The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

Some of them are such show off's aren't they Chaotic.

Tough one, Tolly. Is he still living with his parents now? Personally that would put me off, but perhaps I'm very shallow.

I think talking non-stop can be a sign of nerves - or it can just be someone who doesn't know when to be quiet! I guess only time will tell. Having said that, it sounds like he asked quite a lot of questions about you, and didn't just talk about himself.

Really don't know what to suggest re meeting him again tonight. Personally I like at least a few days between dates, as I like to think about whether I really want to see them again, but then again I'm very indecisive. Do you feel you want to see him again tonight?

Wow Tolly those are some pretty full on questions for a 1st date!

The 1st date should be about finding out what your fave film/place to go on holiday is, and so forth. He sounds a bit forward I think.

Trust your instincts. Personally I think asking you to meet up again tonight is a bit much. He could have just suggested a longer date on another day. That would have been much more 'normal'.

If you don't want to go then don't! Don't be railroaded by a guy you don't know, and owe nothing too!

Oh, and I would be very put off by a guy who had never lived with a woman by 40. Maybe that's mean of me, but I think by that age they are too set in their ways. I had a boyfriend who I met when he was 37, and had never lived with a woman. When we moved in together it was a NIGHTMARE. He wanted everything his way, and was utterly inflexible.

Tolly I wouldn't automatically ditch him because of the living situation. My stepfather was the same and he's a lovely man who makes my mum very happy. The children bit would have me hesitating though. If he really wants them and you don't it isn't worth starting something that isn't going to go anywhere.

Sorry, I'm not much help am I?

With nothing to show either Time

Milk - I didn't live with a man until I was 40. But I have to agree with you - I was pretty set in my ways and it was probably harder to adjust to living with someone than if I'd been younger.

Should point out though that before moving in with him I'd lived with flatmates and on my own for 20 years, not with my parents! It seems to me that men who've never moved out of home don't have much initiative/get up and go, and are used to mummy doing everything for them, both of which are big no-nos for me.

he lives with his parents because he's never found the right person???
he's never found someone who will look after him like mumsy & dadsy more like!
what about living independently like a grown up, managing your own life and all that sorta stuff?

I've followed you from your other thread, Tolly.

He gets a big fat thumbs down from me; either there's considerable co-dependency between him and his dps in which case he'll never cut the apron strings or they signed him up to POF in a last ditch attempt to get shot of him

Also I get the feelng that, rather than being genuinely interested in your opinions, he was 'interviewing' you and I'm wondering what position (no pun intended) he's looking to fill

Liviing with mummy and daddy to age 40 = minimal outgoings = oodles of dosh under the mattress

Waiting for date updates! Love that fizzy tummy feeling before you meet someone for the first time. :). Hope its all going well. :)

I'm in contact with watch, Snape, she is safe, she is happy and her date is "as fit as fuck"

Sounds like there was more bubbles on Tolly's coffee than she got from her date Snapes

A man I know is forty and has married straight from living with his mum. His new wife is very happy with him.

Lot of grovelling later and I'm heading out to see him.I just wanted to know he would miss me if I withdrew.I reckon he missed the friendship more than anything.

Oh God. Are these men for real? Just had a message from Lovestruck from a guy admitting that his date has stood him up tonight, and he's looking for 'naughtiness'

Please restrain me before I put on my best undies, and rush out to meet him ladies

he lives by himself but is actually quite near his parents. literally round the corner. I moved as far to the edge of my town as I could so I wasn't near mine but that's me lol. yep, the children thing bothers me. I wont even contemplate having more children as ended up in high dependency unit when I had dc and will not risk it again. I told him that.
it did seem like an interview! he works in the benefits office sorting out their claims so maybe he's used to just asking lots of questions.
I don't know...

Why are men so short???

Chaotic - man I'm meeting this eve is the same height as me. So I have to either wear flats or be taller than him. Not ideal!

You don't know whether to meet up with Mr 9-5 again tonight, Tolly?

Toss a coin and call 'heads' until it lands head-side up

yeah, at the time I did want to meet him again but I think it's now that I'm getting cold feet. maybe I need to be a bit braver.
Im not always sure about the immediate butterfly things. someone I met up with before I didn't get them the first time
I met him and the second time I almost didn't meet up again. But by third time the butterflies had well and truly set in. I think I maybe have issues lol

Libby no it's not ideal. Maybe it's just me but most of the ones who looked at me on oasis today seem to be my height or a couple of inches taller at most. I'm 5ft 6in which isn't that tall compared to what some of you have said you are.

When I do a search I put from 5ft 10in upwards but would prefer someone around 6ft. Unfortunately quite a few 6 footers seem to either live a distance away or have children. I'm looking for a man without as I know I wouldn't make a good stepmum so avoid that scenario like the plague.

Maybe I should start a group.

I'm Chaotic and I'm heightist

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Hahahaha at 'why are men so short?'. :)

Ooh, watch is having a good time! Yay!

They're not all short Chaotic there was talk of a 16 incher on here the other day

Great idea to start a group, I would join! I'm looking for a tall one too. I'm getting messages from 5ft 6 er's and I'm 5ft 9 and a half!

Time sometimes you can have too much of a good thing

His mother must have drunk Miracle Grow while she was pregnant.