Things you'd like to say to your ex

[dictionarydiva]

Hello one and all

I am a bit new here but I'm really enjoying the site. This is my first topic, so be gentle with me

I have searched and can't find a thread like this, so I am starting it. I know we have the red flags, but this is more about all the things bursting to come out of you!

So... my question is, if you ran into your absolute tool of an ex that you don't normally have contact with, unexpectedly, what would you REALLY like to say to them?

Mine would be this:

"You are a short man with very few hairs on his head. It is no longer 1996. You are not in This Life. Get some normal middle aged man glasses and some dignity. Oh, and move back to where you jolly well came from!"

come on, unleash it!

P.S this was inspired by running in to my ridiculous ex boyfriend on the train this morning. In reality, I was very polite.

Your dick is f**cking useless. Please get help with your premature ejaculation or other women will have to suffer.

You fucking wanker. I hate your guts, You're a coward and can't face the truth. I can't believe I wasted 10 years of my life with such a waste of space, your DS who was barely 4 wo when you left and your then 1 yo DD will grow up to know that their daddy, isn't worth the time of day. They will know what real love feels like and have a male figure to look up to, but it will NEVER be you and I'm glad you're not in their lives. At least they have a chance at a real life now and not one dominated by a controlling, aggressive fuckwit. I could never imagine my life without you, now I can't even imagine you being around, I'm glad that you left me up shit creek, with a newborn DS and 1 yo dd. Not that you care, but your daughter is walking around by herself and you son is turning into one of the funniest babies I have ever seen. I hope that whoever she is, is worth it you complete dickhead.

Wow, that felt better than I thought it would. Thank you OP. Needed that.

Your nearly 50 and you dress like Michael Jackson! You use women you little big shit head fucker......thanks for my beautiful kids you see only after I harrass you...why cant u put your kids ahead of your self/biatches/watching tv/just about everything...

No its not cool to pretend to be a dj for a job....oh and thanks for the £100 you gave me (first cash in 6 mths) so very very thankful as it helps so much with everything else I am now responsible for.....

I hate you with every fibre and hope you shivel up and dry up

You did tell some lies to keep me put.

Not ALL men think foreplay is boring.
You didn't end up being the only man who could possibly find me attractive or put up with me.
Not all men love conditionally depending on how toned and groomed their partner is.
Not all men enjoy lap dances.
It isn't reasonable to not allow a woman to buy clothes without your approval.
Nor is it reasonable to push women about when you're drunk.
It isn't normal to expect your partner to go home ahead of you after work to freshen up her make up.
When you met someone else and buggered off, it was ok because I'd secretly been in love with someone else for two years but too scared to leave.

I feel sorry for your new wife.

I would say that I'm sorry we hurt each other so much, but we were both young and chasing a fairy tale. That I am now happy and I have beautiful children and that I hope he is too. That I miss him being jn my life but thanks for the memories.

To my childhood sweetheart: We were SIXTEEN when we dated, why is your wife jealous of me nearly 20 years later? She needs to get a grip.

To abusive twunt ex: You are a rapist and a thug. I wish I had gone to the police about you all those years ago.

I would also like to say sorry .

I would simply ask him "why?"

Why were me and our 3yr old son no good enough for him?
Why did he tell me he didn't want any more children as he couldn't "share his love" when he was already having an affair with my friend?
Why does he justify choosing her and her child by saying "I thought you cheated first"?
Why did he think it was ok to miss the important times whist I was out working to pay the mortgage because he couldn't be arsed?
Why does he think telephoning our son on his birthday to announce "you have a brother for your birthday" would ever be a great idea?
Why did you waste 12 years of my life?
Why?

To be said looking as glam as possible "Sorry, I completely forgot your name. Who are you?" - just so they know actually how insignificant they are compared to my fab DH and lovely children.

Yes they - there were 2 people I was convinced were the love of my life before I met DH.

why is it so important to you to be Mr Nice Guy to everyone who is not important yet you can be so cold to ds, yes i will remember the nigths i was in hospital with him and you never bothered to come and see how he was, one night you returned to the bar and called me on teh way home that was my wake up call, you can be so nice yet so cold and yes i now see you can be manipulative and controlling too

and yes i faked it everytime as i just got bored :) you have no idea what you are doing

another ex, i just ask myself why you make my skin crawl i must have been in a very dark place at the time and no i will never respond to your fb requests (not that you can make them any longer) or your emails so fuck off

Two things,

I wish I'd never met you, I wasted five years on my life on someone who never loved me as much as I loved them.

And, I hope you are happy with your other woman, what a waste if you destroyed our life together to be miserable with someone else.

I actually have nothing to say to my ex. We dated seriously for 3years, he was the life and sole of the party and everyone who knew him thought he was amazing, for a long time I felt 'lucky' to be his girlfriend but when I realised what a twunt he was, I made a list of everything...

Went along the lines of...
I know you've been sleeping with my best friend
I know you've been sleeping with my cousin
I know you've been sleeping with half the town
You're violent when your drunk
You're anal about things being in order - control freak
You're a jealous idiot who won't let me speak to another male
You lied about being beaten up for sympathy
You're arrogant and not half as good looking as you think you are
You're a sex addict
You're an attention seeker
You need help and I'm sick of being your mother

I met up with him face to face, read out the list, he denied most of it, claimed I was imagining everything...I turned and left, without looking back. He rang, text and emailed me for months, crying, begging for us to get back, promising to change. I never once replied. After we split, loads came out from friends that he'd been playing around for the whole 3 yrs?!

He'd shattered all my confidence throughout those few years. I did have a wobble a little while later when his mum rang me to say he'd tried to kill himself over me, but I knew he wasn't my problem and it certainly wasn't my fault. Leaving him was the most empowering moment of my life.

Fuck off and Die! Sprang to my mind!

I am glad i left you. you never were there when i needed you. Work came first not me or DD. those words you said when we got back from our honeymoon - "work comes first now" have stayed with me forever. It hurt to stand up in court and go through all your flaws when i loved you, I still do but you hurt me.
Goodbye, Good luck

mumsof4sons - I actually said that to my (D)H - thankfully we are now getting divorced! It did feel good tho!

We all make mistakes, I was a cow to you. I'd like to apologize to your face really, but it's best if we don't speak again.

That was the longest 4 and a half year of my life. You get less for burglary! Only good thing that came out of it was our son.

I don't care about the new woman you have met. You leaving was the best thing you ever did for me and made me realise I deserve better.

What I actually said to him was: your leaving? Hurry up then dickhead here's your shit

No,No,No, I didn't lie, I wasn't deceitfull; you were looking in the mirror when you said that

Oh hi . How are you ? Great , well say hi to ow from me you know she did me the biggest favour because if it wasnt for her I would still be miserable in our dead marriage. As it is because of her you had the spine to leave but felt soooo guilty you settled a brilliant deal on me. By the way you never needed to do that as I got over you more quickly than your ego could ever imagine and lets be honest nothing could really compensate for what you put me through when we were together. Anyway gotta go lovely seeing you and the DC are waiting at home for me byeeeeeee

There's cunts and low life scum and then at the bottom of the shit fill barrel there is you. You vile piece of scum that's deserves nothing more than to rot in a corner of hell for the rest of eternity!

Ahhhh. Thanks for this

I'd tell him yes I did move x many miles away just to get the kids away from you and to make sure your contact with them was minimal and after leaving you it was the best decision I ever made you weasel faced rat of a man.

Actually, I might even say weasel faced rat of a man.

I might say it one day, when I don't have to remain civil for the sake of the kids.

You said I wouldn't do any better....... HA!
You said I would never be happy........ HA!

Thank you for showing me what love is not, what real men aren't and what a real relationship isn't. I would have preferred to learn this quicker than the 8 years it took me but I thought I saw something in you I loved. Now I actually AM in love I can understand that what I actually felt was: Responsibility for you, pity for you, routine with you and ultimately naivety. But Thank You, without knowing that I would not be as happy as I am today.

Oh and blue balls does not exist.
I knew you would drop your son to your ex as soon as I was not forcing you to have contact. He thinks your a c*nt too.
I am not broken, you where just shite.

Do you realise my family and friends refer to you as ballcock ...... he is a plumber.

Our dd is absolutely beautiful. Shame you cannot be bothered to see her.
It was not ok for you to holiday whilst I was giving birth. It was not ok to slam the door in our 3 month old dd's face and threaten to call the police when I brought her to see you. It was not ok to refuse to collect a prescription for our dd when she was ill.

You are a pathetic excuse for a man! Words like vile, callous, useless do not even begin to explain what a waste of space you truly are ! Hope you and your new gf deserve each other.

I would like to say this.

To Mr America. When I met you, I thought you were great. So kind and calm and reliable. So funny. Now I am bored with reading your rants about there being no God, when clearly you hope there is one, and you look a bit sad when you make jokes about having nothing in your wallet.

Remember that time you rolled your eyes at me in bed? You had got yours but I had not, because you didn't like foreplay, and when I asked for your hand, you rolled your eyes and I cried in the shower. I then went shopping and found books on marriage, little books full of little sayings, and I placated myself with that for a while, but when I got home I dug that fact out and thought about it, and knew it was indicative.....

I left you because you are sexist and racist, and you were happy to take money off me, and you drink far too much, and you are the wrong side of 40 with nothing going on, and what if you never make it???? I couldn't take the risk on you, sorry.