When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

I was on the original dating thread, then I met shrek with a boat who took me to Dubai for our second date. Anyway that was after my experience with Mr Genital Warts and prior to Mr Shaven Shagaholic. Anyway I've been single since January but have a first date tomorrow (Saturday) night. Will keep you posted.

Ooh first dates are exciting. I remember those feelings. But no more first dates for me atm, just seeing what happens with just friends.

Morning all,

charlottesmum That is an impressive collection if nicknames. I don't even think I want to know about Mr Genital Warts shudders

Good luck for the date tonight. Who is he? We need the details.

sponge Any updates on whether you are going to go on any of the dates tonight? I agree that alcohol will definitely be required though. We should start up the anti-coffee date club

MLM I think you would be wise not to put all your eggs into one basket. I'm worried you are going to end up hurt by this guy, and you are already vulnerable from all the crap you have been through. Please be careful.

<strong>MLM</strong> I agree with <strong>Milk</strong>, please be careful, we don't want to see you get hurt.

Morning :)

Went to bed early with an headache, took the dog up with me while I read for a bit. Fell asleep and woke up about 2.30am with the dog lieing top to bottom in the middle of the bed and me on the edge <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Hmm" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/hmm-PR4o6B1t.png">

ChaoticismyLife That is the correct place to be when you have dogs isn't it? He couldn't possibly sleep on the floor

I would let me dog sleep in my bed if he wasn't 16 years old, and didn't smell like a dead badger.

No emotional involvement. But I am also not going to sleep about. 1 at a time is more than headache enough. I won't drop all my barriers, cos then I could get hurt. At the moment, some not all are down. My bestie is the only one who gets them all down. But she knows me and now knows everything that happened. She has been my rock and I will always be grateful for that. And worst case scenario I can always call my old mate a up and ask him to cone have a chat, I have known him since I was 3 so pretty much ny whole life.

Just seeing what happens over the next couple of weeks. like before if I get a relationship great, if not friends is good too.

Milk that is so true

She usually has a crate which she sleeps in and has done since she was a puppy but I went up early last night so took her up with me for a bit. When she realised I was awake she came and gave me, what we call in this house, 'Panda kisses' so I said to her beddybyes and she went to the bedroom door wagging her tail. She does seem to like the routine of going into her crate knowing that it's bedtime.

Chaotic I have the same problem with the cat! She likes to sleep as close as possible so I end up moving until I'm on the edge of the bed. Or she sneaks in when I'm laying in the star position, lays between my legs, so I have to stay like that all night as I couldn't possible disturb her.

This week I have had a message telling me i look 'just like Kay Burley off the tele'. This morning I have a message telling me 'Wow, you look like Jane MacDonald.' Laugh or cry??

Oops, forgot to say I decided on a slight name change

Time if they'd said much younger version of....might have been acceptable. However, they didn't so...next

Well, I didn't have a headache when I got up but since the cat was yowling at the dog and the dog barked at the cat I've now had to take a couple of paracetamol Pets...who'd have 'em

you are so right Chaotic

Pet's over men any day!

Aye, have to admit, overall, they're far less trouble

Have been happily texting with Mr Nice. We may be planning a day time date on Tuesday ;)

And Mr Cricket has entered the scene and asked if I'd like to have a drink. Am starting to run out of spare time

I knew that feeling. I had 4 dates the same week I moved. But all I done was compare them to just friends and they didn't match up. Despite having good bodies well 2 did, nope not for moi.

Hi all

Had my first date last night with someone off POF. He travelled nearly 2 hours to come to my town. We got on great but I thought it was gona be just a one off shag thing but when it actually came down to it I couldnt go through with it. He was a total gentleman and was okay to stay in the spare room. Brought me a coffee in bed. I think Ive realised Im used to meeting emotional unavailable men and now Ive met someone whos really interested in me and wants to see me again Im panicing. What the hells wronng with me? And more to the point - whats a nice good looking bloke who isnt a fuckwit doing on POF?

Miranda things are looking up

Trying to find as someone put it someone "real" and honest. Stop stressing and enjoy him (bot sexually)

Nothing is wrong with you, you've just found out your boundaries, that's all :)

Take a deep breath and remind yourself, in the spirit of l'oreal, you're worth it If you want to see him again then do and take it slowly. If he's worth it then he'll be happy to take it at the pace you set.

WRT POF, he obviously slipped under their radar

Seaside, just take it slow if that's what your mind is telling you, I think we all seem to end up with the same type we always have, maybe now is the time to try a new type. If he's decent, he'll understand

There are a few normal people on POF - looks like you found one, it's like finding the golden ticket

There seems to be an influx of new men on POF, I've had loads of messages the last few days.

One is a highly handsome american - who is a sub - Now, many men have called me bossy, wondering if it's an avenue I should explore

Another has been really funny and I like funny. But he ruined it by sending the cock shot. He was chastised suitably and he hasn't disappeared so will see

And another who seems a bit needy, so I doubt I will bother to meet him

And 4 more, need to start a spreadsheet as I'm getting all their stories confused

Charlottes mum, good luck for your date tonight. Keep us informed.

Someone mentioned EUM I am quite au fait with them . They are available in body but not emotionally. You will be noticed more for your absence than presence so pull away and see what happens. I've told mine that whilst we have a fantastic time together and he is being attentive, I don't want to move in, which I have never wanted and he looked put out, bless. It's a win win situation if you pull away because you also end up becoming somewhat detached so therefore emotionally unavailable too. This is providing the friendship and sex dates are worth it if not then dump, you've lost nothing.

Seaside that sounds good, you might have met one of the rare good ones :)

I'm not going out tonight, I woke up feeling horribly fat and unattractive, and really can't be bothered.

But at least I didn't text Barbour back well not yet anyway

Don't text him back. I still have a weirdo texting me for pictures of ny feet, I did tell him to look online, but apparently its mine he has to have. Err no.

And sponge you are NOT fat or unattractive. Give yourself a firm slap out of that attitude (said in the nicest possible way)

Got a message on POF from someone who seemed normal.

4 messages in he tells me he's only looking for a fwb and do I want to 'hook up'

Sigh.

POF generally seems full of them. They want a date followed by plenty if sex. And by date they mean half hour of being nice.

Although not all of them are.