When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

Thank you post I will now stop feeling sorry for myself, resist urge to text him and get my butt to the library and find out if I can get on the course I want.

hmmm. strange evening. Turns out the gf is leaving for her phd in july, so thats the ' breaking up'

i told him it confused me, he asked if i thought he wsa happy. i told him it wsant for me to say and he must have been at some point. He told me i must have been because i stayed married. I hung up. He knows what happened in my marriage, thatwas low of him.

furious i called him back, had a go and then left the conversation when he told me it was difficult to get out of his situation and that patience was all that was needed and how it was clear to him he made a mistake when he moved in with her.

Essentially its all bollocks :)
I stand by what i ogiginally said.And damn, i am worth more than that. and id bet anything on him getting my earlier message, chosing to ignore it, and upping the anti.

Weird conversation Watch. Think your conclusion is right though. Not a whole lot of detail there, but it does sound like he is hedging his bets.

oh watch sorry i know you care about him but he sounds like a cmplete arse and are so so much better off without him. I however on the otehr ahnd am resisting, just about teh urge to text just friends, but what to say? I dont even know anymore, maybe just leave it, oh well life is a bitch as they say! My stomach is growling but cant eat at the moment, will be in about 20 mins anyway! Sitting working out what exactly to message him, just one last message....MAYBE?

Don't message him MLM. Resist the temptation & delete his number from your phone!

Yes watch you are worth more. He is making the mistake of thinking you are the same person he was dealing with many months a go. He has no idea how much you have changed since. You cannot be played, manipulated, conned or guilt tripped into anything!

yeah, its just rubbish. he admitted he may have kept me waiting aroudn a while. or over 2.5 years.

fuck that. i dont think they are splitting up, rather he wants to see me bfore then, see what happens, then come july, he can make a decision.

im not being part of that. And as much as i might like a relationship, and could do with a hug - see my threas in aibu - fuck that.

Watch - He does sound like he is confused! Dont let him confuse you, keep a clear mind and you are doing the right thing by stepping back from all of this.

MLM - get your high heels on. Pay no more thought to Mr No text

Miranda - As soon as he is through the door, hand him a drill. I couldnt get a curtain pole up by myself and I wouldnt hesitate to ask

No news from me. The ONLY men I attract are when I am in or outside a discount supermarket. Last night it was Aldi. I was in the car park putting on some lippy for no reason and a bloke in the next car hooted, wound down his window and shouted "you dont need that love!". This was after a man inside gave his place up for me at the till. He was buying 8 cans of strongbow, 5ft 4 and had eggagerated movements of gentlemanly behaviour. He swept his hands grandly over the cans and said "you go ahead love, I aint in no rush". So I did. He must have asked 12 times if I was alright and then attempted winking.

I don't get the impression he is confused. I get the impression he doesn't like to be alone and needs someone 'reliable' to fill the gap his present woman is going to leave. Watch, I can't help but wonder if this guy is a bit of a narc, in that he loves attention, needs his ego stroking, the industry he is in suits him very well. I think you will do best to keep a friendly distance between you, if only to prevent you from being hurt.

I've just been scrolling through some of the 'will replys' on POF. One of them had put pics of himself with a couple of his better looking friends...gorgeous looking horses

watch I know you care about him but he's coming across as a disrespectful arse. I think he's read your email and chosen to ignore it and in doing so ignored your feelings too, sending the message that the only person, and their feelings, he considers to be important is himself. Agree with Time you need to keep a distance, even cut him off, if only for a short while, if possible.

I am at the play park with little man, if it gets to rain I will have to go home but o don't feel like going home yet.

I've just been scrolling through the 'viewed you' section on POF. It looks just like a crimewatch advert I'm chatting to a seemingly nice man though, bit too far way for anything regular to happen and he's not exactly what I would go for...

I need some hobbies! I need to mix with real life men! I just do!

I've just logged back onto OKCupid and posted my profile bit from POF onto there. I've also done it on Oasis. Previously, I've left the 'what you do' bit blank but I've also put it to unemployed. I know it'll put some off but it felt a bit deceitful not to put it on and at least if someone decent does bother to contact me I know it won't be an issue.

Time I'm going to send you my profile. If you don't mind could you read it through and see what you think.

When people ask I always reply with oh I'm a SAHM, I might have to visit the play park a little more often. There is a nursery they are doing work to and a couple of the builders I wouldn't mind.

MLM there was that option on one of the sites iirc but my DC are 17 & 19 so it doesn't seem right somehow.

Fair enough, my ds is 2 and I plan on going college in September, following my dream to work for the c.p.s.

Poor you two late teens. I have hears back......finally. not much though. Doesn't seem too keen to see me either.

Hello :)

Had a good day :) Have to admit that we were concentrating oh other things rather than the curtain pole ;) Alrhough he did say he could try another time.

Even had a bit of discussion about what both of us want out of this dating thing (have decided after lack of communication in marriage being a problem that am going to talk more sooner. Both of us seem to be along the same lines of not wanting anything major relationship wise but liking being with each other. Is most bizarre alrhough also good :)

Seeing him again on Friday where I have demanded a meal out

Miranda that's good. You're right to be open from the start, that way there is less chance of misunderstanding each other and now you know that you're in agreement with what you both want, whatever happens :)

Ooh, yes, definitely nice meal out.

Chaotic I have replied. and good on you for being honest about being unemployed. I just avoid the subject but I am going to follow your lead and do the same, I guess that if the man is the right man then it won't bother him.

Miranda I'm pleased you had a good day but I am very disappointed that he didn't make time to fix your curtain pole!

Woohoo Miranda! Was very tempted to make a slightly dodgy pole pun - but am going to restrain myself!

Im sure there are worthy pole puns .

Am sure he would happily have stayed longer but I needed to get children from school. Am slightly waiting for something to go wrong but until it does I'll stay happy. Is his birthday today - he said he had a lovely time.

Glad you had a good time miranda

If someone actually asks I say I am currently looking after my son whilst resettling in a new location and going college in September then discuss what I want to do.

Hope you didn't give him a birthday pole dance miranda you can slap me for that, do feel free to.

Awh, I'm really pleased for you Miranda, and I'm pleased you are taking the positive approach and staying happy, no point in worrying about something that may never happen, we could well have another thread wedding!!

Talking of weddings Zany, did Mr Yacht propose yet?

I updated my profile on OKCupid and Oasis to include the fact I'm currently unemployed and updated my profile to the same one as is on POF.

On Oasis, I had someone send me a flirt a week or so back, I returned it, he sent a second one. I returned that and he sent a third one so after updating my details/profile I sent a contact request. He accepted then deleted At least I'm not going to have to waste my valuble time on him.

I'm not in a rush to have a relationship, it's a nice to have rather than a need to have atm, iyswim. I can wait for the right one and who knows he may come sooner rather than later but if not then I have other parts of my life that I can concentrate on.

Yes, zany any updates on the mp?