Do i leave the kids????

[sunshine2709]

I am currently living in London with my partner (planning on getting married in December), our two year old son and one year old daughter. I recently got accept to a University back home in Scotland so i will have to move back home for sometime.

My partner no longer wishes to relocate even though we discussed it before i applied. So the problem is he wants me to keep the children here with him while i go to study.

From were i will be studying it's around 12hrs on bus away from London. He has said we will see each other every weekend and on holidays.

I would like people to be honest...
Does this sound reasonable? or should i take the kids? (this will make our relationship finish)

If i did leave the kids and in the future something went wrong would i still have rights to my children?

I want this to work but i don't want to lose my kids in the long run.

PLEASE help i would like to try this as love my family but i would love your advice and honesty.

HELP PLEASEEEEEE!!!

Op?
Marking my place

He's a twat. Go with the kids.

(Or find somewhere else to study nearer to London.)

Also marking my place incase op comes back.

ffiw there is no way I would leave my child to go to flipping Scotland!!!

My hubby worked away for 6 months coming back at the weekend and whilst it didn't affect their relationship i was on my knees by Thursday lunchtime it was so so hard.
If there is any other way, find it.

Of course you don't leave your kidss-you defer your course or look for a transfer. Once you have DC they have priority over anything else. Your dp doesn't sound very nice anyway.

So your son is 2, and your daughter is 1?

Perfectly possible and reasonably common, Sarah. I had a victim of domestic violence whose two children were in the same school year.

Oh no Nigel, OP has the ages the wrong way round, that's all.

Ah !

I don't think the OP can be serious here. Is this a wind up?

I can't imagine as a mum leaving 2 young children. You say you live in London, which has an abundance of universities. Why not study here?

Why would it finish relationship if you brought dcs with you?
Why won't he come with you?
Are you happy leaving dcs behind?

Bored now. Op obviously wasn't that desperate for help that she HAD TO SHOUT TO GET ATTENTION

Tchuh

Folk like OP give us number names a bad rap

[folds arms]

And bear in mind University is only free in Scotland for residents. If you have been in Londn long enough to have 2 children then I don't think you would qualify for no fees. That is not based on whether or not you are Scottish (which would be discriminatory) but where you live (also dodgy but that's a whole other thread. Do not leave your children to get a "free" degree and then discover you have a miserable time, your children miss you etc. Your relationship doesn't sound too good if he is forcing this decision on you either.

DP sounds like a selfish twat.

Also, I went away from home to boarding school (I had to because of where we lived) and, even though I was 11 it really changed my relationship with my parents, even though I was happy. Do not leave your children.

I couldn't do it, personally. Weekends and holidays would not be enough for me.

Come back and expand on why these are your only options please OP

Doesn't seem genuine to me....what with the big shout for attention and then deathly silence.

Really? STILL no OP? WHAT IF I TALK IN CAPITALS OP? WILL YOU COME BACK THEN?

Total waste of your time FeekAndWeeble

I'm quite shocked that you are considering only seeing your 1 and 2 year old at weekends and holidays. Poor mites will think they've been abandoned by you and will be damaged by it IMO