Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Watch he really does sound great. And he's clearly dead into you. So excited for you - enjoy enjoy enjoy. You deserve it.

fuckit I had an e-mail from the same man - dodgy.

watch I am so jealous! Did you say it was OKC you met him? Were you/he looking for a relationship or FWB situation?

I have a date next weekend with a man (boy? He's 24) I met in rl, he knows I've got DS and is up for bringing a DVD over - for some reason I don't feel so inhibited about this as I would someone I met online - have any of you had similar experiences of having a first/early date at your house? Not so romantic I know, but trying to fit dates round free nights is just too much of a hassle.

Well, that's us busted then!!!!
As I said people have been getting suspect....

My mum called his morning, I told her I.couldn't stop, was on the way to Sainsburys...
When in fact I went to get him. Came home, kissed a bit ( big bay Windows) went and had couple hours sex upstairs.
At about 5 mins after I.got in, text from my mother ' are they now selling scruffy haired, leather jacket wearing men in sainsburys, was he on offer'

Clearly she thinks shes hysterical.
Ive been badgered for info. Mr lovely knows and thinks its funny. He was busted at his gig. Stupid man had only packed his gig outfit, some rock, ripped jeans, t shirt thing and came in his work stuff.... So went to his gig Sat evening in his work clothes!!! So, he was busted too and they apparently all told him well done.

But Its awkward because I dont want to label things yet.

Hes left some band stuff in my car again. Hes been leaving stuff behind every Time ive seen him for the last week.... Am wondering if It's because he wants to make sure he sees me again.

Did tell him I liked his company, and had wanted to see him today. I think he thinks I dont like him that way, or something, I can't remember what prompted it...

Anyway, then we went to the pet.shop. and then tescos.
He pushed my trolly. Kissed all the way round. Or bum grabbed, or stroked. Tescos has never been so fun.

I'm really sorry if I dip in and out. I'm finding it really hard to keep up with everyone...except watch and I think we all know whats goining on there!

Hmm...have been reading all week - thinks are certainly moving in the right direction for you watch. Am I the onlu one that automatically thinks she is happily in the arms of her man when she has been abesent for a dew hours ?

I might have been set up on a blind date in RL. Friend has been texting him constantly for the last 2 days with Blind date style questions and the results are generally very favourable. One of the first questions he was asked was what his ideal day out would be and his answer gave 2 options - with and without kids. Friends are really smitten with him (having never met him!) on the basis that his first response accomodates the potential for me having kids :). He does sound great. And I do feel as though I am on a bit of a high (can't imagine how watch is coping ). I do have a minor barrier tho. He is muslim, and although it is not a barrier per se I don't know what to expect from it which is kind of creating a physcological barrier IYSWIM.

I think we are going to meet up in a couple of weeks - in a group situation to start with. But I feel hideously scared about it. Dunno if knowing that its a friend of a friend rather than someone completely anonymous that I could date and then never meet again if that is what I decide.

But now I dunno whether to go ahead and set up an OD profile....I don't want to be disloyal.....

Haunted yes go ahead with the OD profile, if that's what you want to do, you've no reason to feel any loyalty to some bloke that your mates think you might get on with.
You're a free agent...have fun:)

haunted I second mercury completely.

So, you all have persuaded me to complete an OKC profile, do I just copy and paste my GSM one or should I make it different.

And votes please - in the "what are you looking for" box, I am going to click long and short term relationship. Should I tick the "casual sex" box?? I know most of you will say do what I want, but I am a novice at this.

Those of you on OKC, what have you ticked here, and have you noticed different responses when you tick different boxes?

I'd like to help Henrietta but I have no clue about OKC, but, as has been said before I think the profile pic is one of the most important things.

I always take a bit of time to pick what I think is a flattering photo, then I will change it for another one after a couple of days, some pictures get a better response than others for reasons I cant really identify.
But then I guess we are rarely able to see ourselves as others do!

Thanks mercury, that is interesting what you say about profile pics, a guy on GSM "liked" me and I was disinterested. Then the other day I went through the list of who "likes" me, and saw a really hot guy - it was the same man, just different pic. I am conscious of my shallowness, and yet I'm not pretty myself.

Weirdly, in rl I have no trouble attracting men, so I tell myself I'm not photogenic, but I think I must give off really horny vibes in person or something!

I will try the changing of photos thing. I find GSM really fussy though, with me at least. So many guys have hats/shades/obscure profile pics and yet mine only seem to get accepted when they are as unflattering as they come!

I'm always wary when the only face pic is one wearing shades...invariably they look 20 years older and far less cool without them

GSM are really fussy with profile pics. I've had some rejected and couldn't for the life of me work out why.

Did that guy send you the same e-mail Henrietta??!

The picture thing is interesting. I put one up of me that I didnt really like (although a couple of guys I know had liked it on FB) I got twice as many responses as with one I do like..odd.

I think it was Time who said something v funny (& true) about how you look through someone's pics & think they look ok, then you get to the last one & they look awful! You do end up wondering which is the true likeness.

I think I need slapping with the fish again. I have a date with one guy lined up this week, possibly about to arrange one with someone else too, yet am wistfully pining after the one who hasn't even asked for a date, or been online since Friday (I keep checking just to be sure ).

I'm always pining for what I cant have whilst taking for granted the things that are easily got..human nature perhaps...or just the principle of least interest/law of supply and demand?

Is there such a thing as a true likeness?
if there is then I s'pose it's going to take a talented photographer to capture the essence of a 3d living person as inert 2d image.

Maybe we should all be forced to show our passport photo's only to level the playing field..or would that just mean that no-one gets laid :o

Possibly it is human nature, grass is greener & all that. As soon as I hear from him I'll probably lose interest, its just the fact hes not been online. Or we'll go on a date and I'll never hear from him again!

I think some people take 'better' photos than others. I work with a girl who looks exactly like every photo I've seen of her, and never takes a 'bad' photo. Wish I could say the same! As for passport photos, that would be the absolute end! - mine looks like I should be appearing on Crimewatch

My passport photo was taken when I was in early stages of pregnancy with DS. I had constant morning sickness and look like I either am on drugs, or should be on drugs

I agree about photogenicity..but still what possesses some people to put such god-awful unflattering pictures of themselves in their profiles?

They say if you look like your passport photo you're probably too sick to travel.

I have just seen my ex FWB, cos he has a girlfriend but we are still good mates, but no more sleeping together or in the same bed we understand, seeing as he has a girlfriend. I want a boyfriend now!!! To be all loved up. If you know what i mean, i am only young and i should have a boyfriend. I have a mate who lives in barcelona who says they would marry me, if we didnt live so far apart. LOL. I like them but not love.

I have a date tomorrow (i checked with you guys and you told me to go, i met him on a train, but had to cancel the date cos i couldnt get a baby sitter, but i can for tomorrow!! YAY!!)

sponge - wow, two dates, and only a few days ago you were saying it was hopeless!! I really hope they go well.

mlm - good luck for your date tomorrow

sp - so, what happened to your friend? did he turn up in the end?

The photo thing is weird. mr lovely took one of me when we were at the pub sat. I swear it looked NOTHING like me.

So, an evening long phone call to mr lovely later, having spend all friday/ sat and most of sunday together.... and then a text this morning ( when he told me he couldnt sleep for thinking about the weekend and how great it had been )and im seeing him tomorrow lunch time now too. Wed seems ages away other wise.

I have to admit, im feeling fab right now. Its excedingly nice and lovely. Work collegue just told me she spotted me in tescos yesterday, ' snogging in the isles like a teenager' :) I cant quite belive that i was actually snogging in tescos isles, but there we go, previously i would have tutted if i saw someone do that, and think they were stupid. And instead, yeah. snogging in tescos.....

And snape - you will like this.... He was watching me after my shower, from the bed, and told me that i really didnt need to wear any make up and i was stunning as i was. AND, when my legs were stubbly sat morning, he went to kiss them and i was like ' oh, dont, they will be all stubbly and awful' and he was like, ' dont be so daft, and then kissed all the way up my stubbly legs'
Awesome.
Also - we half had the ' are you shagging anyone else' talk. and hes not, and im not. so, thats good.

AND i found out more about his housing situation. He lives with just his mum. His brother lives away and is married. His dad lives abroad. Hes with his mum so shes not on her own. So he does cleaning, washing, cooking etc..... so, not so bad. And hes wanting to learn to drive, i said id give him a hand, maybe take him out on some test runs, so we are going to do that too...

so, apols for filling the board with fluffy talk. Just i dont have anyone to talk about this with as yet, because, well. im not telling anyone yet.

watch stubbly legs! HE IGNORES LEG STUBBLE! marry him. now.

sponge :) go with a light heart. leave all the metaphoric crap in an imaginary rucksack by your front door. :0

I might have been a little rash and got the wrong end of the stick as regards PM & the potential move. Shall have a chat about it in the week. Long and dull story, but I may have jumped to conclusions, so we'll see what transpires. no point in agonising about it just now. :) feel a bit brighter.

MLM yes, you are young but there really isn't a 'should have a bf' about it - thats just what society is telling you - the trick is to be stunningly happy without a boyfriend. stay away from (is this another?) 'just-friends-as-he-has-a-girlfriend' even if it is just on a friendly basis, you've slept with him before, you're stroking his ego by being around him. Hope your date with new chap goes well - is it still a picnic in the park?

snape. i know!! He ignores leg stubble, likes me with no make up, and likes fanny topiary as it comes. hes a rare, rare thing. its bloody nice to know im not expected to primp and preen myself into something just to be attrative. And that actually, im fine as i am.

Will be looking forward to that story. glad you are feeling a bit brighter.

mlm - agree with what snape says.

are you shagging anyone else' talk. and hes not, and im not. so, thats good.

Why? Did you have time to?

:)

ah, what happened was i saw his back in between shaggings, and said sorry because it was rathere clawed at. he looked in the mirror at it and declared it ' rather impressive' i said sorry, it must have been me, and he said, that it wasnt going to be anyone else, hes not shagging anyone else. and i said i wasnt either. and that was that, and then we had more sex.

hence ' half talk' because i dont think that really counts as anything. but nice to know neither of us are shagging anyone else.

However since hes just booked tomorrow off and is spening my day off with me ( until DD gets home from school) i doubt he has much time for anyone else....

erm, also. Ive just remembered:
I wear alot of chunky accessories, He found a ring on my dressing table when i was getting ready, i dont wear it because its too big for my fingers. Its a bit ' rock' he tried it on, it looked fab, he asked if he could borrow it for his last gig.
And then said he liked keepsakes and stuff, and it would be nice to wear it.
Which he did, because there is a pic on his bands website and you can clearly see hes wearing my ring.

hes got it bad, dont you think?

he's wearing your ring!!