Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

For a quick update on the kissing date. It was awesome, he's fucking lovely and has just left so I think it's fair to say it went quite well. Really shocked in a weird way, I have a string of recent bad relationships under my belt with people who made me feel pretty shit about myself. So had pretty low expectations. He makes me feel like I'm awesome and that he likes me just the way which is a refreshing change

away so glad you had a good date. I used to feel like utter shite around men now I flaunt myself. Oh yeah baby girl is back! It gets me lots of attention and it makes me feel attractive (which after 5 years of being told you are fat and ugly you need- I am a size 10 ffs!)

I love being kissed.

Libby yes, join POF. I had no luck on GSM at all, on POF there is a LOT of crap. But you will get a lot of messages, be prepared to have to delete and block at least half immediately, and a few more after a couple of messages when they show their true colours!

That said Mr Chicken is on there and he seems almost astonishingly normal so far. He can spell, is polite & funny - he has said I'll have to come round and meet his chickens - hoping thats not a euphemism!

I suspect though I won't fancy him. Meh.

It's sort of funny now because I am evaluating men in MN style.

Eg: "my DD is beautiful like her mum"
My thoughts: is he still in love with her or us he just nicely self deprecating?

Thanks for the stroke tip. :o It wouldn't translate properly, but I could ask for practicing on my back.

Sadly, although my current physical activity involves lots of getting down and personal with men (women too), they are all too married or too young.
I was thinking of inviting said teacher to try it out.
I might not be able to let go if I got my legs around him, though. Sigh! It would be embarrassing.

Milk go for it! I am 32 and seem to attract a lot of young men in their early 20s - I don't really get why that is, and so far it hasn't gone anywhere, but I'm willing to give it a go! I reckon in my mind I am still that age...

So a lot of you seem to be on POF, I have a profile but I never go on there, it does seem to be mainly full of creeps - am I wrong? Anyone got tips for success on that site? Also, are most of you free members or upgraded?

Keys there are alot of people on POF, probably they are like the population in general, ie most of them will be 'unsuitable' or 'just not your type'
you just have to spot the ones who are suitable and ignore the rest :)

Hatesponge when you say you had no luck at all on GSM, what do you mean? Did you not go on any dates? No-one on there that interested you? Do you mind me asking whether you're in the London/South east area, as I think that makes a huge difference as to how successful Soulmates might be.

I met two guys off of gsm, both genuinely lovely, just not for me. Think i might go and have a look...

Definately agree with location being important re GSM, I live 'oop north' and whilst I went on some dates and had a couple of short things with men, the pool seems very small if you want someone relatively local.

I'm on GSM and it's incredible how the majority of the profiles bang on about London as if it's some brand new phenomenon... some people on there do come across as a bit elitist.

I've met a couple of guys, mercury I agree with your summary - I guess it's the same anywhere!

For those of you who didn't get to my latest blog post, here's an account of my experience

I just signed up to POF to see what the local options are and immediately got hit with a barrage of messages of the "hi how r u" variety. I hate text speak. Did get a nice message off someone local, which I'm sure he sends to everyone, but it was at least written nicely.

He's probably a serial killer.

well here's my dodgy profile of the day:

www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35526522

check the 'about me' section...
'Pay off your debts by modelling for me.'

I have a date off GSM on the 23rd. A rather handsome architect is taking me out for dinner. Woo hoo!

If I start crash dieting now, I wonder if I can lose the jelly belly in two weeks (strokes chin thoughtfully...)

Reporting back from today's hunting expedition.

The guy I actually met was in contact.
He is a prosecutor, apparently, who actually knows the president of a small african country. Apparently.

I had an msn date, who never seemed to be online, but his name was updated on my computer and I never got an invitation until late.
His e-mails are odd and he is 13 years older. I think I'll drop him.

Then I got chatting with someone else. Only 10 years older. Somehow managed to tell him about ex and DV. He specifically asks for someone with no emotional baggage, but he did put me on his favourites, so, of course, I sent him a message telling him "I'm probably not the person then". :o
Although I explained that I have baggage, just not emotional. Somehow he did invite me for coffee and gave me his e-mail and phone number. He doesn't have a picture (first day) but we should meet soon on msn.

And as I was logging off another guy I had e-mailed earlier also sent a message.

And I have a question. For some reason, I have noticed lots of Aries men claiming to be attractive (not IMO). Ex is an Aries and he was convinced he was a god to women.
Do you think it's something in the moon in March/April?

Oi! I'm an Airean not sure I think I am Gods gift to women ....or men.

Whats wrong with that one mercury7...nice pert butt...or do you think that is one of his models

Still haven't plucked up courage to write a profile...but getting there. Need a list of dos and don'ts from a newby please.

Fuckitthatlldo
don't men like jelly bellies?

Mercury7
LOL. He did state: "isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment"
Not sure why he bothers stating the colour of his eyes, though. Hazel. Not even brown.

Haunted, maybe it's only men. Or maybe I only notice Aries.

I have only written mine this weekend after being online two or three weeks.

It's hard describing ourselves, isn't it?

Weirdly awake, quick post...

I have had the most fucking fantastic weekend. Fri as you know was amazing.
Sat I went horse racing and saw mcfly and threw pants and had an absolute scream :) stayed up till 3am , drinking wine with an old friend, desipte only 3 hours sleep the night before. Then, when she left at lunchtime, Mr lovely came over, and we had a walk in the park, ice cream and snogging like teenagers on the green and then a whole afternoon of amazing sex. And then a shower together...... :)
And then it seems he left his wallet at mine, so dd is off to the childminder abit early, I'll be a bit late for work, and we are meeting for breakfast :)
( date 9!!!!!!!!!!)

Having an absolutely fun time with him. He told me he likes me, lots.... And yeah, sort of vague plans about stuff we want to do keeps coming up....

Its just been an all round fab weekend, despite only 6 hours sleep in 2 nights :)

Oh, and I had a text, predictably from ykw. I deleted it without reading it :)

Sounds amazing Watch, I'm thrilled you're having so much fun.

I've had a few texts with my 'date' from sat afternoon, with promises of more to follow.

More interestingly have had many texts from the man from south yorkshire who'd gone a bit cold on me the other week.
I think he's lovely and was upset that he'd gone cold but chalked it up to experience.
Now, I think he's got the possibility of being a 'keeper'.
We were on skype til the early hours on sat night and texting til late last night.
Once we can coincide childcare we'll meet up, hopefully.

I've never had so much attention from the opposite sex, I'm really enjoying it.

Aw Watch that's great. Sounds like you're having loads of fun - enjoy. x

Watch all sounds fab - hurray :)

I have a date on Weds with a fireman. Certain reservations about him but we shall see. We spoke on the phone for a bit yesterday evening and he seems nice. He text me last thing to say goodnight and just now to say he hoped I have a good day at work :) May also meet Mr Chicken at some point, and have another couple of potentials. None of whom will inevitably want to see me beyond date 1 of course!

Hurrah for Watch & her completely awesome weekend. You are on a roll girl!!! In every sense.
Great news about MLM meeting up with her friend.
Glad you have a date on Wednesday with a fireman Sponge! am not going to make any hose jokes

Waves to everyone else.

Memberships of DatingDirect & Match have expired, so I've deleted my profiles with them & now trying to decide which site next. Thinking of starting my own site: Spuds Not Allowed. Do you think I'd get many takers?!

sponge - thats great!! dont be feeling negative about it not getting past date one, go in with an open mind. And then judge only based on how you got on. Try hard not to let your brain run away and discount not seeing them again based on silly things like shoes ( not saying you do that, but you know...)

child - have you heard from sats date?

Had breakfast, damn mr lovely makes me hot, cant keep my hands off him.........

post - i think that would be a great site!!!