Do you think he will hurt me?

[singlemum2012]

I am newly and unexpectedly single, separated for a while but ex-dh only moved out 6 months ago so I am fairly new to dating. Ex-dh was first boyfriend so not very experienced.

Have started seeing this guy. Sex is fantastic, we began the relationship as a friends with benefits thing as he is a bit younger than me and doesn't want kids, fine with me and scratches an itch till I find someone more suitable for long-term. But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things and I can't figure out whether he is not safe to be around or just messing with me. I only see him on weekends when I don't have my kids, he has never been to my house and does not even know my address.

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer. He said he was putting up pictures, and there were pictures on the floor, but he never got around to it and I didn't see any nails, I just had the feeling he was doing it on purpose to scare me. He has cooked for me twice and both times has loaded the meals with as much fat as he possibly can, food fried in stupid amounts of lard, with gold top milk and cream and alcohol added. He told me one of his girlfriends put on two stone in six months when she lived with him. He's skinny and I noticed he ate less than half of his portion. He makes a big deal over the fact that he likes offal, raw meat and black pudding and is a huge attention seeker, when I am with him he is really wearing, he wants my attention all of the time, even keeping me awake most of the night and not letting me sleep. If it wasn't for the fabulous sex I would have run, would like to stay for this but I can't figure out whether he is a harmless attention-seeker pretending to be a dark and dangerous guy or whether he is actually dangerous. He drinks like a fish as well, has no friends (he says), wears black all the time and has decorated his house with weapons (he has good job and own house). He texts me all the time when I am not with him. I feel I don't have enough experience to evaluate him...my head says run but my heart wants the attention / the intimacy / the great sex.

Your opinions please??

Oh but he's been google checked so I wouldn't worry really. Have at it.

Run like fuck.

He doesn't know your address? good. Keep it that way.

don't hook up with someone that you even feel is trying to get a rise out of you - why would you do that to yourself?

Life is too short to hang around with someone who makes you feel uneasy.

Assuming he is just an attention seeker and not a dangerous person - why carry on with him anyway?

Are you lonely? I'm not judging, I'm just wondering why any old weirdo will do. Do you think that your recent divorce has knocked the stuffing out of you and you just want, well, anyone who seems to want you?

not my first post, I've been on here for years and years, just changed my handle

Run. Like. The. Wind.

You realise he's probably a werewolf don't you. Or had you thought of that already?

He is either a tiresome attention seeker, bordering on mental or you are way over thinking things and in fact a massive attention seeker yourself (the abusive bastard cooked me really calorific food....waaah!) or the truth could be somewhere in the middle.

I dont think any of that is important though, it cant be good for your self esteem to keep shagging a person you fundamentally arent all thst keen on.

Is his name Patrick?

He decorates his house with weapons?

Have you thought about buying him a set of paint brushes?

He sounds unstable and unpredictable .
Sounds to me as though he could have a personality disorder .

of course I'm bloody lonely. and I don't do random hook-ups, been there done that, its empty and sad and makes me feel even worse. I want someone that is going to still want to know me the next day, and he ticks that box even if he has issues.

Where did you find this specimen?

Singlemum, not one person who has posted has said to give him the benefit of the doubt. Everyone thinks you should find someone who isn't living his life like a fictional character.

Someone on MN has actually seen a werewolf haven't they? Can anyone remember who?

Animal magnetism??
Barf

Why would you want to be with someone who has no friends?

I AM keen on him, that is the problem. he's the sexiest person I ever met in my life. just a tad eccentric. ok maybe more than a tad.

oh. x-post. Well. That's ok then.

Can you hear yourself?

He's a great big weirdo but the sex is really great and he's pretty.

Really? You'll put up with hammer boy because of good sex?

Your funeral, love. So to speak.

I hope that you take another look at your situation and make a different choice.

My now-ex collected 'decorative' knives and swords. I made him sell them when we moved in together, as I didnt think we needed things like that around with the DC.

@IneedAbetterNicknameIn2012 - exactly. loads of men collect weapons.

There are absolutely tonnes of really nice single men out there. You just seem stuck on this oddball.

Are his soft furnishings made from human skin???

Having an amazing cock does not stop someone being an axe murderer....