When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

Well, after I decided nothing was going to happen with Mr Coffee, I joined a new dating site at the weekend. And so far I have ... zero messages. Nothing at all. It's depressing.

Milk - so sorry you feel so bad. That's the last thing you need - your friend disappearing after you've had a bad day. I'm in London (well, Surrey now really) too.

Zany - huge congratulations! I'm quite jealous. I've never been married, and would really like to think it might happen one day, even though I'll be hobbling down the aisle on my walking stick.

MLM - so pleased you're getting interest from other men.

I like having interest, they are keeping my mind busy. Which is good I suppose.

I'm 5ft 2 and once had a thing with someone 6ft 6. It's too tall though. I have mostly gone out with tall men up to 6ft 3 has been the norm, although I prefer about 5ft 10, easier to cuddle.

Notsure, it sounds like you are drinking to forget your inhibitions. I suspect that the guys you are dating don't realise how far gone you are not to remember. It might be an awkward conversaton to have but you could say that you don't remember the end of the night and how did you appear. Make sure he realises that you are not blaming him but you are concerned about the alcohol consumption.

Hello daters I've just caught up with all the news above; some lovely pof profiles for amusement for educational prurposes I assume

Zany congratulations wow, how exciting, a dating thread wedding!

Sponge, Time, MLM, Watch, Notsure and all the other daters - shall we throw a big dating thread party with and stuff while Zany gets hitched, we could invite MNHQ to make speeches and whotnot

So, I'm still seeing my very first pof date, its been 2 and a half weeks now and is all very lovely! He's actually asked me to be his gf, which I thought was very sweet

I'm a bit stunned really, my expectations were very very low for pof, but so far so good although a bit of me is expecting it all to go wrong at any time which is why I'm keeping my profile hidden for now but not deleted

Oh and my advice is not to worry about height at all, I'd have passed over my new bf's profile purely because he wasn't tall enough if he hadn't sent me a nice first e-mail and we got chatting on-line... by the time I read his pretty rubbish profile he'd already made me laugh & want to meet him so I broke all my own dating rules!

Ooh a party sounds like a great idea. Perfect excuse to get completely wasted tipsy. Never know in 6months I might have a date to bring. S.h bless him wants to look after my heart.......not sure I can open it again yet though.

zany congratulations

MissK brilliant news

Yes to a thread wedding celebration. Do I have to wear a hat?

adams - do think think it would seem like a very odd conversation? hes keeps texting me so I'm thinking I might just ask him these questions??

MissK - sounds like a good idea i love and lots of

and wow he asked you to be his gf and 2 1/2 weeks, sweet but that makes me cringe if anyone asks me that

notsure, as a bloke I'd say just make sure you make it very clear you're not accusing him of date rape and that you don't regret sleeping with him or anything like that. Make the conversation lighthearted and positive. The last thing he needs is to think what he saw as a cool date with a nice woman that ended up in the sack is going to become a drama. To be honest I don't have that many dates, and most of them start with a declaration that there will be no sex on the first date yet somehow the rules change and we seem to get there that night or soon afterwards but I must be either crap at sex or too much of a headfuck because they soon lose interest.

If the conversation is flowing and you're giving out signs that there's chemistry then most guys will just go with the flow, and as adams has said they might just think you're friendly, flirtatious and willing and not realise you've crossed over from tipsy to shitfaced. Don't beat yourself up about it. Maybe take a step back and limit the drinking next time and see how it goes? If you look at your date and think to yourself "Shit I'd have to be pretty drunk to shag this guy" then there's your answer. I'm not saying not to hook up with guys 'cos it seems at the time you're enjoying the physical side of things, but if you're doubting yourself next day then for your own sake you need to work out just what you want and what the boundaries should be that work best for you.

poppa you sound so wise. And that's why I tend not to drink.

Just friends has just Texted, so all is okay. Just having gotten in from work. I want to do something different with ny hair but what I don't know....curly?

milk - sorry to hear that someone was so unbelievably rude to you - but that is most definitely a reflection on them & not you. Makes me stabby that people can get away with saying things like that. Have you joined anything since moving to London: Zumba, woodwork, book club - whatever you are into? I know its not for everyone, but sometimes it is good to have something new & different, that will definitely be on every week!

MLM - great news about potential other bloke - very good distraction from JustFriends

NotSure - sounds like you don't like the dates you are meeting that much & are forcing yourself to wear beer/wine/vodka goggles!

MissKL - great news that you are now a girlfriend . I was only a little sick in my mouth!

Waves to everyone else.

Milk - I missed that bit in your post.... how rude, and how very dare he! Clever Southerners move north imho You need a collection of south-ist insults ready to throw back at such rudeness directed at your northern charm.

I'll start you off with fuck off you shandy drinking southern softie

or heres a quid softie, now git and buy yersen a life

I know exactly what I want. My list has got a little longer. Just over a week and my front tooth gets fixed. Yay!

Hey I am a Londoner, but he sounds a Prick and deserves it.

MissKeith Haha, I would have loved to hurl a few insults back, but I was at work so not allowed sadly.

He was a cockney. I should have told him to bugger off, and eat jellied eels whilst wearing his Pearly King outfit

No disrespect to any Londoners or cockneys btw. He was just such an utter prick

Fair enough. He sounds like a Prick and technically I come under Kent post code, but live in a London borough.

notsure - hmm, i may have been guilty of the same thing myself, rum and a general lack of sex in my life for 3 years maybe have led to me shagging people i dont really fancy, but just to scratch an itch :) And thats fine, it was what it was, and i dont feel bad about it. Like postbel - id now quite like a mutually exclusive relationship, without the living together and certainally not marriage.
If you feel you need to talk to him about it, do. but really i think that the fact you have recognised this in yourself means you are aware enough and probably know the answers already.

milk - people are fucks.

Im kind of feeling happy :) And i definatley made the right choice about ywk. Yesterday i found out a ton of things he had been lying about, to me and to other people, yet again. The man has issues. I could understand a one off, but not this. And its just made me realise that i did know, which is why ive not got involved and it makes it a whole lot easier to ignore any communication that comes my way :) bye bye ywk.

High fives Watch for having her twat radar fully honed!!!!

yay to me. And my working twat radar that has not been swayed by wealth, empty promises nor good looks.

I knew i shouldnt get involved, and im glad i didnt. Obviously i still became a bit woven up in it all, BUT, thats now done and far better than if i had actually gone for it and had a relatioship with this man.

It's a lovely sunny day today, at work but finish tonight for a few days. Driving home via his tonight and we are going out for dinner. Will get home tomorrow in time for a catch up over lunch with a friend. Happy much .

A fully honed twat radar is a must when dating in this day & age! Glad to see they are functioning on here. I think they should give lessons to girls in school, save them learning the hard way like I did

I saw a quote on someones fb last night which whilst being quite depressing, strikes a cord - 'Truth is, everyone is going to hurt you, you've just gotta find the ones worth suffering for' Jimi Hendrix.

Glad the sun is shining on you Adams - can you send it down to SE England please!
MissKL - couldn't agree more about teaching school girls (along with basic cookery & personal accounting). If I think about it, they should teach it all to boys too!

Post consider it done, tbh I would have sunshine today even if it was a cloudy. I'm so looking forward to the date tonight, and my days off.

'a cloudy' I meant 'cloudy'