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RIGHTS AND WRONGS OF THIS

181 replies

Putthatbookdown · 07/05/2012 07:25

wHERE i WORKED BEFORE IT was common for colleagues to ask each other home for dinner etc I asked a younger colleague and thought she would refuse being 10 years younger etc she would have more to do,She immediately asked if she could bring a friend but gave no details. This girl came along -also much younger and nothing in common with me -nothing against her but little in common re intersts, background etc HOWEVER she was keen to meet me I asked why she had been broughtt here and the reply was "the Church* but the girl was an atheist.Other family members/friends did not like her. I could not have invited her to my home as I did not know her could I?But the girl said I had been told about her and that is why I invited her Rubbish I was told nothing about her As these 2 were close friend I think the likelehood was she was told about me and the other one wanted to meet me otherwise she would have refused the invite: please adjudicate on this .

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stuffitunderthebed · 07/05/2012 08:53

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TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:54

arf at storminabuttercup asking what they had for dinner Grin

maybe that will shed some light on the situation

storminabuttercup · 07/05/2012 08:56
Grin
winefairy · 07/05/2012 08:57

Are you trying to communicate through secret code?

MrsBranestawm · 07/05/2012 08:57

I want the OP to come back and give us a few more words to work on.

Blatherskite · 07/05/2012 08:58

Gabby? Is that you?

No-one has posted such utter, incomprehensible drivel since s/he/it left

storminabuttercup · 07/05/2012 09:03

I think the most bizarre thing is that this doesn't seem to be something that happened recently. 'where I worked before..'

But I would like to know what you had for dinner.

MrsBranestawm · 07/05/2012 09:10

I'd like to know why anyone would ask someone for dinner and expect them to refuse the invitation. OP lives in the land of throwaway dinner invitations. Where is that I wonder?

winefairy · 07/05/2012 09:16

I must say, I used to hate it where I worked before, when I invited younger colleagues for dinner and they actually accepted and brought even younger people with them because of "the church* although I knew it was actually only in order to get off me.

We had moussaka.

Proudnscary · 07/05/2012 09:22

This is exactly why I only invite middle aged, Buddhist colleagues for dinner.
(If they actually accept the invitation Shock I report them to my line manager immediately.)

ifeelloved · 07/05/2012 09:24

Eh?

Moral of the story:

1 don't invite people you don't want
2 if you ignore 1 and they accept and then ask to bring a friend say no
3 seeing as you've already ignored 1, you're probably going to ignore 2 as well. Suck it up. It's one night. Get over it.

Hope that helps Grin

Bobbish · 07/05/2012 09:24

I think the colleague's friend was brought to try to convert OP from atheism to Churchism (or is it the other way round?) Confused

SuePurblybilt · 07/05/2012 09:25

Oh I like this thread. So many possibilities.

Original poster
Putthatbookdown · 07/05/2012 09:30

Your replies have been great- loved it I am glad I amused you-that was the idea.

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tribpot · 07/05/2012 09:30

Ah but Bobbish, the semi-uninvited guest girl and the hostess were both atheists, it's the invited colleague who was a Christian. No-one brings an atheist to help them convert an atheist. Unless it's like a piece of reverse psychology: see you, you are like her. Be like me!

Bobbish · 07/05/2012 09:33

You may be on to something there tribpot.

Has anyone floated the idea this may be a reverse AIBU yet?

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 09:35

Oh hello Putthat

Not buying that. Sorry.

So, yes. YWBU.

What did you have for dinner? Hmm

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 09:35
Grin
Tiptoptoe · 07/05/2012 09:37

No ways was this meant as an amusing thread OP Hmm - even though it turned out to be one.

tribpot · 07/05/2012 09:41

I like the idea of a reverse AIBU, perhaps one of the other guests, still hammered after the event, was trying to figure out the dynamic between The Atheist, The Christian and The Other Atheist, and just posted the bits they could remember.

Bucharest · 07/05/2012 09:46

It's all reminding me of my atheist friend who was new in a company in a foreign land and was invited to "Dorothy's" house. Dorothy being the girlfriend of my friend's colleague.

She put her slap on, and went merrily along thinking it was going to be just like when we all met up. (you know, drinking gin mixed with Um-bongo because you'd forgotten to buy tonic and drinking it out of jam jars because the glasses had run out then having sex with undesirables)

They all had guitars and sandals and made her sing hymns. (I think the only food on offer was nibbles)

Wrt to the dynamics of the OP's OP. I thought both the OP and the unwanted guest were the atheists and part of thtesits and the invited (but younger) guest was the Churchy one. I amvery probably not singing from the same hymnsheet though.

CurrySpice · 07/05/2012 09:53

I think they probably had loaves and fishes

tribpot · 07/05/2012 09:56

Ooh perhaps that is the reverse AIBU. "I was all ready to serve my family and friends moussaka when this bloke turned up with one fish and some water, turned the water into wine and fed 5000 uninvited guests on the fish, which he somehow managed to turn into a meal for them all! AIBU to have been upstaged by my guest's miraculous powers and/or cooking prowess?"

Bobbish · 07/05/2012 09:59

If he left the washing up, YANBU Grin

foolonthehill · 07/05/2012 10:14

this is the first time I can honestly and truly say ROFL......made my day!!!
No way was this intentionally funny

Happy Birthday to me Grin