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RIGHTS AND WRONGS OF THIS

181 replies

Putthatbookdown · 07/05/2012 07:25

wHERE i WORKED BEFORE IT was common for colleagues to ask each other home for dinner etc I asked a younger colleague and thought she would refuse being 10 years younger etc she would have more to do,She immediately asked if she could bring a friend but gave no details. This girl came along -also much younger and nothing in common with me -nothing against her but little in common re intersts, background etc HOWEVER she was keen to meet me I asked why she had been broughtt here and the reply was "the Church* but the girl was an atheist.Other family members/friends did not like her. I could not have invited her to my home as I did not know her could I?But the girl said I had been told about her and that is why I invited her Rubbish I was told nothing about her As these 2 were close friend I think the likelehood was she was told about me and the other one wanted to meet me otherwise she would have refused the invite: please adjudicate on this .

OP posts:
Heyyyho · 07/05/2012 08:26

What the....

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 08:27

Well...

Groovee · 07/05/2012 08:27

why bother with an atheist because my husband is a wonderful man who I live dearly. Just because someone believes in God and goes to church, doesn't mean they should only bother with people from the church.

Bucharest · 07/05/2012 08:28

The Church (sic) seems overly important to you OP to say you are an atheist.

How on earth would The Church/atheism come out of a normal dinner party conversation?

Whilst I don't go around inviting (or not) randoms to my house, I am capable of having friends of all religious persuasions. You might try it OP, it can be quite normal.

"get off " you? Was the atheist a lesbian?

How did the church come up in dinner party banter?

Did you really throw a strop at the "uninvited" one?

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 08:31

You expected a date with your colleague...you were upset when she invited another person...

?

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 08:32

No. That's not it.

Confused
Groovee · 07/05/2012 08:34

caramel I read it that way too...

Voidka · 07/05/2012 08:35

Sorry but I am still confused!

ToryLovell · 07/05/2012 08:37

This is like a Facebook status someone has posted while drunk. Makes no sense at all yet I'm curiously interested

Tiptoptoe · 07/05/2012 08:37

Sorry Op, Im still as lost as ever. I am wondering if the problem here is that you are actually more confused than the rest of us posters about what the actual issue is.

If the issue is because she was a Christian and you an atheist then I think you should not be having anyone round for dinner tbh because that is just waaay to judgy pants for my liking.

MrsBranestawm · 07/05/2012 08:39

I've been giving this more thought than I should.

It seems the OP invited a colleague for dinner, and expected the colleague would decline as she (the colleague) was so much younger than the OP.

Not only did the colleague accept the invitation but asked whether she could bring a friend along too. OP agreed to this even though she didn't want to.

Colleague and colleague's friend came to dinner. It was not a success. Something to do with lesbianism and atheism. I got lost at this point.

Is funny though, in a surreal kind of way.

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:41
Grin
tribpot · 07/05/2012 08:42

So it sounds like an atheist and a Christian went for a meal at an atheist's house. One atheist said to the other atheist, "why are you here?". The atheist replied "because of the Church".

MrsBranestawm · 07/05/2012 08:43

:o

tethersend · 07/05/2012 08:44

When you say 'interesting'...

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:44

boom, tish...

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:45

sorry, the boom, tish was for the "joke"...

storminabuttercup · 07/05/2012 08:45

What did you have for dinner?

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:46

how many lesbian atheists does it take to change a lightbulb?

TanteRose · 07/05/2012 08:47

answer: NONE, because they shouldn't have been invited for dinner in the first place, goddamit!!

FannyFifer · 07/05/2012 08:48

What the hell?

caramelwaffle · 07/05/2012 08:49

"She was here to get off me , to get better which is of course not a Christian thing to do."

It's like trying to solve a Rubik's Cube...whilst drunk.

I think you should...well I'm stumped, really.

tribpot · 07/05/2012 08:50

I was going for a 'too many atheists spoil the broth' kind of angle. (I should say I am an atheist, this is not a 'persecute the unbelievers' bank holiday special).

On a slightly more serious note, you could read the OP's last post as she was being asked to feed the other girl out of charity - although I'm not sure what the problem with that is Confused. Also who were all the other people at the dinner?

Tiptoptoe · 07/05/2012 08:50

Grin at least now I am getting a chuckle our of an otherwise daft thread

Tiptoptoe · 07/05/2012 08:51

out! not our. I need another cuppa Brew