The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

hey fate ;) nice to have you back :)

lrd's are hard, i woiuld never do one, but i spend 13 years in one.. so thats from a vast amount of experience. lol

congrats zany :)

poppa - as time and chaos have said. If you dont like make up, dont message those that wear it, Some men do like it, and some women like it. I love make up :) without it i look ok, with it, way much better and whole lot less ill. Its not plastered on, but i do like big lashes and lots of eyeliner - so shoot me! If anyone ididnt want to date me because i love masacara id say they were a bit of a dick to be honest, and not somone id want to waste my time with.

lazy - as above - dont bother.

toptramp - you are not meant to be arguing before you have even met, its meant to be fun - if its this much hastle now... just dont bother. find someone where its all easy :)

adams - congrats on the phone post. hope the space bar is futher than the . than it is on my phone, else you .will.end. up. posting. like this. ( like i do)
how are you doing now?

date in a few hours... still excited/ nervous/ and very very curious in fact, more curious than anything. am im wondering how my dating critera has ended up that i now go on dates because im baffled and bemused.....
Time - could you text me about 5? is that ok? you can be my get out......

watch, you may consciously be feeling baffled and bemused but apparently most of our decisions are made below the level of conscious awareness (it's true, really, I read it in lots of books )
so, erm well who knows what actually triggers us to meet this man and not that man

Obviously that all means my subconscious is rubbish at making descisions..or it could be good at filtering out serial killers, since I've not met any

Fate nice to see you :)

loves - you may be right. But he is strange - time can vouch for that, i emailed her the entire conversation. Im almost sure its lost in email.. but then about 10% unsure or maybe thinking hes foreign, or maybe english isnt his first language, or hes just stonned. Or maybe is crap at computers? i dont know.

all will be revealed in a few hours
how I hate the dread before meeting someone, I dont ever remember actually looking forward to a first meeting

its awful isnt it - ive been excited a few times, not many, and not for ages though.
date is at 4:30 so ill update from my phone when i get home.

I hope you get a delighted little leap when you see him :)
( rather than the dreaded sinking feeling )

mylittle - i hope things go well for you with just friends.

watch - good luck with your mystery man i hope he is not a crazy person.

well i am wondering if i even have time to be bothered with this dating business, as i am going to have to move house in less then one month as my landlady wants her house back. I am going to have to move into my mums house for a while, so me and dd will be in one bedroom together until I get a new place. and i am going to have to start packing, which i HATE. and i am going to have to put my belonging in storage So do i even have time for this messy dating...

Afternoon all,

Miranda I got exactly the same message as that mailed to me through OKC a few months ago. I wonder if anyone ever actually responds?

Well, all the guys I have been chatting too on OKC appear to have gone quiet on me A shame as I am at a loose end tonight, and could quite fancy a drink with a hot man.

I nearly bumped into the guy I went out with a few weeks ago who told me there was no 'animal attraction' in the street yesterday. He has really weird, slicked back hair. How did I not notice at the time?

The person on OKC I got the message from is scottiedom (am wondering if it is the same person Milk got that message from - or are there several people using that message )

Date in about an hour. Am somewhat nervous

ok, so the chap I was meant to meet with today hadn't messages me all week or replied to my last message so I assumed he wasn't interested and today was off. till he texted earlier to see if I was ok and still wanted to go out. I did say well you didn't reply to my message, which he says he did reply to but it's not showing up (I have had this happen to me? I've fellow and then realised the message never even sent using th iPhone app for POF) so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt and Meeting him at half two. I'm sooooo panicing now!! I have a big spot on my chin lol!!! which is making me feel very self conscious ! what am I doing?!?!!!

tollly - just go. have fun :)

miranda - good luck for your date :)

notsure - he might be a crazy person... in which case time will rescue me with a text.
sounds like you have a lot on at the momment, maybe give dating a rest for a while......

loves - i hope so too.
when i reply to time, if im not running from the pub as fast as i can... ill let her know if at least he is as good looking, so if shes not busy, she could post.

at the dread and excitment you are all feeling at the same time going on a first time meeting. I used to hate it too, when I did it. The one time I didn't feel nervous was with someone I met early last year and we dated for a few months but, sadly, he never gave me butterflies.

Hope the dates go well and look forward to updates.

Fate, are you north of the border? Wow that is some distance, hope he finds a job near you soon.

Surprise, surprise, my EUM has contacted me, only a forwarded text but it put a massive smile on my face . It's the only time he has forwarded something to me so I am naturally overthinking it all and wondering if he does indeed miss me.

Opinions? Go on indulge me .

Oooooo, Good luck Tolly. You go girl! Let us know how it turns out.

Well, I have just spent £37 and signed up to Lovestruck for a month. I've just about given up on the free sites. OKC is like banging your head against a sodding brick wall!

Good luck to everyone who has dates today. I have spoken to my just friends, so all is well here.

I know it's been said before but ... this thread moves so fast!

Good luck (probably too late) to Watch, Tolly and Miranda for your dates tonday. Will look forward to hearing about them!

I've got date number 4 this evening with ... I'll call him Mr Coffee, as we've always met for coffee/lunch so far. Came close to cancelling it this week, as I've had a tough week with DS, and also I'm really not sure if I could fancy him (Mr Coffee, not DS!) But then I thought I should give it a go and see how things feel when alcohol's involved. Will update, probably tomorrow.

Milk - I've not tried Lovestruck, let us know what you think of it.

adams - im sure you know the answer already.. and the advice you would be giving any of us is:
Its because he ie EU and you have pulled away - so he wants to drag you back to where you are. Keeping you onside.... of course he knows exactly what reaction that text would have as well.

You know all this..... i know you do..... Smile to yourself, assume hes missing you, and then delete the text and forget about it.

Hey Fate good to see you

watch, yes, no problem I've set the alarm on my phone to remind me

Yes, I can vouch for the fact that he does sound strange but as you say watch it could be his humour getting lost in the email. He does come across as polite and good fun so I'm hoping that's what it is because he is one hot looking piece of totty. I'm very much looking forward to the update.

notsure dating while living with your mum is perfect! You have a built in babysitter

adams he is contacting you because you have pulled away from him, Watch is right in what she says. I would totally ignore his text, give no contact whatsoever, show him that you are not his plaything!

Watch, yes I know what advice I would give everyone else, but I did reply with something witty and he is now making a real effort to draw me in again.

Is he succeeding in his efforts adams?

Just don't leave yourself open to getting hurt. Please. Thank you.

adams agree with watch and Time. Please don't let yourself get hurt, he isn't worth it.

Wrt babysitters, I have teenagers so don't need one but on the downside I've realised that they are still an effective contraceptive Not that I've had chance lately but still...

well.. I'm home already, have arranged to meet up tonight for a drink but I'm not sure I want to! I said yes as I did but now I get home again and think about it. I always meet up with ones that talk nonstop! is it just nerves do you think ? he's nice enough, he asked a lot about my children and commented that I was young when I had ds1 (I was 21 am 34 now) wanted to know who looke after them when I did my degree and when I work. would I consider
having more children (says on profile i don't but he does although he's put undecided) . he's now 40 and never lived with anyone but his parents. is that strange to get to 40 and not lived with any one? he said he's never found the right person. I'm very hmmm about it now. no butterfly's either :(

OKCupid bigwill09x...do you think he's trying to tell the women on that site something?

There were 3 photos of him, none of them with him fully clothed. The third one he was wearing boxers and the camera showed him from his waist to his knees.

All I can say is he is obviously delusional, re his username

Tolly if you would feel better cancelling and staying home with wine, pizza and Britains Got Talent, then do so! If you don't think there is any potential for a relationship then there is no need to bother taking things any further with this one. Don't feel guilty, this is what internet dating is about, meeting, deciding, dating or chucking. And I do think it is a bit odd to get to the age of 40 and only have ever lived with your parents, yes.