Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Well thank goodness for that.

He's really nice and younger than me, best of all he's 10 years younger than ex!

Hoops, i'm on uniform dating too. i've had a few disappearers from there...but there are nice buff bods on there!

Well, reporting back.
Had a very pleasant date at a place with a gorgeous view.

He walked with me to where I got my transport back, and suddenly put his arm around and kissed my cheek, then we properly kissed a few times before we actually got there.

Now, I didn't feel a big spark but I was not repulsed either. :)
But the issue was the tongue. It was too much down my throat! I almost gagged and had to pull back.
Do you think it's possible to teach a 50 year old to kiss?
Obviously it's him and not me! Ah, ah.

Still, I had to do some reading on the way home and I just couldn't concentrate.
Tbh, if we had been at home, I think I would have jumped on him.
There's the kissing, though...
I may need to get the sex out of the way and then see what happens.

Shame I have to study this weekend and have my period too.
Then I'll be away next week, essentially.

Lueji glad you had a good date . The kissing would be a bit of a turn off for me I think, I love kissing and it's really important to find someone who kisses you as you want to be kissed. All my long term relationships have been great kissers apart from one (and he was also very disappointing in bed).In fact I've rarely gone beyond kissing if that was disappointing. I'm not sure I would have the patience to teach anyone!

I have a date on Thursday. Not with the one referred to earlier. This one lives miles away (maybe my mistake was trying to date locals?) seems clever, funny and v solvent. He has my dream job and claims to only work 2 days a week. He is not my type looks wise (though above average) and might be a bit short. But definitely worth a few hours of my time I think :)

sponge great news, this may be the one that leads to a second date :)

I know what you mean about kissing. I had one who didn't use his tongue at all and another who seemed to be all tongue, iyswim

I'm afraid I think like you, Sponge. Which is sad.
I might give it another chance to get past the first time nerves. And excitement. Ahem...

It has been over a year since I was last with a man and that was ex.
God. I do feel horny!

some bad kissers are no hopers, sometimes you can get them to modify their technique a bit, I mean they should hopefully adjust a bit to your way of doing things?
I've had amazing kissers who were disappointing in bed and vice versa, it seems impossible to predict in advance how things are going to go when you get to the getting your kit off stage

Chaotic it might I guess, but not getting my hopes up plus Id rather get the elusive second date with someone else. we'll see. I think he will be good company though even if nothing more :)

Lueji maybe worth a second date, see if the kissing improves?

Ugh Lueji, that is my absolute pet hate - disgusting. How has he managed to get to 50 and still kiss like a 15 year old? You really are going to have to teach him some new tricks How do you feel about him otherwise? Personally I would have to feel a fairly spectacular connection with a man to be able to get past bad kissing...

Well I bit the bullet and sent Mr Handsome Architect what I hoped was a bright and breezy e-mail explaining that I was just trying to co-ordinate my plans for next Saturday and was he still up for meeting around 8.00pm?

I got an e-mail back saying yes, he would still love to meet up, and was Covent Garden ok for me?

So I guess it's still going ahead... which means I have precisely one week to go from slightly haggard to supermodel. Hmm, perhaps not.

Ooh I love a nice long tongue, but I know not everyone does.

I've been disappointed in the past when I've been asked not to put my tongue in someone's mouth.

As you said it's a case of finding someone who kissess as you want to be kissed.

DS has a cub thing today and DD has a birthday party v near to Mr Nices house. So would be rude not to pop in and see him wouldn't you think? We did talk about going for a walk but it keeps raining. So we may just stay in and discuss interesting topics of conversation. Or something....

Can I join please? Would like to have a moan about dating....

sure:)
feel free to let it all out:o

OK. been seeing someone almost 2 months. meet once weekly or so but talking (telephone) and emailing frequently. long meaningful getting to know one another stuff. was supposed to be going out this evening to meet some of his friends that are visiting - he seemed really keen that I met them. Anyway, he has a bit of a local nickname because of a hobby. On a whim, I googled it and it took me POF. I set myself up a profile and he has been on it daily for the last week. i decided to end it but didn't tell him about the POF stuff. he was very insistent that the "connection" we had was worth pursuing so i agreed to meet him but when i check today, he has been active on POF again. Is there no fucker you can trust out there? I'm in a bit of a mess about this to be honest. I was pleased to meet someone in the normal way but sodding plenty of fish seems to attract em all??

dont you just hate it when someone sends you a message, you look at the pic, dont fancy him at all but decide to send a polite 'sorry but you're not my type' reply.

Then he replies with 'thats a shame we could have had alot of fun'
of course I wont reply any more but I'd like to say, 'a shame for who? judging by your picture I'd find you replusive, how is that going to be fun for me'

.. oh now he's sent another message 'Can't be everyones type. But curious to know what yours would be '
well it sure aint you soft lad!

Another gem from today:

man
Hi,
I would love to see your lips round my cock ... X

Mercury7
in. your. dreams.

man
It was worth a shot ... Hope you find what you're after x

he just shot himself in the foot more like:o

anotherday it's tricky, it sounds as if he has given you the impression that you and he are an item, but then again unless you've explicitly agree'd that the relationship is exclusive...he's not exactly betraying your trust?

Ah no, when we agreed to start seeing one another, he asked for exclusivity!

in that case he should burn in hell
it's very upsetting, poor you:(

I think alot of people get a bit hooked on the flattery of internet dating, even if you dont actually go through with meetings it's a boost to the ego to flirt online and be reassured that you can still pull.

Will you confront him?

I have trust issues anyway and he has ruined what was a lovely start to something. I'd never be able to trust him. Twat. We did have a connection which is the stupid thing about his behaviour. oh well, he'll have to explain my absence away this evening as I'm not going out to meet his friends. thanks for listening :-)

I have male friend coming round again tonight! He's rang me last night to see if I was ok and that he would like to see me this weekend.

I just have to ring him when I'm ready. Having a quick tidy up then a bath then think ill be ready. Don't know what else I need to do so that will be it.

Fanjo, good for you! Have fun.....

Thank you another

I've had some shit experiences with men lately. Might have found a good one finally. Known him since school.

Oh, I don't mind tongues at all.
It's just that it was too much in, IYKWIM. It made me gag.
But then I gag easily, which is not very handy for bjs.

Not only getting to 50, but also being married and having a daughter!

This was the second date.
I think there might be a third. I want to see if he can open up and relax a bit about the kissing too.
Otherwise we seem to get along well.

He has sent a short message saying he liked it yesterday and if I did too. :-)
(I was dreading some dirty talk, as he was well up for it when I left)

First MN test:passed, sort of. When asked about his ex and his divorce he didn't say she was a witch.
Either he was hurt, or he was to blame and doesn't want to talk about it.

Worst case scenario, it will give me some practice being back with men.

PS - do you think the size of the tongue matches you know what?

Fingers crossed for you Fanjo.
And on your behalf Anotherday.

Good on you Fuckit, and fingers crossed too that it will go well.

And Mercury, I'm amazed you still reply. Very funny though.

Luej, I dont think there is a reliable way of knowing the size of his equipment in advance!