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RIGHTS AND WRONGS OF THIS

181 replies

Putthatbookdown · 07/05/2012 07:25

wHERE i WORKED BEFORE IT was common for colleagues to ask each other home for dinner etc I asked a younger colleague and thought she would refuse being 10 years younger etc she would have more to do,She immediately asked if she could bring a friend but gave no details. This girl came along -also much younger and nothing in common with me -nothing against her but little in common re intersts, background etc HOWEVER she was keen to meet me I asked why she had been broughtt here and the reply was "the Church* but the girl was an atheist.Other family members/friends did not like her. I could not have invited her to my home as I did not know her could I?But the girl said I had been told about her and that is why I invited her Rubbish I was told nothing about her As these 2 were close friend I think the likelehood was she was told about me and the other one wanted to meet me otherwise she would have refused the invite: please adjudicate on this .

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 07/05/2012 13:36

Btw, what happens over ten years that you suddenly lose all touch with the rest of humanity? Should I expect it to happen soon?

happybubblebrain · 07/05/2012 13:39

It's all a bit martian.
My best advice would be that you have a little lie down and a think about things. Then never to speak to these people ever again as they are obviously confusing you. Then never invite people to your home ever again just in case they bring someone that has nothing in common with you. And, whatever you do don't go anywhere near a church.

HillyWallaby · 07/05/2012 13:39

No. No. Atheist 2 is a billy no-mates - not wayward.

Oh dear. Really am crying now. Can this go in classics please?

ravenlocks · 07/05/2012 13:45

This thread has cheered me up no end. Not laughed so hard since the "should I punch my BIL coz he is Canadian" thread. this one reminds me of that one in so many ways

tribpot · 07/05/2012 13:47

Ah yes, the Canadian classic. Of course, the BIL there was also a tee-totaller (god knows how, with that family to deal with). I wonder if that is the Christian's great crime as well.

coffeeinbed · 07/05/2012 13:49

No, guest 2Atheist and OP got into a discussion as to who was supposed to be told about the other one and who was supposed to better the other one which was unchristian of Guest1 who is Christian.
They must have loved each other's company so much. Grin

And then some sherry was clearly had.
How come I never get invited to dinner parties lake that? [whinges]

tribpot · 07/05/2012 13:50

Right so you think the Christian set the two atheists up to have a 'who is the better atheist' competition?

coffeeinbed · 07/05/2012 13:52

No, I think she set them up in a "who hates the other one more" competition.

coffeeinbed · 07/05/2012 13:53

Which may or may not have anything to do with the atheist angle.

HillyWallaby · 07/05/2012 13:54

I am a bit freaked out by some random old colleague just inviting young people home from work that they have nothing at all in common with, just because it was 'quite common to do that' in her last job. Confused

Right. I'm going to have another bash.

The young colleague was religious and she asked if she could bring along Billy No Mates (not forward). She was trying to be a good samaritan, or Friends Matchmaker for Billy by foisting her onto a new set of people. She did this because she was Christian and she thought it was a good thing to do for someone who had no mates. The OP didn't like Billy and as an aestheist sees no reqason why she should have to play a part in her social rehabilitation (because as an aetheist she is wicked and heartless) and she was generally cross about the foisting.

There. Am I right? Am I even close?

tribpot · 07/05/2012 13:55

But why would they hate each other Confused - here once again we return to the shadowy involvement of 'the Church' in all this. I quote: "HOWEVER she was keen to meet me I asked why she had been broughtt here and the reply was "the Church*".

HillyWallaby · 07/05/2012 13:57

It's really scary actually. Now I come to think of it. Shock

It sounds like the beginnings a sinister of a film. Like the Wicker Man. Shock

storminabuttercup · 07/05/2012 14:03

Was the op the one who wanted to punch her canadian bil? Cos that's not very Christian either!

coffeeinbed · 07/05/2012 14:08

I was trying to say what Hilly just said.
The OP assumed G2A knew all about her (OP) from G1Chr and G2A assumed OP knew all about her(GP2A) from G1Chr.
They disliked each other and OP thinks it's G1's fault for not anticipating it.
Trying to fit the Church bit in this, failing miserably.

Off ti hunt down and eat that last Easter Egg I was saving. Seems very fitting.

HillyWallaby · 07/05/2012 14:16

YES do not invite these people to dinner you mean ...actually it is v sad.. The Church - yes this is interesting-- the idea was I the atheist was to do good for the univited girl I think. We tested it out and the uninvited girl had no social life or anything actually She was here to get off me , to get better which is of course not a Christian thing to do. This was not friendship but social work!!! Sad that people have to do thes things What interests me is why the colleague who is religious did not have a life at the church - why bother with an atheist??

I just had to cut and paste that whole post again. Just because. It's a work of surrealism. I could look at it for hours.

winefairy · 07/05/2012 14:20

I don't think the OP would have served moussaka, after all.

I had merely stated that when I invited people from where I used to work for dinner, those who had the audacity to accept and bring young atheists with them were always served moussaka.

However, in this case I think the OP has too much deep seated resentment that her invitation had been accepted to serve moussaka. It's quite a labour of love what with all the layering and bechamel sauce. I think she would have been in too much inner turmoil to saute aubergines for atheists.

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 14:22
Grin

Tis truly a wondrous few lines

QueenKong · 07/05/2012 14:30

OP - Was this actually an episode of 'Come Dine With Me?' and you've got confused? Would explain the cooking for random strangers with opposing world views...

Actually, I think I've seen that one, a Christian and a couple of Atheists. Wasn't there also a vegan who got a bit put out when someone used non-vegetarian gelatine in the trifle but didn't tell her?

RabidAnchovy · 07/05/2012 14:37

Confused.com

LadyBeagleEyes · 07/05/2012 14:45

I wonder if the young athiest was Sharon the hoor.
I'm waiting to hear about the wine and the dead wasp very soon.

Bumdrop · 07/05/2012 15:01

each time I read this, it gets funnier and Funnier !! please come back OP
I'm dying to hear some more !

Chandon · 07/05/2012 15:20

OP, I want to know where you are from?

Could it all be due to a "cultural misunderstanding"?

The Canadian BIl, was that the thread where the OP had to face Christmas with the in laws, and they always smack her bum and throw pine cones at each other, and then she went to hide with BIL who was odd? Or something?

tribpot · 07/05/2012 15:28

No, the Canadian BIL was the one who wouldn't drink, which was regarded as practically deviant by the OP's family. It really was a toss-up between whether the BIL was worse for not drinking or for being Canadian. I hope the poor sod wasn't a good Christian too or he'd have the hat-trick.

Iamgiulietta · 07/05/2012 15:28

Eek

LeBOF · 07/05/2012 15:31

Was the friend of your colleague actually Sharon The Hoor, and did you smash any wine glasses at dinner?