When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

top tramp I don't think you made a mistake, I often feel like I really want some action and then have it with someone that there is not a spark with and feel crap! And if you didn't want a ons then it was the best decision because he wouldn't be around for long enough to have any more!

top trump you always have to make the right decision for you. If I wanted sex I have a few people who would oblige but that's all it would be. I may be pretty fresh out of a marriage but I want more and deserve more than that. Okay these girls know I have done that just a one night BUT it gave me back my sexual confidence now I have it back I don't need anyone to boost it, so I am holding on for someone who will be worth it, no more 1st date action.

Top, you didn't make a mistake, if you have decided ONS aren't for you anymore then it's better to wait until there is a spark with someone who you also get on with and isn't leaving the country the next day.

notsure if it was just that one comment and other than that he seems ok, I'd meet him. I think comments in emails/texts can easily come across wrong, if you have a free evening why not use it? I think I'd keep that comment in the back of my mind and if he does anything similar prob not bother seeing him again.

top I think you have to do what feels right at the time. I've met some gorgeous men in the past, coudl easily have spent the night with them but at the time I wasnt that bothered about scratching the itch, iyswim? Sometimes I'm happy just to leave it at a bit of a flirt, or maybe a snog. Other times hormones take over of course The fact you have a date in the offing probably contributed to your decision, don't overthink it, whats done is done, see what happens next Sunday.

I now have 2 possible dates in the next week, both of which I may cancel.

Well I was going to ask him to meet up but messages him and he said he is really tired . So im not going to ask. I might ask the guy that is local that said I dont know how to hold a conversation I don't know why I am bothering but I feel like maybe I should go out tonight as I didn't go out last night.

Also I have date no 2 with mr location and I think I want to see what else is around before I see him.

Well I am out with a girl mate Saturday. Friday I am dentist, sooo happy, front tooth finally fixed hopefully. Just friends doesn't know that though. I will have to adjust to it though and it will probably kill at first.

Have to admit I am a complete flirt, love getting the looks but like I an going to sleep with everyone I flirt with.

Hello :)

Had another good date on Friday. Am very much enjoying spending time with Mr Nice :) Am a tiny bit concerned that he is less over his ex than I am (my own one that is) and whilst I am not trying to project my own feelings it really only is now I am feeling fine about dating after a year's separation and his is somewhat shorter. Gah. Is complicated and I don't exactly want complication. Although am trying hard to live in the moment rather than thinking too much about the future and on those grounds it is all OK IYSWIM.

Am doing some potentially profitable chatting with people on OKC although the foot fettish type was out last night (I will give you lovely foot massages WTF - finger went to block button very fast ). And given how busy I am with work am still not sure why I am entering in to all this dating stuff but am still happy so guess it is OK .

I think I am still happy in my own self so to speak and so anything else still feels like a bonus.

How are everyone else's weekends?

Not sure - i would be very wary of tall man. He strikes me as someone who likes to be the macho man (me tall and strong, she small and puny) and the offer to help with the kids in the future IS odd when you haven't even met. It sounds like he is knowing what buttons to press to get his foot in the door. I have had similar before and the guy was a total player. Be careful.

Miserable. Who the hell am I kidding. I miss just friends. Glad you had a good date miranda hope to see him when he gets back.

I think we all need to protect ourselves. But also feel that when just friends gets back I should spill too. But that could open a wound or 2 and change the way he sees me.

miranda - glad you like mr nice how long has he been single?

fate - mr tall doesn't seem very macho, as he says things like he needs a cuddle and told me he came on pof because he keeps falling for the wrong kind of girls, so sounds like he has been hurt in the past and can be open with his feelings. But the kids comment does make me wonder, I havn't met him yet so when I do I guess I will be better able to judge but I am always wary and keep my eyes peeled.

notsure it's been a couple of months I think although sounds like marriage was a bit dead in the water for a while before then.

Just back from having a nice meal out with DD (DS away at cub camp) and she was excellent company. And the food was good too :)

Wary is good.

Think my date tomorrow is off. I suspected he was simply after sex, and made it clear that wouldn't be happening. Now he's 'not sure' what time he can meet me and will have to let me know .

I'd like to meet someone who didn't ONLY want to sleep with me, but the chances of that seem as remote as ever!

What is it with men only wanting sex?

miranda - it is quite fresh then, but you seem to be getting on well so I would go with the flow for now.

sponge - much better to make it clear with him, and i'm sure you will meet someone thats not only after sex. I think the problem is with most of them online that they are only after one thing.

I am starting to wonder if there is any point in online dating and if we would all be better off meeting real life guys. So far I have only had 3 internet dates, but could have had more, i'm just too fussy.
1 - looked 10 years older then pics, great evening, great company, but no spark.
2 - mr location - fireman, keeps asking me to wear dress, but other then him wanting me to come to his area all the time seems nice enough
3 - not my type but slept with him anyway

other then that weird conversations with a few guys, I should really wait longer before giving my number out...

It takes ages to get my number. Bad experience.

Oh that's rubbish sponge :( Silly man - if that's all he wants then you're well shot of him.

it's quite sad really, he has phoned me for over an hour 3 times this week and sent me over 200 texts, and has now binned me off simply because there will be no sex tomorrow. Yes, I suppose if that is all he wants its best not to even waste one date, but honestly!

And I don't have a lot of faith in men not only being after sex tbh, it's been the mian priorirty of every man I've ever met. Gets a bit boring.

main priority

not sure what went wrong with my typing there!

AND after his comment earlier, I replied saying well if you are actually cancelling, just tell me. I'd rather know now.

He hasn't even replied. I am assuming it's off but ffs he could at least say so!

Ah, sponge. The soldier still :)
Take heart. It's not you. Told you before, most likely married if hes over 24. 95% of them over that age are. And its bank hol, making it difficult to get out of family committments. Of course, he he was promised I'm sure he could tell his wife he had to stag on or have extras on camp, but that he thinks its not worth it for a date. Because he doesn't want a date to get to know you. He just wants a thrill of shagging someone other than his wife.
You are way, way, way better than that :)

So It's no personnel reflection on you at all.

And then some you take ages to get to know and then they bugger off, after one evening. Yet I had seen him quite a lot before. Basically waiting to see if there is contact when he comes back. If there is I will of course see him, if not well I will do what I always do and bounce.

watch it was indeed him. he claims to have been married, but not now (of course he would say that wouldn't he) and is at his brothers til tomorrow. Except his brother is probably his wife and he probably is still married

And that being the case, yes anything less than sex with me isn't worth him having to make excuses to leave early etc.

I am worth more I know that. Which I think is why I made it clear we wouldn't be. I could've just let him turn up, but I suspected, and I wanted him to prove me wrong - but of course he hasn't.

Can't say he hasn't put the effort in calling and texting me, but then he probably doesn't have much else to do during the week...

sponge - its crap isnt it? why bother making the calls and sending the texts etc to get sex? cant he just go out in a club to find a randomer for a ons??