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When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

999 replies

ChaoticAngel · 26/04/2012 21:31

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes Grin

As you were....

OP posts:
MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 15:03

Congratulations zany. So happy for you. Now to find me someone to love me (but not marry, cos technically I am nor yet divorced)

hatesponge · 02/05/2012 15:07

I don't particularly mind if they love me, I'd just like someone to marry me Grin(especially as I always had in mind I would only have a big wedding if I got married before 40...which is in a fortnight's time!)

FateLovesTheFearless · 02/05/2012 15:14

Aww congratulations zany! Yes you haven't been together for that long but you have a good while before the wedding Smile really pleased for you both!

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 15:34

See I've been married and mine weren't all that great. Just friends is now back in touch. Really don't get what's going on. He has got a busy career, I knew that when we met, but not sure I can wait, I am used to being disappointed, used to broken promises, but not anymore.

PostBellumBugsy · 02/05/2012 16:01

MLM - what do you want from JustFriends?

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 16:35

Friendship mainly and plenty of his hugs. Which are the only ones that come even close to matching my bestie's and she is 2 trains and the underground away.

adamschic · 02/05/2012 16:40

MLM, if you really don't want anything serious then stay 'just friends' however, if you do then best keep away from him because he doesn't want the major relationship. He's told you this so listen. I'm in the same situation btw so not being harsh.

PostBellumBugsy · 02/05/2012 16:43

I'm rubbish at being friends with people I've had sex with, but I know that some people manage it very well.
It doesn't sound as though he is hugely available for hugs & friendship - but maybe he has just been busy with his job.
If you don't think he can deliver what you want, then now is a good time to move away, before you see him again.

PoppaRob · 02/05/2012 17:05

Huge congratulations MrsYachtToBe! :)
Onya mate!

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 17:10

I have to admit my ex husband was gulp my first. So yep two since but I didn't stay in touch. So never been friends with someone I slept with.

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 17:33

And I know that he doesn't want a relationship. I am grateful of your honesty though. Still glad he has been back in touch. Had almost given up.

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 18:06

Think I might be about to be asked out by someone else.

MsCellophane · 02/05/2012 18:07

Zany - congratulations! So pleased for you

MLM - I think you are hoping he will change his mind, sorry but I don't think he will. I think he will keep you hanging and keep you happy with sporadic texts and meeting up so he can come around for sex. I would seriously urge you to give up, the more you see him, the more you will like him

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 18:09

Hence I an hoping to get asked by someone else Mr 28. Nearly did before....

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 02/05/2012 18:45

Evening all,

Zany Wow, congratulations! That is fabulous news. So happy for you Grin

MLM I think it would be best to try and keep you're mind off just friends. He isn't worth the stress. It's much better to wait it out until somebody who really appreciates wonderful you comes along.

Well, I feel like utter shite tonight. Had a service user be incredibly nasty to me at work today. Sample quote 'Fuck off back home you poor Northerner, and go race a whippet in your flat cap'. I was supposed to be going out, but my friend has done her patented disappearing act like she does ALL the time lately. I wish I had never come to London sometime. I miss my ex so much I want to vomit, and I just feel unbelievably dreadful.

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 18:59

If your in the south east bit, we could meet up for a chat if you like me get lonely

Ooh I am talking to someone already. Just friends is a nice guy, and I think genuine, I know his situation atm, and his career has to cone first, but I wont pin my hopes on him.

Milkandlotsofwineplease · 02/05/2012 19:25

I'm in London MLM Whereabouts are you?

Who else are you talking to? It's very wise not to out all your eggs in one basket. Plus it is a scientific fact that it's easier to get a man when you've already (sort of) got one. Wink

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 19:36

I am talking to a 28 year old and someone who keeps texting. I live close to Greenwich, / lewisham.

notsurewhyohwhy · 02/05/2012 19:47

zany - wow congratulations, that is very quick, but I have never met 'the one' so hopefully will one day feel how you do Smile how exiciting. its nice to hear a really happy story.

MLM - whos the new guy? I think a new guy is just whats in order to keep your mind off just firends.

well on my side, I messaged a few guys last night, one is very good looking in a ruggard way and we have been having a lovely conversation and he doesn't call me bbe?? He seems very polite but still sexy AND he sent me a pof rose today Smile its the first rose I have ever had on there Smile.

also the guy from last friday that I slept with on the first date has been texting me and I havn't been replying so much as I don't really fancy him and I dont want to see him again.
The thing is I have had quite a few ONS recently with people I meet in real life and I am in the process of trying to figure out:
1 - why I sleep with people that I dont actually fancy
2 - why I can't remember much of what happened
3 - If I seem like I am into whats going on at the time or in a passed out drunken state

so I am wondering if I should tell the guy that I don't feel good about what happened with us, and try to find out some info from him about if I seemed like I new what the hell was going on?

It might seem a strange conversation to have with him, but usually I just throw the guys out of my house in the morning without giving them my number etc. And I feel like maybe I owe this guy an explation as he does seem nice enough. And I dont want him to think I was just looking for a ONS.

notsurewhyohwhy · 02/05/2012 19:48

also is anyone else having trouble with the POF iphone app?

notsurewhyohwhy · 02/05/2012 19:56

OMG - the sexy guy who sent me the rose is 6'6 I am 5'2 Shock do you think he has checked my height? I prefer to date guys about 5'10 - 6'2 Shock

MirandaWest · 02/05/2012 20:01

That is quite a height difference. I am 5 foot 4 and around 6 foot ish about my limit I think.

notsurewhyohwhy · 02/05/2012 20:10

i know, but some tall guys like short girls, my friend dated a guy that was 6'4 and she felt silly going out with him and blamed it on his heigh but I think she just didnt like him so much Grin

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 20:28

Well the new guy is 28 and I am awaiting a date request, the other s.h has been texting for a while and seems keen, and quote sweet and romantic.

MyLittleMiracle · 02/05/2012 20:33

Well the new guy is 28 and I am awaiting a date request, the other s.h has been texting for a while and seems keen, and quote sweet and romantic.

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