When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

I'm sure he would have liked a birthday pole dance MLM but sadly I have no pole dance skills

watch - it sounds like a horrible situation, I'm glad you are staying strong with this guy.

MLM - don't text him, if he hasn't replied to 2 texts I would wait to see if he contacts you.

miranda - i'm happy for you that the date went well

well on my side nothing exciting going on, i really want to know why the guys I am attracted to have rubbish conversation is it simply the case that I have terrible taste?

the guy I had a date with on friday has been texting me, and I have replied a little but speaking much less then we did before we met. i dont want to see him again but also i don't want him to think I just wanted a ONS because I really didn't.

This one on POF is nearly perfect...if you believe what he says that is

Hello, i'm Andy. I've decided that nothing I say here really matters. I'll make a list of my flaws, and if you're still interested then message me.
1)I have moved back home with my mum and dad after my last relationship broke down (get over it it's temporary)
2)I do not have a degree....i've got a degree in LIFE! That will do just fine ;)
3)I do not currently have a million pounds. I will in the future. Yeah, patience is a virtue.
4)I'm a straight man, but I like singing in the shower, dancing to cheesy music and i know words to songs from musicals....is that a problem? If it is move on.

That's about it for flaws...

I've just realised where we're going wrong, we're looking in the wrong places for men. Having read a few profiles they seem to either be at the gym or wandering around the countryside

Yeah, I bet it is! That's about it for the flaws he realises he has!

I reckon the majority of men are sat at home in front of computer screens expecting to meet the love of their life. Just like us!

I could use some advice please. I've only been internet dating for around 4 or 5 weeks. No dates yet, just a few email exchanges and one swap of numbers but none have amounted to anything - in other words a few emails and text messages back and forth but then nothing, nada nil! Anyway, I suspect I've also had a scam soldier in Afghanistan. I'm a bit wary and not naive enough to think that all are what they seem (I've had a few 'openly' marrieds saying they're in polyamorous relationships). So, I've had a few emails from a guy who's photo isn't clear, he says he's a head teacher but uses 'u' instead of 'you', doesn't use the right punctuation (not terribly so), states on his profile that he has a pretty high profiile job and has also indicated he earns up to £150k. Ok, not terrible. But my intuition is saying something's not right, but I'm also mindful that I'm being a little bit suspicious as a result of reading some of the stories on here. Any thoughts?

Personally, if my intuition tells me something isn't right, then I listen to it. it's too easy to lie when hiding behind a computer screen so I make no apologies for being suspicious. If these men are making you feel uneasy then block and move on. Internet dating is meant to be fun so don't allow it to cause you any stress whatsoever

I wouldn't bother if I were you. He sounds either like a compulsive or is scamming.

I have now heard from just friends, a few texts swapped but I feel sad still.

Ooh, just discovered the 'meet me' bit on POF and am happily clicking away on no so far

MLM, but what if he isn't and is a head teacher? Actually, no, I don't think he is. I don't think a head teacher would use okcupid and I don't think he would use text language. He also states on his profile that he played drums with a famous band once. The more I think about it I think he's a bit mental actually. Why am I attacting mental people? I'm quite sane. I have a good job, I'm well educated and have a pretty photo on my profile. WTF? I'm doomed to forever singledom.

betty said in the nicest possible way but, get a grip!

The fact you are a good catch is exactly the reason why you are getting messages from undesirables. It is also the reason you will also get messages from nice men. But it's a waiting game, and you have to sort the wheat from the chaff. You will soon learn that there is a heck of a lot of dross to wade through but hopefully you will also learn not to take it personally, because it's not personal, how can it be when these men don't know you personally?

Have you seen anyone you like? If so then try sending a message, be proactive, don't just be a sitting duck for the dickheads

You should see what I get on mate1 errrggghhh majorly nope, I have had 50 year olds message me.....I am 23!

I am getting in a shower watching whatever I feel like, doing my belly exercises and going to bed.

Wow! Just, wow! www.pof.com/member18854691.htm

And what's all this about?? [http://www.pof.com/member35204285.htm]]

Time, I'm exhausted reading the first profile. I bet he's a right bore in the flesh. I can look at these POF profiles now but couldn't the other day.

Time I am almost speechless.

Not in a good way of course.

betty it's true what Time says, the more of a catch you are, the more dodgy messages you'll get. I of course am inundated with messages from weirdos . Expect to instantly delete about 90% and you won't be disappointed. Of the remainder, at least 5% will peter out after the first couple of messages. That will leave you with a few who you'll continue to message (until they reveal themselves to be a fraudster, delusional or a bit of a perve) and you may end up going on a date(s) with (see above).

Very occasionally a good one comes along, but it is occasional. In 3 years I've never got to a second date (and that's no bad reflection on me, because I'm great, they were just stupid!). Others strike lucky on their very first date. It's luck, chance and a lot of looking for a needle in a haystack.

"I am a strong believer of gender equality and I do not shy away from household chores. In fact, I am an excellent cook, which is one of my favorite hobbies."

Translation...you can't tear him away from the bbq but he wouldn't know where the kitchen is

I've had another email from the head teacher. He's finds my honesty very refreshing and has told me the reason he hasn't found anyone through work is because he's the boss and it's not the done thing. Which of course is absolutely true. And actually, I'm in a good job and can't go out with my staff. Maybe he is who he says he is after all (wishful thinking). I'll keep you informed. Timeforme - thanks YOUR honesty It's just the kick up the arse I needed.

Oh, and what did I say about the soldier yesterday - 'very polite' . Hahaha.

Not so much as it turned out, given that he sent me a cock pic (needless to say entirely unrequested!) this afternoon

I was very unimpressed and told him it was totally inappropriate. He apologised but I think just because he felt he had to iyswim. Worse still, when I asked him why, he said he thought it would make me smile! Really? I suspect actually that was what he wanted to think I would think.

God men are irritating!

I wondered if those particular profiles would go some way to making Betty feel better. I mean, it could be worse!

adams POF has changed again, you now have to upgrade to paid membership to see your sent messages, which also show you when the recipient was last online. Maybe it won't be long before they are joining the ranks of those sites which require membership to send messages, then we will be forced to go outside and actually meet people!

betty if you want to check him out, just ask him what school he's HT at. Quick google search with that info should reveal if he's on the level or not. Alternatively if you know his full name, try googling that. You can find out all sorts of info about people on the net quite easily, as long as you have something to get you started!

I have no idea why men think that we would be interested in a cock picture - lets face it, they arent the most attractive things to look at are they?