Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

bloody hell and I thought the ones who message me were weird!

that is seriously odd

I dont want to think about it too much...he was very polite mind you just messaged with a comment about my profile and said that he thought he'd be too sexually open minded for me
'open minded' in this instance is clearly a euphemism for completely beyond the pale.

On a lighter note I've had quite a few nice messages from non potatoes since I resurrected my profile:)

Hey all,

Whew, it's been weeks since I was here. Hope everyone is well.I don't know if there is even any point in me trying to catch up with everything. I will give it a go though.

I have a terrible confession to make. I have started (very casually I hasten to add) dating someone. Nothing too shocking there I here you all say, but here comes the bad part. I am 33 years old, he is...20

I'm concerned I'm going to get arrested and/or go to hell for it. I really should stop it but my God the sex is hot.

I am a terrible human being. Last weekend I had sex with him in the morning, and then Mr Open relationship came round on the night and I shagged him as well

I'm honestly not normally such a trollop. I think I might need spaying!

I dont see what the problem is Milk you're a free agent you can do what you want, life is for living, fill your boots:):)

That's fantastic Milk, go for it.

Weirdo. And after clicking on that I ended up messaging someone. Grrr bad habit. He is fit though. Won't hear back anyway.

I think I may have been able to fill a pair of boots this afternoon!

Thank you ladies

I am getting lot's of jokes about Cougars etc off my best friends, but I actually really like this guy/boy. Of course I know it's never going to go anywhere but at least I can teach him a thing or two in the meantime

it doesnt have to 'go anywhere' to be worth doing, isnt the enjoyment of doing it enough? :)

Oh milk ENJOY!!! you are a single woman you can shag whoever you like whenever you like (or so I was told) though I don't suppose that includes the person I want it to.

A nice quote:

"it takes a minute to like someone, an hour to love someone but to forget someone takes a life time"

I haven't forgot my first love. Ah how I wish I could, but I also can't turn back time. Still love him, always will. Much love to A x

I think I have cornered the market in potatoes, weirdos and pervs though thankfully no pet fetishists. Getting bored now, only Mr Chicken seems even slightly normal but I really cant tell from his blurry photo if I'd actually have any attraction. Probably not.

Oh, on the point of messaging men first, making first move etc, I have messaged 20 men today (and before anyone jumps on me, no not all ridiculously good looking or anything - above average yes, but very much the kind of guys who'd chat me up in RL). Got one reply - and he was utterly half-hearted. So I'm not sure from that if most men do want women to approach them...

Milk good for you :) I seem to have loads of under 25s messaging me this evening. The fact I'm old enough to be their mum makes it a bit icky. One was 19, I have shoes older than him

I've never ever messaged anyone, not saying it isnt a good idea but I just cant be arsed.
Right now I've profiles on a couple of sites and am just using it as light entertainment when I'm at a loose end.

My current aim is to try and date as many men as possible in the hope I might find one who maybe wants to see me a 2nd time hence being proactive, but not convinced on todays evidence that it works.

second 3some offer today...does my profile look bisexual?

have you tried skyping before you meet people Sponge I'm thinking it might help to establish chemistry or not?
Bit worried the bloke will just try and get his equipment out before I can switch the thing off tho :o

I wouldnt know how to skype!

To be honest theres almost always chemistry (or if not theres a fairly mutual lack of attraction) and they clearly find me attractive, they just never want to see me more than once, that's the puzzle!

I must be doing something wrong with my selection process?
..most of the blokes I meet I just dont fancy, I'm thinking some sort of video call will help to give me a better idea of whether I'm likely to find them attractive

Sorry not coming on here for dating but to announce that I will get to see my best friend next week! WHO I LOVE! yay yay yay yay.

Sorry. Very excited. We live far apart.

MLM, so pleased to hear that. Yay for best friends!

Mercury, I find the same as you - most of the men I meet I just don't fancy. (And the few that I do fancy don't fancy me - typical!)

*Sponge", Mr Chicken (love the name!) sounds like he might be worth chatting with/meeting for a coffee.

Meanwhile, I'm probably going to delete my profile from GSM as it's getting no interest. I might try POF but not sure if I'm brave enough!!

be brave Libby, we will hold your hand :)

Well that fit bloke I messaged yesterday whilst looking at dog weirdo on pof has messages me back. Today is going well.

Joining up this thread, as I have decided to start dating after over 1 year of being separated.

I have joined online dating too and had one date. Mixed results. The jury is still out, but we are talking about a second. I think he was a bit nervous or shifty about personal life (kid). The second date will make or break it I think.
I also seem to attract older men. 7 years older and more.
Not necessarily a bad thing. My ex was 4 years younger!
I'm using online dating to get some practice and confidence and who knows?

I also got chatting with what seemed a nice guy who often works abroad. He took some time to reply to the first email message (he gave me his work email and Facebook link) and went abroad at the last minute. He should have returned by now.
I'm guessing he was drunk and is now regretting it. :o

On real life, I had a close encounter with ds' dreamy swim teacher at a petrol station. Apparently he lives just around the corner and goes there for coffee (country). I usually go there for petrol that day and approximate time. God, I felt like a teenager!

I suspect I'll start stalking said petrol station.
He seems younger and I don't know if he is in a relationship. Nor have any idea of how to approach him. He is really friendly, and is great with the kids. DS already likes him. :o
He is also tall and muscled. ExH would probably be scared of him.

Any tips? Apart from jumping on him? Classes are only till the end of the month, although he is likely to continue next year.
I was thinking of using the open lane and show off my swimming skills. Maybe ask for personal training?

Btw, I was in my work out gear and possibly sweaty, although I think I don't stink.

The top was tight and showed my curves, though. I'm quite skinny, but with breasts (30D or 32C/D) and hips.

ask the swimming teacher to help you improve your stroke :o
(sorry, couldnt resist)

Go swimming pretend to drown, he jumps in saves you, you owe him a drink. Simples. although that could back fire in either a old chap jumping in or you drowning.