When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

betty - agree with the advice you've had. trust your instincts. and don't accept anything less than you're worth.

I don't have much to add by way of an update, other than that work is better, but everything else is still a bit of a disaster, particularly the man situation which is not even worth talking about other than to say it will all end in mytears, as ever.

hope all is well with everyone though - and watch really glad the whole ykw thing is sorted & moreover that you're happy about it :)

Hi all

Good luck with people who have dates this weekend - but from the posts not so many as last weekend. Ive kinda got a date with someone from RL on Saturday night. Hopefully he will erase my memory of wank-shower boy .

Ps congrats Zany.

Bucket always trust your gut instinct

I am going out with Mr Nice tomorrow night (well suppose it is Friday now). And he has said he will come round and try and mend my curtain pole. What more could I want?

I've got 3 dates penciled in

Second date with the one I wasn't sure about a few weeks back, supposed to meeting this afternoon but not holding my breath as his work has cancelled 2 dates so far.

One this evening, again not sure about but he has been really sweet and is local so thought I may as well

And one who has been texting all week and is really funny but I have feeling real life he isn't going to be a great as he is in text

All a bit meh but I haven' t had a date for weeks so thought I may as well go on these and see

I got an ask sort of yesterday out..... They said to let them know if I fancied it, thing is not sure I do. Do I go anyway, just cos its nice to be taken out? Or do I stay in?

sponge - i take it the barbour is back on the scene? Glad work has picked up in any case.

MLM- id go, just because you never know, but id try and make it a day time coffee, or activity date, takes the pressure off.

mrs cello - loving the ' peniclled in' i had 5 two weeks ago, only 1 ended up happening. But i do like the might as well go attitue. thats kind of what i think sometimes, and you might end up having a fab time :)

I have a date. Have been talking to this one guy ok okc, thats okc that only has about 20 men in my area. Ive only ever had 2 other okc dates in 3 years.. so, well. anyway. we had been chatting for the last few days, he asked for my number, we text abit and the he asked if i would ' let him take me out for a few drinks' - how sweet is that :) so, that will be next weekend sometime. providing he doesnt turn into a weirdo in the meantime.

and yes, i feel fab abdout ywk and i think it was a good thing i found out about the new lies, becauses its removed all my guilt about hurting him :) and put a very definate end to the whole thing. Thank fuck.

Betty - never refer to yourself as damaged goods again!!!!! Lots of life experience, yes - but not damaged.

Miranda - very encouraging that MrNice has offered to mend curtain pole. IMO, you can tell alot by a man from his approach to DIY (and putting up Christmas tree lights).
Seaside & Cellophane - great news about the dates.

MLM - do you like the person enough to go out with them? Will you have an enjoyable evening? Is it worth the baby sitter money?
Chaotic - can't believe you were sent that. I wonder what success rate he gets?

Me - date set for next Wednesday with MrMusic!

crossed posts with Watch - good news on your date too!

I am not to sure. I mean they are fit, local to me, charming yet I am hesitating. Not sure I can be bothered to get all done up. Yet if a certain male said he was popping round in am hour to take us out I would be showered, dressed hair and make up done, bedroom and living room cleaned up.

HI everyone

Thanks again for all your congrats, your comments made me

Betty think of yourself as a survisor not damaged goods

Watch glad you sorted things with ykw - he's not good enough for you if he thinks its OK to lie and mess you around.

Go for it Miracle

p.s. We're going ring shopping tomorrow

Zany!!!!!!!!! If you like it put a ring on it!

Zany - hope you find a gorgeous ring.

MLM - don't make a big effort then. This guy is interested in you already, so you don't need to pull all the stops out. Just get your coat on & have a drink!

I tend to down one before I meet them. Did just friends. It gives me a little extra confidence and if I do something I later regret I can blame the alcohol

mlm - dont go to a whole lot of effort for a first date, its a total waste of time ;)
just go casual, for a quick drink, jeans, heels and a nice top ;)

Zany - enjoy ring shopping :)

Watch, hope potential date doesn't go weird. It's not the Barbour, but I'm still being an idiot. I suspect I am having a midlife crisis due to the fear of being alone and single on my impending birthday...

Well just friends certainly noticed me in it but not a dress. I have a friend that maybe able to baby sit. Just seen a drop dead gorgeous bloke. Couldn't keep my eyes off him. Yum. He looked round twice too so I still have got it

sponge :( if you know its a bad thing to do, then its probably a bad thing to do, and unlikey to make you feel any better about any of those things, you know. And i know its a big birthday soon :) and that might be scary, but you are fantastic, and it is just a number...

30 isn't old though.......anyway ny mummy always told me your as young as the person you feel, so just grope a couple of young lads, sorted. Lol

mlm - add another 10.
:)

sponge - I hit 40 a few years ago just a short while back. I spent my 40th lying flat on my back (sadly not shagging) but because I had slipped a disc. So the event itself was a bit crap - but I am enjoying my 40s so far. I feel soooooooooooooooooo much better about myself and have put the ghastly trainwreck of my 30s firmly behind me.

Have you read Feel the Fear yet? If not, go & buy it - it will be good for you!!!!!

I loved all my milestone birthdays, I love hitting 30, loved hitting 40 and will love hitting 50 in two and a half years time. When you are younger people expect you to look good, as you get older they don't expect that so much so if you take care of yourself you do tend to get more compliments, tis fab

Sponge am curious, what is it about hitting 40 that depresses you so much?

I am in complete denial about my birthday. I am supposed to be having a big party but have barely organised anything for it or invited half the people who are meant to be coming :(

Why though Sponge? It's just another day, another birthday, you will be only one year older than the previous year, nothing drastic is going to change the minute you hit 40. Why don't you like it?

Right sponge, pull your finger out. Make yourself a plan of attack for the party & do it. You'll feel a million times better hitting it large, than if you leave it too late & everyone has got other stuff planned.

Time many things:

I am scared of getting old, my mum died at 54. 40 feels ever closer to that, and a reminder of my own mortality.

Also I just haven't done enough.

On a big scale, I honestly thought by now I'd be married to a decent man, have had another baby, to be happy, and I'm not at all. Nowhere near any of it.

On a smaller scale I'd planned to have all my house sorted by the party and I haven't done that. My party, when I started thinking about it earlier this year was going to be some fab evening to show off how thin I was, how great I looked, how fab my house was, and I hoped maybe I might even have a man in tow. Instead my house is a disaster, I'm fatter, look a mess and have no man to speak of (well none that would turn up to my party anyway).