When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

I know Time - that was what pissed me off, more than the affair to be honest. We agreed to have kids, in fact he was more enthusiastic than me and then he just found it all too hard & annoying!!!! I should have kicked his arse & the stronger, tougher me would have done - but at the time I just didn't have the energy, so I divorced him instead.

I suppose he has sent two texts bemoaning (a) dog leaving and (b) ex wanting money etc and rather more texts on a somewhat more basic level of flirtatiousness. Actually on dates his ex didn't get mentioned much at all apart from exsiting IYSWIM.Problem is I know I am sympathetic ear type (being Nice as well ) but definitely no urge for being a counsellor type. (I go and see my own counsellor on Tuesday afternoons :))

Am over thinking . I am actually happy to be on my own I have been realising and so really am treating anything happening with any dates as a bonus. Someone please remind me of this if I start appearing to be trying to put in too much emotional work on things

Mr Nice, the only time you should be offloading about your ex is if you share DC and it's in reference to them.

On a separate note house is freezing as battery for the thermostat box on the wall thing (technical term) has run out after threatening to do so for a while. Need to work out how to open it and hope it is a sort i can change easily. Am sitting here in coat (would be better to actually try and open it, but nearly time to get DC from school and more fun being on here tbh )

Thermostat box thingies have batteries

I remember once the HA person coming to do maintenance on the boiler/heating system and later on that evening having to phone them because the heating wasn't working. Turned out the man had turned the thermostat right down and that was why the heating wasn't coming on

To return to the thread subject, it sounds as if you're in a good place for dating Miranda.

I will not be falling into love with anyone. Saw an old crush and Fuck he is still gorgeous but obviously nothing sexual there though I soooo would have a month ago and it felt good to be baby girl again. More like me. I get a copy of ny last day at school pics tomorrow. I hope I look as good as I thought I did in that skirt that covered the necessities most the time

Continuing on the thermostat theme have now removed the cover part and got into the battery part . And is AA batteries it needs. Sadly there are none anywhere. Am wondering if I can summon up the energy to go and buy some...

Thank you Chaotic for saying you think I'm in a good place to do dating - I think I am ready now to give it a go. For me it is good to know that I'm fine on my own and don't need anyone else - and that whatever I do can just be a nice thing rather than something I feel I "have" to do.

I do hope Mr Nice doesn't post on MN. Would have to change my identity I think

I hope no one I know in RL reads what I put on here, that could be slightly embarrassing at best. miranda you have one of two choices, but some batteries or listen to your kids all night complaining how cold they are. U know what I'd do.

Does not signing the divorce petition acknowledgement say "i am glad to get rid of you?" My solicitor just told me nothing has been received. Can't wait to be a divorcee at 23, or at the rate its going 24!

Miranda - do you have AA's in any remote controls, kids' toys, your toys , torches, radios etc. etc.?

PoppaRob I don't have any toys . And remote controls have AAA. I agree that there must be some somewhere other than in a quite nearby shop.

Haven't replied to Mr Nice yet

Thank god its Friday. Sorry you had to go through all of that Sponge. Not nice. Nothing for me (whats new). I have changed my profile to hang out on POF and getting no messages. I have had a message from a theatre nurse who wants to be meet and I may give it a go as a) he will have clean hands (maybe) and b)surely to God if he works with the public he must have some social skills??
I broke down in my car on a main road yesterday - alternator. As soon as it ground to a halt I was fretting about the expense as I have been buying things on ebay with some extra money. I got towed to the garage by the nicest man i have met in ages. 57, handsome and married for 40 years. He told me he loves his wife to bits and it made me feel slightly happier to hear that...
Milk - men never seem to ask for my number. I am hopeless at flirting and I think its because I am a fairly intolerant person and I find skittishness hard to do. My friend flirts like mad but she does it in a way so I feel like I am a spare part or gooseberry. Annoying.
I also seem to be unable to manage or tolerate male negativity in the form of a) illness reporting B)ex wife moaning and c)he said/she said stuff if I have just met them. It gives me the vibe they have a underlying negative streak waiting to surface. I have halted many a fledgling relationship by texting "get a grip" for some issue or other.
Bloody weather.

Umm...I don't want to put a dampner on things but aren't theatre nurses' patients usually under anaesthetic?

Miranda I believe you're in the ideal position for dating because you're happy on your own, which, for me, means that you won't just accept any idiot in order to be in a relationship.

I'm still undecided about tomorrow, I'll see how I feel in the morning. I can't bring myself to do an afternoon date, if I'm going to spend any time with a stranger it I need the assistance of alcohol albeit possibly less alcohol than on the last date given how that one turned out and I cant drink during the day

at least its time to leave work now... after the week I've had am VERY glad to be going home!

Have put rechargable batteries from Wii remote in the thermostat thing and there is now some heat.

Am tired. Think I am getting too old to stay up late and then get up early . Am going to have an Early night and be glad there is no work/school tonorrow.

PostDivorce. Excellent move!

Miranda I had no idea the thermostat wall thingy needed batteries either! This is an educational thread in more ways than one!

Sponge

I think possibly rhe thermostat thing was quite low and so it wasn't so much that it needed batteries to work but more that I couldn't increase the temperature without there being batteries in.

Mr Nice has returned to normal texts now. And without me sending any other ones.he can stay on probation for now I think.

good plan Miranda. I agree with Chaotic, you do sound to be in a good place for dating. And I do hope that Mr Nice continues to be nice and passes his period of probation.

One child in bed :) and one child with XH at a Gamelan concert. One cat on my knee, one bath cooling down to just right rather than scorching hot. Will get in bath soon and then attempt early bedtime :)

One child in bed, one drink about to be got and a film to be put on. Have been texting back and forth at various points during the day.

no children (they are with the Evil Ex) though I am thinking of putting myself to bed soon...v tired for some reason.

Plus Barbour has text me tonight and I need to avoid the temptation of texting him back

Don't text back, remember the dating thread title "fuck him and his barbour" keep to it.

sponge - barbour wants a f---buddy. If you're happy with that arrangement then go ahead, but make sure that he knows that's what he is - don't let him call all the shots here. If not, just tell him to 'fuck the fuck off.....'

Am feeling particularly pants tonight. Work is shit, cba to date and mr EUM being very nice and I'm desperately trying not to read too much into it

Don't feel pants. Mr EUM is not worth reading into. My just friend has been texting, and I am reading only what is written into them. But what us written is good with me

I found it !! here you are

sorry meant to post that on another thread for someone !!