When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

lol at half an hour of being nice! That's so true though quite depressing.

It's a shame cos he lives 5 minutes from me and he wasn't bad looking, but whilst I wouldn't mind a proper FWB thing, I think really what he wants is a succession of one-night stands. So I won't be messaging him back.

Well some are nicer longer. And stay around. And then there are those who are really nice, stick around and you fancy.

One night stands really are not my thing. I need to know someone to be able to enjoy sleeping with them.

I have just been messaged by this man on Lovestruck:

www.lovestruck.com/london/profile_view.html?view=NjMzNjE=

Definitely a PotatoNO

I am not impressed with Lovestruck at all. There are much hotter guys on OKC. Just goes to show, paid sites are not necessarily always better.

Only ever went on free sites. Haven't got money to waste on men! I could buy myself something nice instead. Lol.

That's a very good point MLM I could have bought myself a nice new pair of shoes or some Benefit Make-up with the money I spent on a months subscription

But hey, I guess you have to try all approaches right? I won't be renewing my profile at the end of the month though, that's for sure.

I've been on Match and Eharmony in the past. I had very little contact with anyone on Eharmony but the few I did have dates with were okay, there was just no chemistry. On Match I messaged/winked at a few and got replies, again there were only a few dates but they went okay just weren't right for me.

I think Time said that most on Match were also on POF but I didn't find that to be the case for me so maybe it varies from area to area, or maybe the ones in my area were way down on the list and I got depressed about the dross I did see fed up looking before I got to them

Masochist that I am I'm considering opening yet another account on POF I could have my username as the boomerang woman and having another go.

The link doesn't work for me. It just took me to the login page.

Re paid sites, I've found that the men are less 'desirable' on paid sites, I have a theory that men who need to pay are less of a catch..iyswim
of course I may be ar$e over t1t with my reverse psychology:o

I've come across a few sites where it's free for woman and men have to pay

sponge ys I think fwb and hook up are 2 different things!
hook up being sporadic random sex, where as fwb is friends who are also intimate, but not exclusive.

Conflating the two is an attempt to slip one by you, or get in by the back door
(no innuendo intended honestly)

he should write an essay detailing EXACTLY what he means when he uses those terms

Oops sorry Chaoticism I mustn't have linked it properly.

Just picture a potato basically though, and you are there

loves There could be something in what you say actually. I'm getting nothing but messages from undesirables on Lovestruck. The only good looking one I've been messaging is now talking about 'arousing my passion'.

He is 24 years old, I would eat him alive, the silly fool! I get so annoyed at the fact that the guys on these sites seem to think you haven't seen a willie in 10 years, and are gagging for it. If I just wanted a shag I could get one any Friday or Saturday night that I fancied. I'm looking for something more than that ffs

Date for tonight just confirmed. I shall call him Mr Runner as he runs marathons. He's 6'2" and looks quite easy on the eye from his photo. Off pof too, so let's see if he's one of those rarities too! Will update later!

Good luck Charlotte Hope you have fun. Let us know what happens.

milk he hasnt seen a 'ladygarden' for years and is gagging so he assumes all other people on dating sites are the same:o
Not having the wit to imagine that things are different for women.

All men need to be regularly slapped down, shot down and generally put back in their goddamned places!!

I've come across a few sites where it's free for woman and men have to pay

I think they're mainly hook up sites such as BeNaughty.

Just picture a potato basically though, and you are there

That has made me literally lol

More than likely loves although he is very handsome, so one wonders if he isn't just an overly horny idiot...

Feeling rather meh about everything tonight. Just made the mistake of going on my ex fiancées FB (I de-friended him, but his wall is public) It was his birthday a few weeks ago, and about 80% of the good wishes are from women, and of the 'Happy birthday, beautiful, gorgeous boy' variety

It's made me feel ill. I miss him so much, even though we haven't spoken at all since December.

I need a good DVD, some Ben & Jerry ice cream, and an early night I think.

bummer, it's so hard to get over someone when they have a public FB thing just tempting you to look at it:(
december isnt long in the grand scheme of things, I mean maybe give yourself a bit more time to put him firmly in the past:)

Sounds like us both. Not getting to see just friends this week. Never mind, but need a binge chocolate and a wkd or 10

Loves thq

Made me giggle. A job at the moment.

loves I am normally really good at keeping off peoples FB if I know it is going to upset me. I think I just had a moment of weakness.

My only consolation is that there is nothing on there that looks like a girlfriend posted it. He hasn't even thanked people for their comments. He can be so bloody arrogant!

Forget a few months. It will probably take me until at least June 2013 before I don't want to burst into tears/have a panic attack over it several times a week

Just repeat over and over I am better off without him, I am a strong independent woman, I do not need or want him, and I am so worth it.

'He can be so bloody arrogant!'
keep focusing on his bad points..if you feel the urge to focus on him at all that is!

Perhaps a couple of short term flings with other blokes will help to erase/over write him?

yes..look in the mirror and repeat that mantra from mlm 20 times daily (count on your fingers)
think of it as sort of re-setting your subconscious :)

Well I will try. I'm not sure if I am better off without him to be honest though. We both royally fucked things up. I didn't realise how immature I was until I moved down to London, and now its too late to go back home and sort things. He doesn't want me any more.

loves I really don't want a fling to be honest. I'm a really emotional person, and I like to really connect with people. I thought Mr Open Relationship might work in that respect. It didn't. I've just ended up thinking the world of him, and being (quietly) sad about it all.

Never mind though ladies. As you were ahem

You are better off without him. Look to the future, move on with life, you will get over him and fall in love again. That's life you love, lose and learn to love again. some people heal quicker than others. I have done a lot in a short time.