When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

It of course helps if you no longer gave feelings for that person.

Milk if he no longer wants to have a relationship then it's a non starter, moving on is surely the only thing to do :)

loves I am trying, I really am. I just don't do moving on very well unfortunately

Just a little update from me. I seemed to have listened to my gut instinct better than I thought. He txtd me when he got home. I asked him if he'd had a good night even though he stayed in the spare room. He said 'of course he did and then said 'dont worry about I had a wank in your shower'. Now Im quite open minded and we did do a fair share of sexting but I find this just ewww - as it was my shower. I asked him if he was joking and he said no. And this was before we headed off to the pub. Its just made me feel a bit bleugh to be honest. I dont think I will see him again.

Oh.my.God Seasidegirly What an absolute tosser (quite literally in this case)

I am speechless. Please don't see him again. The disrespectful, sexually stunted bell end.

What the f**k is wrong with all these men? Seriously, I just despair sometimes. The human race is doomed.

Milk just go at your own pace, don't rush anything. As for the 'As you were' bit, this thread is here just as much for what you've just posted as it is for reporting on whether or not you have a date or how said date went. We're here to support whomever needs it in what aspect they need it :)

Seaside ewwwww...just ewwwww. Something you really didn't need to know.

I agree seaside, I think it's an 'EW' thing to say, as if a wank in the shower was a substitute for sex...or some kind of territory marking thing??

he prob didnt mean it like that...but it's disappointing that he lacked the 'finesse' to realise it wasnt a good thing to say.

Milk, moving on can prob sort of happen in the background while you're getting on with other stuff..erm kinda like you can set your computer to de fragg the disc in the back ground while you're busy with your spreadsheets:)

seaside that's a bit icky. Why did he feel the need to volunteer that info? He wouldn't tell you if he'd pooed in your toilet would he?!

he he yeah 'tosser'
and yay! for your gut instincts Seaside :o

I went back to the FWB guy and told him he was confusing it with casual sex.

He apologised, few more msgs, can we go for a drink to see if we like each other, but he said its on the basis of just one drink, nothing more, deffo no sex etc.

I said yes ok.

Then he says ok, I'll pop round tonight shall I?

Fuck me, are men that stupid? or women come to that. I said he might be a serial killer, and he's not coming to my house when I don't know him. I will prob now block him. What a twat!

Going for a drink sort it suggests going somewhere, even if its the local mac donalds for a coke! Twat.

seaside yuck yuck yuck, hope you bleached it several times how could he, he should do it in his own shower and not share.

hate Neither is he taking into account the fact that you could be a serial killer

But honestly, what.is.wrong.with.them? I might end up headdesking myself to death thinking about it all.

Chaotic Thank you for your kind words. I just feel as if I moan on about a little too frequently sometimes. I don't want to bore people to death.
I like the computer analogy loves To be honest I feel fine sometimes, then I am suddenly gripped with the horror of the fact that I've lost him forever. I don't know how you stop loving someone. I honestly wish I could.

Seaside I would tell that guy that letting you in on his little secret has meant he will have plenty of 'me time' in the shower from now on. Mainly due to the fact that you won't be seeing him again

Seaside, yuck. I wouldn't, personall, put someone up the first time I met them. If someone wants to travel 2 hrs they can find their own accommodations. Best to stay safe next time.

Well I wouldnt have let him come to my house but I had a bit of disaster. I got home from work and realised the leccy was off and had been all morning. The workmen were outside trying to fix the cables. Id arranged to meet him at 7 in a pub. As I had no leccy I couldnt have a shower or dry my hair etc. He arrived on time and I felt bad I would have to leave him waiting in the pub for a couple of hours so I said he could come to mine. (He was on my fb and we had chatted on the phone a few times). I wish I hadnt. Double bleached the shower as soon as he txtd me it. Just ewwwwwww.

Main thing is that he wasn't a serial killer and you are safe, grossed out, but safe. It's really hard to tell from virtual contact if these guys are fanciable or not. Even web camming can be deceptive. It's all down to chemistry.

Seaside, that's yuck. I would double bleach too.

Just starting to get ready to go out tonight, fingers crossed theres some lovely men out tonight- but I won't hold my breath. Anyone got dates lined up for the night?

I agree. He was good looking but there was something missing for me. He was 8 years younger than me and he prooved how immature he was with the wank txt. He was indeed a tosser .

I think I still like am older man. Not too much older, but about 5 years ish. They are just more mature. And less fixated on sex, IMO.

...or even a wanker

Sorry, I'll get me coat

No stay chaotic you make me laugh (promise I don't want you to stay JUST for my amusement)

Glad I make you laugh MLM :)

Talking about laughing there's a thread on AIBU atm about wet patches that made me giggle.

That is urgh seaside - not just the doing of it which is urgh anyway but telling you - why would he think that would be a good idea ?

Can't decide what to say to Mr Cricket who sounds fairly dull although polite. Plus I really am a little short on child free time in the next week or so. Will tentatively say yes and not give a definite time and date i think.

I overthink too much I know. And you lot get the benefit of my internal thought process (aren't you lucky!)

Just be honest, say you have no free time next week but maybe you could do something the following week.

I overthink things too, Miranda. It took me 4 dates to decide if I wanted anything to happen with Mr Coffee - I kept thinking about all his good points, and then thinking about the fact that I wasn't physically attracted to him, and trying to work out if I should continue seeing him.

Maybe see how your next date with Mr Nice goes, and possibly arrange to see Mr Cricket the following week?