Things you'd like to say to your ex

[dictionarydiva]

Hello one and all

I am a bit new here but I'm really enjoying the site. This is my first topic, so be gentle with me

I have searched and can't find a thread like this, so I am starting it. I know we have the red flags, but this is more about all the things bursting to come out of you!

So... my question is, if you ran into your absolute tool of an ex that you don't normally have contact with, unexpectedly, what would you REALLY like to say to them?

Mine would be this:

"You are a short man with very few hairs on his head. It is no longer 1996. You are not in This Life. Get some normal middle aged man glasses and some dignity. Oh, and move back to where you jolly well came from!"

come on, unleash it!

P.S this was inspired by running in to my ridiculous ex boyfriend on the train this morning. In reality, I was very polite.

Nothing. He is not worth me wasting any words on him.

I would like to say the following:

1. You are losing your hair - accept it.
2. You were always a crap lay.
3. Your children are better off without you in their lives because they are nolonger shouted at 24/7 nor do they fear what they can say.
4. You take no resposibility for what you have done - house in a mess, debt etc, and I hope that when the older OW comes to terms with what you are shortly.
5. Actually it turns out NOONE liked you - not even members of your own family.
6. You never even tried to make our marriage work, you just walked out at the first sign of a problem.
7. Really do you think affairs started on fantasy game websites are going to last?
8. You are responsible for your own actions - you are rubbish at your job and its YOUR fault not anyone else's.
9. You have done nothing but lie since walking out nearly eight weeks ago

AND FINALLY 10. You do need a solicitor to get a divorce - idiot!

I would start by introducing my ex to my 3 beautiful children!! They are no longer your children, your gave up the right to be their dad 5 years ago when you failed to show up and never bothered again.

Your wife is a manipulative stalker who needs to get her own life and not try to find out what I am doing.

Thanks for the child maintenance, it gives me great satisfaction every week that you are soooo pissed of about paying it. Only 6 more years to go!!

Oh and what the hell have you done to yourself, you look like a chavved up giraffe with those highlights, Lonsdale and bling!!

See ya - arsehole

Lot of anger and bitterness in this thread - aren't these some of the red flags we warn against?

I am sorry you were so hurt as a child.

I am sorry you cant bring yourself to face these demons, and free yourself from them. Because they are ruining your life but its your choice

You are a sad husk of an excuse for a human being and to be pitied.
You wouldn't know the truth if it stood up in your soup.
Stop treating your only child like someone you once briefly lived next door to.
Buying suits that don't fit off ebay is not a good move.
You will never know your grandchildren.

But I would be wasting my breath because he doesn't give a shit.

Sorry, do I know you?

Drop dead

BALIA - wooow.

You are so a better person.

You need to be in therapy, stat!

I don't think I'd say anything. It all seems like so long ago...

To long ago ex: you are tightfisted and mean. You are a weak individual and that is no-one else's fault. And you were not good in bed.

I'd like to say "I'm so over you, you cunt."
But I'm not ... I'm still putting myself back together and have a permanent injury from his rapes. The only positive thing I could say is that being with him showed me where I needed to work on myself. And I did say that.

Oh, and that I'm proud he left me, because it means he couldn't control me completely. I probably said that, too, it's all a blur.

To ex #1 thanks for two beautiful children, shame you were such a sackless piece of shit you couldn't be arsed staying in our daughter's life or bother to find out if I'd given birth to another daughter or a son (he left me pregnant) your loss, they're amazing..(a son btw)
Ex#2 it was like shagging a yeti.. seriously..no man should be that hairy!! And you said you were my last chance at happiness.. were you kidding? You arrogant, self absorbed arse..oh and you had moobs.. and I hope the next woman you kissed after me wasn't treat to the same line "was it everything you thought it would be?" Who says that, honestly? I actually had to stop myself from sniggering.. and for what it's worth, no, it wasn't, it was bloody awful!
And then I'd thank them both for fucking off or I'd never have met my gorgeous DP who has shown me what a proper loving relationship is!!

Why? why? why? Gone but never ever forgotten. God I'm so sorry that I didn't protect you. I didn't know you were so down. I though when I got back from those months away that we would have a fun Christmas with our friends. I didn't know you were saying goodbye to me. Were you trying to tell me? I thought you were just being sentimental because of the time apart. I told you to stop being silly. You told me to always remember I'm beautiful. How much you loved my red hair. I told you to stop being silly. I couldn't find you. I tried for hours and I was hysterical, crying - I must have known before I knew. I loved you. You could have told me. WERE you trying to tell me? Why didn't you tell me about your previous episodes? We were kids. We were twenty years old. I'm a mum now darling and when I think of your Mum I can't bear to think of her pain. You haunted my dreams for years sweetie. But now I just dream calm dreams about that time and you're ok. Still here. We talk and look at each other and hold hands. You know I didn't believe you were dead for such a long time. They wouldln't let me come in the ambulance. I held this belief you were alive. Even after the funeral. I'm sorry I couldn't stand up and do the speech at the funeral when I was supposed to. It haunts me still I let you down yet again. I still carry you with me - that big deep voice and coy smile. Your protective hugs. You were old way beyond your years. You kept so much from me that I only found out afterwards. You could have shared it. I would have helped you if you'd let me. I'll never forget you.

Wow, Sarah, that's terribly sad. Don't beat yourself up about it, it's not what he would have wanted. Un-MN ((hugs))

Didn't mean to hijack. Sat here wracked with sobs - not let it come to the surface in a long time. I started typing and it just poured out. Just so worng that it happened. Wonderful person - good through and through. That's the power of these forums sometimes I guess.

Huge hug, Sarah.

(hugs) from me to Sara

eat shit and die you dirty lying disease ridden scumbag i hope one morning you wake up and your cock has fallen off

A hug from me to garlic and sarah -I have tears in my eyes
May you both go forward and heal

Sorry to hear you're bankrupt.. Again. And living in a caravan. I'm on 60k with a 4 bed house. Just as well i didnt jack iny degree and fo work at tescos like you wanted, as it was more money than the student loan. Your kids are fine, one just finished his degree. 2.1, The other just got promoted and engaged to a lovely lass. so proud. Pity you never stuck around to see any of this.

I will most likely ask how his mother is doing.

The only ones I still think about sometimes?

To my first boyfriend
Thank god I got away from you, you drug using, woman-beating, worthless piece of shit. The scars have healed now, physical and emotional. I can hardly see them anymore. I have never let any man treat me that way since you. When I tell people about the last day we saw each other they list it as one of the best break-ups they?ve heard of. I didn't mean to break your wrist, it genuinely was an accident. But I really think you deserved it after attempting to rape me. I?m glad you?re in prison these days; it?s the only place for scum like you.

To my first real love (who cheated on me with my then best friend)
Well I hope you?re fucking happy. You told me I was a waste of your time and that you hadn?t loved me right from the start, told me you didn?t care that it hurt me, that I should have taken more care of your needs (I was 18 FFS!!)?. I hope you?re happy now that you and all the rest of us have found out what She?s really like, I hope you?re still as frigging pleased with yourself as you were the day you told me I?d never be as good as her, and that I should take a leaf out of her book and play hard to get (we were supposed to be in fucking love!!). Now that she sits on her arse all day on facebook leaving you to care for the babies then goes out to meet her other men that the whole world knows about by the way. Now that she point-blank refuses to come off the dole and spends all your money on weed and clothes for herself. Now that you?re being investigated by social services for her neglect and abuse towards the children. Now that she?s threatened to take them away from you and never let you see them if you dare to leave her. I hope you?re happy that you chose this, you cruel nasty lying prick.

To the man who almost broke me
You stole two years of my life with your crap, telling me you loved me but didn?t know what you wanted. I?ve long-since known you were still fucking your ex-girlfriend. You don?t have to admit it. And you also don?t have to admit that at the same time as getting me pregnant you were embarking on a brand new relationship with your male boss. I found that out not long after our daughter came too soon and left us forever. The night our baby died I decided you had let me down for the last time. Even now, all these years later, I still grieve for our poor beautiful little girl, so perfect and still. I still dream about her, still kiss her good night. That pain far outweighed any sadness I felt about you, made me realise how irrelevant you and your self-pity really were. Any feelings I had for you died with her. Your weedling little messages asking how I am these days have no affect anymore, in fact I just wish you?d stop bothering. I want you to know I?m happy now. Sharing a life with a man who loves me, who has a future planned with me, who offers me everything you were too "tortured" to even consider. Have a nice fucking life.

Oh my, that got long! Once I started I couldn't stop, I really needed that!! There?ve been a few exes but only these 3 did actual damage; in fact I probably owe a few apologies to the ones that came in between these, who had to deal with the fall-out. That last one is the main one I really want to say the others are enjoying their bad karma already.

Thanks for this thread OP!

number one - sorry. even though you wore nasty cords and drank too much, marrying you for a bet was really immature.
two - you were boring. thanks for the recipes
three - you were nicer than I gave you credit for and a really good dancer
four - we were toxic but I'm glad we are friends now
five - you made number 3 look like truman capote but you got my patio done
future ex's - bed and breakfast only, please