wow. im sorry, but im seriously shocked at the 1950's attitudes on here, its almost as if womens lib never happened.
For a start there is nothing wrong with wanting sex. A rabbit or any other sex toy does in no way replace another warm, human being, interactive body. And a healthy, active woman has needs. those needs are not wrong, as without them there wold be no desire to reproduce. To go so long being ' sex straved' is actually very very difficult so i dont think any one can be blamed for occassionally jumping into bed with somone from the off.
I agree with mrs cello, a lot of posters are failing to grap the fact that an arse hole is an arsehole. You can date someone and they run after sex, weather you hold out till date 15, date 5 or the first night, if thats all they want, then that is all they want and the is bugger all you can do about it. You cannot make somone fall in love with you by with holding sex and to suggest you with hold if to get his attention is also wrong, if we follow this train of thought, perhaps we should be droping our hankies and blushing if a man catches our eye.
Internet dating is a numbers game. Most people dont read the profile in any case, as sponge proved up thread whwere she changed it and within mins got the same, if not worse reponise from the same kind of men. No amout of fancy hair dos and polo neck jumpers will change this and in fact would attract a man so boring i would expect sponhe would rather watch paint dry.
So - she slikes to party, and likes shoes, but she also has a rockin job and is clever as hell. these are not mutually exclusive traits and to suggest she can be one or the other, or should only date one or the other type is absurd.
And to those women that ripped her to shreds, calling her a slapper, you shold be ashmed of yourselfs. There was a rel person posting, a real person who was fed up of dickheads treating her craply. esp so when she had made it clear no sex was on offer, yet you all blamed her and told her it was her own fault for ' looking cheap' way to go, esp with the ched awareness.
adams - you ARE judgemental. you are ' dating' an emotionally unavaliable man who you only dumped a few weeks ago because he treats you so badly. These were your words and you know he wont committ to you and you want him too. Essentially you are trading your happiness to be with someone who wont even officially date you and is using you for sex and taking you out to dinner.... Im afraid a one night stand where both parties are on even footing is less hurtful and self esteme damaging that what you are currently doing. but, like you, im not being judgemental... each to their own [ confused]
to the posters that say she should mention her children. wow, shocking again! im sure she has listed she has children on the tick boxes, but being a mother does not define her, nor shape her personality. and yes, while it may come up in conversation is not something any o ne wold recommed to blater on about in her profile. and im also horriffied someone suggest she should change jobs becuse its ' too intimidating' to men.
If you trawl through this board there are 100's posts about how crap online dating is, and how bad the odds are, occassionaly there is a sucess story. That give people hope it may one day happen for them. The people that stike it lucky automaticalyl assume they are gru's on the subject and lecture those about how rubbish they are and how they are all knowing. Well, im afraid that is a ton of crap. Its just luck, meeting the right person, at the right time. Its not down to polo neck jumpers or not liking towie or living like mary whitehouse until a knight in shining armour comes to your rescue and whatever you do, dont show the knight any clevage, he cant be trusted