When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

Now that nothing's going to happen with Mr Coffee, I'm back on the dating sites after a 3-month gap. But there are so few men who I'm interested in! I'm trying not to be fussy, but either I'm not attracted to them (this is the case with most of them) or I read their profile and don't think we'd get on, or I like them but from what they say in their profile I can tell they wouldn't be interested in me. I think I'll give up for tonight and try again tomorrow.

Think I'll do that libby - I do have some child free time next week but will probably actually want to be person free . Cat is acceptable (just) although she does get locked in the kitchen at night!

I need person-free time too! And definitely dating-free time, as I find dates emotionally exhausting!

Ah, I'd love a cat ... used to have one and am planning to get another after I move house.

I need less free evening time. I get lonely. But don't want loads of different men. Need more female friends.

Back from my date with Mr. Runner and ..... my oh my look at the time! Spent 2 hours in the car park snogging (classy) after we got kicked out of the pub at 11.30. And yes 6 foot 2 and eyes of blue. Really lovely guy, maybe abit too delicate for me (I'm hard), but I think we're a good match. Watch this space..

Well it would be less classy if you spent two hours in the car park doing the unthinkable! I personally have never done that lying little cow well ok not a car park just everywhere but LOL

Sounds like a great night charlottesmum. And 6 foot 2 - I'm so jealous! Have you arranged to meet up again?

Morning All, I dip in and out of these threads and I need some of your lovely advice. I've been internet dating for about 18 months off and on but also have a lovely man lurking in the background who I went to school with. I'm going out with him again next week and we have seen each other off and on since he separated from his wife almost a year ago. In between meet ups, we rarely go a fortnight without some sort of text/email contact - usually initiated by him. I think he likes me and I certainly like him. Some of my concerns about this man have recently gone away so I have no other excuses to push him away.

How can I approach the subject of where this is all going? I'm too old to invest too much emotion in something with no future but whilst this causual approach is going on, I don't seem to want to pursue other opportunities. I've got a very nice doctor that I see from time to time but I am keeping him at arms length at the moment.

Any advice for an emotionally stunted, pertrified middleaged woman that feels she has met her soul mate but gives off the opposite signs?

Thank you.

Feedback - has anything physical happened with the man you went to school with, or are you just friends?

Feedback, I'm not sure if I have anything useful to say but can you just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is, or do you feel the need to know what his 'intentions' are?
Is it that you feel he is getting more out of the arrangement than you are?

Perhaps, since he seems to be taking a casual approach with you, you could assume thats all he wants and keep your own options open?

feedback if this were me I would be perfectly honest with him. I would ask him if he saw us as friends or if he felt there could be something more between us. I would tell him I need clarity as I am actively seeking a relationship and need to know where to where to concentrate my energies, in his direction or in the direction of others. If this is a man who you can see yourself in a relationship with, don't be afraid of speaking frankly with him

feedback these girls advice is good. I agree, and if you aren't good with words like me I am pretty crap send a text and find out. Neither of you feel awkward either.

Mr Nice has stopped going on about ex wife (good) and I didn't mention anything at all so seems like it was a momentary blip. And if not he can be consigned to history.

We are definitely meeting on Tuesday . Am alternating between and . Although main feeling is .

Having discussed what we both like we seem to be along the same lines so hopefully not too much of a shock. Or something like that anyway.

Heating seems to have gone wrong. May need to be very active on Tuesday

Possible overuse of emoticons there

Glad some people are being lucky. Haven't heard from just friends since yesterday. Think I scared him off :( never mind, things could be worse. At least I didn't get too emotionally involved.

some folk seem not to realise how bad it makes them look...all that slagging off the ex!

I have just unhidden my POF profile and set it to ie, so I'll give it a bit of time and see what lands in my net.
Had a browse through profiles in my area and age range, male and female, a few are intelligent and well written.
Most are just dumb, the standard of literacy is pretty low, and even people with a reasonable command of grammar just spew out vacuous cliches...I actually think the womens profiles are worse

Yes, it's not good when people slag off their ex, especially in the first few meetings. I had one first date where the man spent half the meal slagging off his ex wife. I assume he wasn't interested in me so thought he might as well take the opportunity to have a good moan. But it was SO unappealing. Surely, however bad your relationship with your ex is, you should know better than to spend a first date moaning about it?

Am giving Mr Nice the benefit of the doubt re ex as was two texts and no more. But that is my tolerance level I think.

MLM do you normally hear from him every day? Hopefully he'll be in touch again soon.

Loves, good luck with the fishing. Nothing wrong with seeking IE if that's what you fancy, I'm sure you will be inundated with offers.

Feedback, I would find out how he feels and what he wants before spilling your emotions to him. Ask him if his feelings are growing and/or is he happy with your current arrangement. Then decide whether you are happy with his answer.

Charlottesmum, are you going to see him again .

Andlibby I dont think it's so much a lack of interest in you...more that he is so consumed with bitterness/bad feeling, so unable to move on and let go that he cant stop himself from steering every conversation back to the subject of how bad his ex was.

He's worn such a deep groove with his endless ruminating that he is almost unable to think any other thoughts.

Plus he lacks the insight and sophistication to realise this just makes him look like a 'bad news person' who attracts other 'bad news' types.

Birds of a feather....

We do normally text everyday, but nothing since lunch time yesterday but he did say he has a really bad chest infection.

thanks Adams!
got a potato in my net:
www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=22284489

oh! another one:

www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=31435035

well it sure is making me LOL alot!! :o

Anyone want to watch a fit 19year old shower? Your welcome to him.

there's one guy who looks fanciable, but his user name is something like 'unlucky'
:(
so umm not much of a positive thinker then
has he never heard of 'self fulfilling prophecy' :o

will he pay me quite a lot of money to watch him shower, and make it a very quick shower :o

Or 2? Come take them