No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

Really sorry to hear that sp last minute and all grrr

Well thanks guys, you've convinced me not to cancel, esp you harlot. Next question, do I warn them in advance or just act as though it's not there? Oh I'm rubbish at dating etiquette :D

Productive day today, applied for 5 jobs, saw another one which I'll work on over the weekend as it needs a bit more than the generic CV and covering letter. Made my bathroom look like a scene from Psycho for a while and am now a redhead

Actually I wouldn't bother mentioning it, he probably won't even notice it unless you draw attention to it. The only time I would mention it is if he goes to kiss you.

Oooh, forgot to say I got another email from Mr Oasis and have replied to it :)

Sp. Its only through a ton of experience and it happening to me loads of Times..It's awful when you have begged family to babysit, they have had to make special effort, you spend 2 hours getting ready, only to hear 30 mins before that It's off. So then you have to cancel the babysitter and look like a tit. It's horrible
If he wanted to rearrange he most likely would have said straight away. At the latest he will ask today. But it's unlikey you Will hear from him.again I expect. Sorry :(,

Actually, don't even mention it, That would just draw attention to it.

Chaotic, love red hair@!!!!!!!!!

Sponge, door man back today? Is today full of party prep :)

Sorry, notsure. If hes making you feel uncomfortable after one dste I think you.just need to dump him..just text him to say you are sorry, but It's not working for you, but you wish him well. And then don't.engage in any further texts, phone calls etc.

Urgh, I remember one of the worst ones, this might make you feel better sp.

Was going to meet someone, was long distance.

Actually - I agree, don't mention it! No point in making him look for something he might not actually notice :)

Chaotic, well done with the job applications, and dyeing hair as well! I love red hair too, though have concluded that dark brown/plum is probably more me.

Watch, he's not back today sadly. Today I have to clean and tidy my house from top to bottom, finish off some odd bits of DIY, change the beds, try and do some stuff in the garden (if it holds off raining long enough) And I have 3 estate agents coming round to give me a valuation - mediator asked me to do this before last appt. I feel tired just thinking about it!

door man will be back at 8am tomorrow though :) he has fixed my toilet and all the rooms upstairs now have doors, it is fab. He's done lots of little extra bits too, which he didn't need to. Inevitably he's going to have a girlfriend. Or only be about 25.

I had taken a day off work ( like an idiot) arranged for my mum to finish her work an hour early so she coukd get dd from nursery for me. Dd's dad was specially coming 1 hr 20 mins each way to collect her and he had taken a day off work. My mum was having my dog, so I'd dropped him off along with beds, food etc.
the car is full of petrol, ive brought all new clothes...
And then he cancells an hour before I'm due to leave. I cancel everyone else and they are cross at me. And it embarassing.
But, he rearranged. So I go through it all again. And he cancelles AGAIN!!!! This Time I don't cancel everyones help because They were cross and I actually want the ground to swallow me up.
The third Time I did actually get to meet.him, although he was an hour late, so after all that, and 3 hours drive, I had to sit in a car park for an hour.
I was an idiot. Functioning blindly on dating naievity.

Now.It's mostly day time dates only, when I'm.already childfree. In a 15 Mile raduis of my house.

And if they cancel once, then I don't give them a second chance.

Doors AND loos.. goodness :)

Sounds fab. Bar the valuations.

And you are up early, like me!!! Morning birthday sponge :)

Sometimes I wonder if men are worth the hassle! Nothing from who was going to be next weeks date. Never mind its okay I suppose. Mr non potato still texts occasionally and a couple of previous dates. Just asking how I am and if I am up to anything.

Morning :)

I've had a chance to check out my hair in natural light and it's come out a dark red which I'm quite pleased with. I have to go and sign on this morning then off to see a friend for the day.

Like watch I had a date that let me down twice, although I didn't have all the hassle of arranging childcare. I cut contact at that point but saw him on the site a few weeks later and ended up arranging a date with him which he did keep. It never went anywhere and now I wouldn't do that again. Unlike watch, depending on who it was, the reason for cancellation, I may agree to one rearrange but no more but that's mainly because I did have to rearrange once myself.

we need to see a pic of your hair!!! sounds lovely ;)

I would consider a rearrange, if i thought it was real, and they said sorry and wanted to re arrange there and then. But if its just a ' im not going to make later' or ' something has come up' a ' i have to work' or ' my nana is ill' or whatever crap they say - then no ;) but to be honest, they dont tend to ask again anyway! lol

I have my cinema thing later - :) and one of the men has dropped out and another girl is coming, so thats better.

AND its meant to be sunny on my boat date tomorrow. Which im kinda looking forward to.

I'm bored with mine being dark red, thinking of going back to dark brown. :)

Amongst all the pensioners I've found a lovely, but the cheapskate chap doesn't have a subscription, probably wont take one out until he gets paid (if at all) and in the meantime I am thinking of ways to circumnavigate the Times' overly restrictive contact details swapping by inbox message blocking thing. (dating)email address immediately blocked, as was typingitalllikethiswithoutan '@' and subtle pointing to other (perfectly safe) ways of internet contact..

I am aware that this would be me doing all the running, so won't actually contact the bod again until he manages to scrape together the ££ to contact me, if he should so wish, but I hate being beaten by the internet! Grrr!

Contemplating elaborate enigma style code in profile that spells out email address by suspoSedly rAnDom capitalisation, but (1) looks and is desperate (2) will be abnned if the site twigs, which is akin to just burning £32 (3) ball is clearly in his court Vs. (1) he isnt 70. (2) Has Johnny Depp hair (3) I will need to have sex at some point and I would quite like it to be someone who doesnt get a free TV licence.

Snape have you got a spare sim card? You could use the number for them to contact you for you to give an email address. Tell them the number isn't in use for other forms of contact until some sort or relationship is established. You can give the number over as in 'zero five two...'.

Long winded yes, but like you, I don't like to be beat! Especially by money grabbing dating sites.

Or, how about using numbers in word form with each number representing a letter of the alphabet! So Snape@hotmail would be 'Nineteen fourteen one sixteen five at...' and so on.

i have come across an elobrate code, with the caps lock, but it spent out something lame like ' i love you' so i just puked a little in my mouth instead of contacting him :)

could you write it on different lines like
snapethemagnificant
at
hotmail
dot
com

( not that thats your email address, just an example.)

or
snapethemagnificant, at the dot com mail which is hot.

or,
ive a dot com, in a hot place, i like mail.
im also snapethemagnificant.

though of course you run the risk of looking like a loon if they dont get it.

OR can you join every other free dating site and look for him? last year i found two i liked on match, they werent subscribed, found them on pof. Confessed to them that i had seen them on match, - in case they thought was some kind of stalker. only to be told by both of them they dont use it, because they refuse to pay. But their profiles are still up.

Yeah, that's a good idea! You could send a message 'meet me on POF'.

i dont feel quite as sad or stalkery now ladies, thank you!

I dont like the idea that some sweaty little so and so in an office is monitoring my messages. it must be a person rather than a computer programme as I was that obtuse.

not really ready for the text messagey thing and think they are now monitoring my messages extra closely. shall obviously give the glorious man 24 hours before i do anything esle. I have obviously googled him for other free dating sites and all other manner of internet jiggery pokery...

I shall not be defeated! I am stubborn!

I would be cross too, you have less freedom to exchange details on the paid sites than you do on the free sites! And now you focus has switched from finding Posh Cock to finding a way to beat the moderator. I just knew this would end in your tears, i just knew it!

I know, I know! Post a pic of you wearing a T shirt with your email address on it!! Or, get your email address tattooed on your forehead! Perfect!

could you just be really brave and just send a message that says

' such and such coffee shop, such and such time'
and then explain in a short and witty way why you want to get around paying.

then go there and wait. and hope he got the message and finds it all a bit richard curtis film like, rather than just totally weird ;)

in fact, id do that :)

his profile says where he hangs out.

it's very near where I work.

they have a happy hour between five and seven...

there will be no tears, time there will be a protracted war of attrition until I defeat the evil empire!!

just checked as many free sites as possible (including reactivating sodding okcupid membership, which it wont let me deactivate for a week) and he's not on any. he might actually be a figment of my imagination.

right snape. you know where he hangs out, its near your work, and your work finishing time.
YOU HAVE TO GO.

If i can do this stupid cinema thing and face someone ive turned down TWICE in the interst of making other, new friends. then you can do this.

You do know, don't you, that all this effort to track him down, all this excitement, will result in huge disappointment when you find yourself sat across from www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-566.htm or even www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-574.htm