When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

MyLittleMiracle - I spent the first year after my bust-up trying to convince myself that I was over the ex, but I missed her terribly, and not the sex although it was the best I'd ever had, more the conversation and just hanging out together stuff.

A lot of what I miss is the friendship side of a relationship, but as always most people are already part of a couple. I joined a local ukulele group recently and there is a lot of potential for friendships there, but to be honest the single women are as frumpy and unattractive as I am!

Sponge, ah, you got it. You know what he's up to. And know what you are doing :)
You are worth way more, and don't let anyone ever make you feel otherwise.

Ykw text me at 1am. I have not, and Will not respond :) yay, go me.

Weird couple of texts from someone ive been chatting on and off with.for about two months, yestetday. He never asks me out, but texts thibgs like ' the whatever fete/ local music thing is on now, i was thinking that we should have gone for our first date' I text back that yes, sounds great. And then he vanishes for a week. Anyway, he did it again today, so after no reply I.text him it was weird, and that I have better things to.do with my Time.

The one Ive been talking.to and has asked me out.... Seeing him Friday. He offered to.pick me up, which I declined. Its 50/50 if I actually go as the texts have taken on a rather suggestive nature. Ive made it totally clear I'm not after casual sex. He claims not to be either... But we all know men will say pretty much anything to get you into bed..

Sponge, also lots of them live on camp during the week, and then go to their families at another location for the weekend. I.did years myself in this set up, They aren't just ' away' when they are on tour. It May, and thinking about it, be the case, that hes travelling back.to his unit tonight, for work tomorrow....
So leaving.his family tonight, but isn't sure when, because his wife is used to.him leaving at a certain time.
Would make sense with all the extra contact during the week.

A friend ( not me) lived like this for two continous years, she divorced him after she found out he had another gf, and was living with her, in this other location, during the week.

The friendship and trust side of my marriage died a long time ago. I do get lonely though. I suppose I also moved away from my friends which doesn't help. I miss my cuddles. And waking up next to someone I love. I know if just friends texts when he gets back and wants to come over, I would, in a heartbeat without a seconds thought. And if he wanted to stay the night and wake up next to each other I so so would. But I am starting to accept that in 2 weeks time he probably won't have text.
Me needs a hug. Just keep busy and see I suppose.

Watch I think he is at camp during the week and home at weekends. He claims home is family (brother, parents etc) but whilst I was 50/50 on that before now I definitely think it is wife instead. He has text me a fair bit this weekend too though, which makes me feel sorry for his wife now it seems clear he has one. havent hear any more from him today and don't think I'm going to.

I do wish men wanted me for more than sex though.

well done for not replying to ykw. And for telling that other guy it was weird he was texting you about where you could have gone, cos it is.

We really do both deserve better!

I wish men came back for more. I waited a while, got to know each other then gone. Although right now the thought of a friend I shall call him Mr pilot in his uniform is quite a nice one. I could so fancy him.....well more the uniform tbh. If just friends career takes off he will be away for weeks at a time. Can I accept that? Not sure I would so its probably for the best and I have some good memories so what happens does.

Umm pilot outfit. Yum yum.

How about this for a profile picture www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=38569083

Bloody hell. That picture! Wonder how much he paid for that one.

Sponge, I don't think most guys on the sites are just looking for sex. I had a fair number of dates and only slept with a couple of them but never on a first date. I didn't feel the need to even mention sex before we met. You should never feel obliged to decide whether it's going to happen before and/or the first few times you meet. If it's them asking then you have been unlucky and I would just block them for even asking, cheeky t--ts!.

Poppa, your last sentence made me laugh. I reckon I would have a lot more sucess in my love life if I didn't always punch above my weight . It's a habit I got into a long time ago.

Adams maybe it's just me then? Because it is every man I meet. And not just online, it's ones I meet in RL too. I think the last man I met who wasn't just looking for sex was my nice Ex, and that was 4 years ago .

The soldier didn't expressly ask for it. But I thought it was what he was expecting, and I was proved right. The irony of making it clear I won't be having sex on a first date (in the hope it might get me a second or third) is that clearly now I'm not even going to get to a first date! It would be funny were it not so sad.

You don't need to discuss it prior to meeting. If it's not what you are looking for then you can say this without saying it iyswim. e.g you will make your own way to and from the date.

Just friends stuck around though. For months. Texting daily so I don't get it. If he only wanted one thing he would have moved on surely? See in a couple of weeks time.

I'm peed oaf! Head teacher has been sending nice emails, said he was with his children this weekend. He emailed me last night saying 'do you ever come to his home town', I replied by saying do you ever come to my home town', he replied the next day saying not if he can help it and then a range of other nice things. If he wants to meet up with me, which is what I was taking from 'do you ever come to my home town' (I'm obviously omitting the name of his town for confidentiality reasons), why doesn't he just bloody ask to meet me. Why is it only the really inappropriate ones who ask for my number or to meet me (e.g. the 23 year old today - I'm 41)? I've shown my friend head teachers emails, she thinks he sounds lovely and not at all strange and I'm clear now I think it's just my own paranoia. Is my only option to sit and wait until he asks - no way am I asking. What a bloody shabaz!

You don't have to ask just drop hints. Like I did. Cos that worked......I did after though like after watching a film, texting " I hate watching other people getting kissed, it makes me want to be kissed (hint,hint)" we carried on texting sexy things all night. Obviously don't hint that though.

A few questions for someone starting from scratch once again after too many arseholes.

What do you look for in a man?
When do you mention you have a child/children?

Hi TheSinglePringle (like your name), well, no good asking me, I'm rubbish. I know what I'm not looking for in a man, which is just as good a start as any. I mention children immediately. You wouldn't want a man who doens't want children would you? It's better to be 100% honest IMO. What you're looking for in a man is very individual to you. Just avoid the arseholes.

Hello single I am not really sure. Someone pretty open good looking but not in a specific type of way, who gives non sexual hugs, who is a fantastic kisser who I can talk to and connect with, who won't treat me like I an fragile, but understand, who will check that I am sure, who won't push me to open up, but will listen if I want to, who understands I have occasional flash backs.

I just re read that. Oh dear oh dear. Sounds like I have described just friends. S@*t

Try again these two things I look for

1. They are usher. 2. They are leonardo Di caprio. Nothing less will do like that will happen. Lol.

I am open from the start about having DC. Can't see the point in not tbh.

Yep, I am open too. My attitude is that if you want me you want my son too, we are a package

time - I have come across this guys profile before

singlepringle - hi, I would agree I mention dd very early on, if we are chatting abit and he asks what are you doing this weekend I slip it into conversation like 'taking my dd to see friends' or something like that. It does say on my profile that I have children.

I dont know what I am looking for in a man, but hoping to meet a decent one.

MyLittleMiracle, does he also have to be a Kylie Minogue fan, know the words to Broadway musicals and enjoy shoe shopping? I've got mates who would fit the description, but they only kiss other blokes. :)

extremely off-topic. just won tickets for London premiere of JOHNNY DEPPS new film, tomorrow night. am in dress-panic.

he's single now, right?

He is into his music, but nope to the rest of it but I have girl mates for that.

I have been talking to someone else. Who seems financially WAY out of my league. I started chatting to him and then read his profile which said he was a fairly successful business man. Well seems he is as in indoor and outdoor swimming pools, hot tub, gym, 3 cars one being an aston martin another an audi. I mean come on, how the hell am I supposed to measure up to that? I live in a 2 bed house and am going back to college in September.

snape - you damn lucky woman. Now didnt you have a fab all saints dress?? my god woman, im so jealous. How did your flatmate get on with his date?