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When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

999 replies

ChaoticAngel · 26/04/2012 21:31

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes Grin

As you were....

OP posts:
TheSinglePringleWillicopters · 05/05/2012 19:10

I'm back again. Men are arseholes! Met a lad and just been texting and getting on well. Met up with him once. Just found out he is in a relationship!

And not just with one woman either! The two women have just found out about each other on his fb page and that's how I found out.

I give up with men now because its twice that's happened

SerendipitousHarlot · 05/05/2012 19:13

MLM. I'm really worried about your outlook on this one. JustFriends has made it completely clear that he is not interested. I know you think he really 'gets' you and stuff, and that it's just a matter of time before he realises that what he wants is right in front of him. But I need you to understand some things....

When he's going away for 2 weeks and can't contact you, he would have made some effort to see you before he went - and you were cut up when he didn't.

And he's working until June? What, 24/7?

He hung around to seduce you charming you until he got what he wanted and then all of a sudden, he cooled off.

I promise you that this is said with kindness. I really, really don't want you to get hurt. You keep saying that you can take it or leave it, but it's obvious to anyone that follows this thread that you're trying to convince yourself of that.

Please listen. If he felt like you do, he would call you from his trip - even if it's too expensive, he would use a quid to call you for one minute. I just want you to move on Sad

SerendipitousHarlot · 05/05/2012 19:16

PS - You already are beautiful. And the right man for you doesn't need to see weight loss, or hair and makeup to know that x

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 19:27

He already knows I am. Just I wanted to lose weight in January and summer is coming. He got told 4hours before he had to go. So didn't have much time. He said he will try but can't promise cos his diary is pretty full. I get why, I know his career and I understand. Was just going to wait and see when he gets back what happens or doesn't. In the meantime I am doing things for me. I want belly gone, I hate it. Have done since about oh 8!

I am not putting my hopes on him. And at any rate I am back in contact with a school mate, so we chat too, but he is a pilot now.

ChaoticismyLife · 05/05/2012 19:29

Typical...lubey gets a spa, hotel and a great night shagging and I get an indecent proposal...with the offer of payment if I want it HmmGrin

Yes, Time, I'm laughing, actually, I keep chucking to myself everytime I think of it Grin You've got to keep a sense of humour about it, otherwise you'd go mad Grin

lubey really pleased for you. You deserve it and I hope it all works out as you want it.

MLM be careful, we don't want you to get hurt.

sponge teenagers eh, good advice up above.

lubeybooby · 05/05/2012 19:39

Dress off in the corridor was fabulous :o SO many lasting memories from that date! :o

Thanks Time and Wise

Wise... the self respect you mention... gosh, thank you, hadn't really thought of that til now but upon pondering a little, that's one of the things my ex from last year really bolstered and helped with. It does feel good to have. The rest has been from just taking time out and looking after myself a whole lot.

adamschic · 05/05/2012 19:51

Goldy, yes its the same guy. He got back on touch after I dumped him and seems to be keeping in touch more so I forgive him. I love our dates too much to stop seeing him. I'm just going with the flow.

Lubey, it's great that your new man has restored your faith. They don't come along that often so enjoy it and the future will look after itself.

Whens the party Sponge? I've been sprucing my house up for a big party in a few weeks. It won't be perfect but tough.

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 19:55

I am being careful. No falling in love with me. I like being free at the moment, but also like a little male company.

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 20:19

I need to clean this place up too. The garden is a mess too. But also trying to do some reading in advance hoping I will get on my course for September. I am starting to wonder, do I have time for a relationship? Not sure actually.

goldylock · 05/05/2012 20:27

Good for you adams-never established if it might be him. First name doesnt being with a D does it? (yikes)

adamschic · 05/05/2012 21:40

Goldy, no Grin. There are lots of them around. I decided to chill a bit because it's rare to meet someone who ticks all your boxes.

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 21:57

It is rare too find someone who ticks all the boxes. Maybe I should chill too.

notsurewhyohwhy · 05/05/2012 21:58

chaotic - I think the reason why is to do with my dad and childhood, as my dad was a cheat etc and most of the guys I go for are liars and cheaters. I think I am caught in the cycle of breaking up and getting back together with my crappy guys and get hooked on the mind games. So I have an idea of why, I just need to stop it Grin thats not so easy.

I've just been trying to catch up.

sponge - I how you are feeling positvie about your party, I would never organise myself a party I would just go out for drinks with a couple of friends and feel sorry for myself that I didn't have a party. So I think you are great and you deserve a party.

adamschic · 05/05/2012 22:03

MLM, I know we all stive to find perfection but life isn't always black and white. Chances of meeting someone perfect are very slim and life tends to happen when you are planning something else.

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 22:06

Anyone got a slender tone? Do they work? And fast?

MyLittleMiracle · 05/05/2012 22:11

I know no one is perfect. I didn't have a dad so I can't say its his fault for my crappy choice in men either. I am just going to sit back and see what happens. I have a couple or three texting me and a reserve if I ever just want a quickie but no, I want more than sex I could go out and get that if I wanted to.

Not sure I will compromise completely.

notsurewhyohwhy · 05/05/2012 22:27

Just to update from me today

I have been talking to a few guys

no 1 - mr bbe (short for babe I believe? although I dont see the point) conversation is often boring, only got interesting when he was cheeky enough to say to me 'you really dont know how to hold a convo do you' so we exchanged a few cheeky texts and he text me asking me to start again, but he seems like he is not right for me. (I guess that would be the pull for me and the twat radar working but drawing me to them again)

no 2 - mr tall 6'6 to be exact, we have been texting and he seems really lovely. he is quite local but doesnt drive, I really like the sound of him, even thought he is wayyyy taller then me. I have told him im oly 5'2 and he said he has never dated a girl above 5'4.... and he is very fanciable.

he comes across as being a lovely guy, i told him last night i was doing work at home as well as looking after dd and dn and he said hopefully in the future he can help with that kind of thing. i said i dont often work from home but there was an emergency, he said he meant with the kids Hmm

does that sound strange or is he just trying to be nice?

now that I am a single mum I think every guy could be a peodofile? this guy doesn't seem like one but I do question things like this. similar to betty

notsurewhyohwhy · 05/05/2012 22:31

MLM - i have one, i dont think it really works, I thought it was working at one stage but thats when i was going to the gym and dieting. now i just eat like a horse and hope to loose weight.

I'm seriously thinking about laser lipo, its about £150 for 3 sessions, but i wonder if its another gimic Hmm to spend my money on. I really need to stop comfort/stress eating.

hatesponge · 05/05/2012 23:10

notsure I need to stop comfort eating as well. I lost so much weight last year but have eaten like a pig the last few weeks, pretty much since the stupid Scot episode. I really need to go back to eating normally, especially as only a couple of weeks to get myself looking half decent for my birthday! thanks for what you said re my party. still stressing over it all a bit but trying to think what will be, will be :)

re mr tall, what's your instinct? to me id think its a bit over-familiar (and that creeps me out). i dont like it when men assume anything, makes me uncomfortable.

Mind you I am not following my own advice at all, so probably shouldn't be handing it out!

TimeForMeAndDD · 06/05/2012 08:03

notsure yes, that comment would freak me out, I would have hit the block button immediately after seeing that. But maybe I'm too harsh? And maybe that's why I'm not dating? Any little comment that gets my hackles up, I block. If they annoy me before we've even met then that's them done! Grin

Sponge Try low carbing for a couple of weeks. The weight will fall off!

MyLittleMiracle · 06/05/2012 08:10

Oh when do we ever follow our own advice? I don't like men getting over familiar, they are a no no for me but there we go.

Well if slender tone doesn't work looks like a fitness dvd and decent diet is the way to go. Drinking plenty is supposed to help too. Looks like I know what to do.......stop being lazy. Got my little one's birthday approaching and six weeksish before I see my bestie again so looks like time to get cracking.......tomorrow, cakes today. Going to measure my belly and see how many inches I can lose. Measure weekly. Don't expect much though.

notsurewhyohwhy · 06/05/2012 09:45

sponge - it's very difficult to stop the comfort eating. I have no idea how to and no will power, I am eating about 3 times the amount I need to at the moment Blush

Mr tall seems really nice, it's just that comment made me Hmm other then that he's not over familiar, he was having problems with his Pof app and I said I could give him my number to text instead if he wants. He replied by giving me his number and said you don't have to use it if you think it's too soon.

But any comment regarding children makes me wary. He suggested meeting up already and I was meant to go out for drinks yesterday with a friend yesterday but didn't, so I'm thinking of asking him to meet tonight. Do you think I should! As he already said he is looking forward to meeting me!!

notsurewhyohwhy · 06/05/2012 09:47

MLM -I think we all know what to do, but it's very difficult to do it! I think measuring belly hips etc is better then looking at the scales!

toptramp · 06/05/2012 09:53

Do you guys think I made a mistake here?

Went out Friday night and my friends pointed out a fit man. He's Canadian and only in town for 2 days. I didn't pull him as I didn't want a one night stand. I kind of regret it now ; a shag is always good especially with a hotty. I don't think there was a major spark.

I used to have one nighters but I think I am getting old and can't bring myself td do it yet I could do with a shag. agggrr! Still I have a date next sunday and I am almost certain we are going to sleep together as we spend so much time flirting.

toptramp · 06/05/2012 09:53

I would have pulled the Canadian if he was going to be around for a few weeks for eg.