When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

Adams - date tonight? Tell all! cos I can't remember

Same one I've been dating for a few months.

Oh my Twat radar is working properly. Glad I didn't agree to a date last night. My headache is back. Maybe I need a drink or 2! Although still confused with just friends. Oh well still someone else too, who has a little boy.

I'm not entirely sure whether to laugh or be insulted...

I saw your profile today and thought you looked a really nice genuine lady which is why I am writing to you. however it is a very cheeky but
sincere request.

I work hard and its a really busy time in my work life and I feel pretty stressed out and a bit run down to be honest, so I am looking to find
somebody nice and caring who would be willing to do me a full body massage on a regular basis. I dont feel comfortable going to a salon or
similar...and you dont need to be qualified..

i would of course pay you for this, and I would be happy to come to you for this

If you fancy having a go, please get in touch

I would laugh tbh. Got to havent you? Nothing else to do

I know I said I was unemployed but really...

poppa - thank you for the guys point of view on that one. I didnt feel like I would have to be wrecked to sleep with him, but I didnt really fancy him either. Hes just not my type and I actually fancy very few people, but sleep with quite a few.

I did have a short text conversation about it and he said I seemed fine which is as I though. I dont think he felt accused of anything as he said there are bits he doesn't remember.

post - I think they are nice people, but I dont actually fancy them. although probably feel like I really want some action.

watch - I think that is the problem, the lack of sex in my life at the moment. From the age of 16 - 25 I have always been in a relationship (with a few breaks) but basically always had sex available. Now it is available but not with someone I know well and that I can have it when ever I want it. so i seem to get drunk and want to 'scratch the itch' but afterwards I fell crap and do not feel like I have got anything out of it, I guess its because I like the whole relationship sex and not ons.

watch - glad you are happy with your decision, but can anyone help me with my twat radar? I think I have it and it works well, but I think twatness is the thing that makes me get involved with them cheater, liars and crazy guys come this way

notsure sounds like it needs just a little readjustment. You recognise the twat factor but instead of avoiding them you get involved. I think you need to ask yourself why?

watch glad you've got things sorted re ykw.

I am back on oasis talking to one or two 5 new men.

Right, I'm need a bit more help (I don't know how to score out but actually mean rational perspective). Head Teacher is still emailing me, now I'm thinking he could potentially be a paedo (hope not to offend anyone). Sorry, but he mentions my son quite a bit, although that could be in response to me mentioning my son and he is a primary school head teacher...... or so he says. This site has made me totally paranoid - somebody slap me!!!!!!!

Bucketbetty, what kinds of things does he say about your son? When I was seeing Mr Coffee, I used to ask about his kids quite a bit, as I knew they were a huge part of his life and he liked talking about them. But is he saying stuff that's unusual or disturbing? Also, didn't you say before he was a school inspector or something like that, but now he's saying he's a head teacher? Are there inconsistencies in what he's saying?

He says he's a head teacher but he spends most of his time working with failing schools or something similar. To be honest there's something that's just not sitting right with me. It could be my sense of paranoia and cynicism. He seems a bit too impressed with me and a bit too accepting and a bit too nice. I don't know, I really don't want to be cynical. He only asked how my DS was getting on and what level he was at when in year 2 which would indicate where he should be in year 5 and he asked if I was worried about SAT's. Nothing at all unusual. I need to stop being silly. I've asked him to email me a close up photo (I've only seen a blurred distant photo of him on a beach). I trust my instincts usually but I'm a shakey about this one. It doesn't really matter too much I guess. I'm not giving anything personal away.

Bucket, why are you taking to him if you.don't believe him, and things aren't sitting right with you. You don't have to email people to be polite :) theres always the block button :)
But seriously, sounds like you are unlikey to want a date with him, so Why waste both of yours time sending polite messages?

watchout, the problem is, I don't know if I'm being paranoid. He hasn't asked me for anything and is sending nice emails. He's not asking anything of me and not even asked for a number or a date but again, sending nice emails. If I'm honest, I'm thinking it's a bit too good to be true. A head teacher, 2 kids, good money, down to earth, appears completely normal, really nice to me but..... and there is a but, there's something I just can't put my finger on. I guess I'm looking to you guys to give me some perspective. I've been out of the dating game for a very long time (I've not had you know what for over 3 years). I don't know myself very well anymore when it comes to men. Plus, I had a horrific relationship with a compulsive cheat and liar for 6 years before I became single. I'm damaged goods I guess. Plus, I've had married men and a scam experience so far. But I'm totally normal - honest

Watch pleased you are sorted and in a happy place Tis good isn't it??

Chaotic I'm sorry, forgive me, but that made me laugh out loud. A lot! Even I am lost for words at that one. Except to ask him if he is a member of parliament.

Betty, what watch says. If you feel uneasy about someone don't hang around for them to prove you right, block them and move on. While you are wasting your time on the weirdos you could be missing out on the not so weirdos.

I understand where you are coming from betty, watch assists me with my gut feelings and advises accordingly The thing is, he is causing a reaction in you, whatever it is that you can't put your finger on, we can't tell you what it is because you don't know either, iyswim? All I can say to you is that if someone made me feel uneasy I would perhaps back off a little bit, chat to other men, see if that helps you to see things clearer. Have you managed to find him on google or anything?

Oh, and you are not damaged goods, you are a lovely woman who has experienced damaging relationships, a woman who is now on the journey to discovering herself!! So much better!

Ahw, thanks TimeFor. That's made me feel better.

Good!

And, as a lovely woman starting out on her journey to self discovery, first of all realise that you deserve the best, you do not have to settle for anything or anyone less than you deserve. Set your standards and don't compromise for anything or anyone not worthy of compromise. If this guy is causing you stress then block him, he's not worth the wrinkles he will cause you

Darn tootin TimeFor.... I plan to have me a good un next time round. Sorry, just been watching VIP and come over all Danny Dwyer . No way am I dropping my standards for anyone. I'm having a lovely man next time round. Ok, I might wait a long while, but I'm in no hurry.

Brilliant attitude!! Love yourself so much that you?ll never settle for anything less than amazing, even if that means you?ll have a long time waiting.

Yep me too. Only someone faithful honest loyal trustworthy fit attractive who adored me and my son and worships the ground I walk will do!

We're all singing in unison now. Aren't we fabulous. All those men have us to look forward to. I for one am pleased for them.

All this fabulousness has left me tired. I'm oaf to me boudiour. Night girls, thanks for your wise words. No doubt, I'll be on the page with another up date.

And it's goodnight from me too.