you know what ? OP is a grown woman .

We are on Mumsnet not a mental health forum . This is the Internet.

We have to take things at face value.

OP I'm sure is able to source help for any issues she may or may not have.

bogey That was a corker!

Yes that too bogeyface.

It would be abusive of me to do it to someone, because I can only imagine doing it as revenge for him not loading the dishwasher or something. I wouldn't do it for pleasure, so it would have to be out of annoyance.

Which would make me a loon.

Never say yes to anything you're not at ease with , if he thinks enough of you he will realise there are a zillion and one things you could both enjoy in bed without wee being involved

Brilliant thread - particularly liked the idea of peeing in a pot and flinging it and the list of possible outcomes including farting on his chin was priceless

yes that was very funny bogey - but i must have been drinking too much (could be a good night here then!) because i just htought - why would he whack me roung the head with a surfboard after he just weed on me :) maybe its bedtime

Thanks vicar, although you dont need to sound so surprised! or do you.........? {wanders off to ponder if BF is not as witty as she thought she was emoticon}

doggie no he's not, the keyword is we. You both like it so it's not abusive. I like my DP to tie me up, he does it, not because he enjoys it per se, but because it turns me on and he likes to turn me on.

Dont forget your wetsuit Doggie :o

Couldn't help laughing at BabylannShallFall's post!!

Can't think of any other outcomes apart from those you listed BabylannShallFall, but am interested in other possibilities now you've mentioned a few because it is the only funny thing on this thread tbh.

OP, You sound as though you have talked yourself into doing this just to please your new man, and that makes me feel very for you.

I would not do something I felt uncomfortable doing merely to please a new man, and tbh, imo, if he was any decent sort of man, he would accept you have said No, and wouldn't repeatedly broach the subject until you gave in. If I was in your boyfriend's place, I can't imagine enjoying something sexually knowing that my partner was only doing it to please me and found it all rather uncomfortable themselves. Personally I wouldn't want to make someone else feel the way you clearly feel about this, and then continue to bring the subject back round to what I wanted, regardless of how my partner felt.

Maybe you are raring to try this and I have got it wrong. I do hope so.

I have a serious question.

Doggie how did you find out you liked it?

Presumably Doggie and her DH were once at a point (either together or seperately) where they had never tried this kind of thing, and then decided for whatever reason to try it. They then both found they liked it and it now forms a part of their sex life.

Who is to say that the OP wont find the same thing? She is trying it because she is curious or isnt repulsed so wont mind doing it for her BF, and she might find she likes it. Or not. The point is that she wont know unless she tries it and she is up for trying it once, so unless he is forcing her then I think the cries of abuse might be "a bit previous" as my granny used to say.

I think its the same for everyone bogey

One person says "I fancy trying that" the other either says yay or nay.

There are things that I have tried because dh bought it up. Some I liked some I didn't but I was happy to try. There are some things like peeing in his mouth that just is not and will never be for me.

~littlemiss did she actually say "NO WAY!!!" though? Or was she curious but a bit nervous? If its something he finds enhances sex and she is wavering, then he might be just evangalising.

I am not suggesting she should do anything to keep him happy, but I really do find it hard to believe that anyone would do something so different to the mainstream just to please a man they have only been with for a few weeks.

I have just realised that i am answering other peoples questions

Me neither Bonkey, I cant imagine that enhancing anything tbh, but as I said, each to their own. I am just a bit at people accusing him of being abusive.