The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

They wouldn't know what had hit them if we all had a night out together

I have to admit hearing about what watch has just posted about her married friends makes me happy to be single.

Watch, couldn't agree more about your take on the married / single thing. I have a number of friends grinding their way through married life, because they are too scared to be single.

I have one friend who cries every time that she & her H have sex, which is once every two weeks, because she is so unnattracted to him - but she wants to stay married - because she likes the lifestyle. She has even calculated how many times between now & the age of 70 she will have to have sex with him, if they do it ever 2 weeks between now & then!!!!!!!!! No amount of lifestyle makes that worth it for me.

My DS has a dianosis of Aspergers / High Functioning Autism & I worry so much what the future holds for him in terms of relationships. I so desperately don't want him to be the weird freak making randomly inappropriate comments about tits and still living at home when he is 33!

I know time - for all their boden clad ' family having a fab time' pictures posted all over facebook - and behind it all they have been unhappy for years, and wondering if thats it. for YEARS!!! ah - its really sad.
I want to shout - 'dont settle, there is more to life', but, well, you know.

yeah - i dont feel bad, its not me, its him. Hes definatley not what im looking for and bar anything else i cannot date someone that lives at home with his parents, id end up feeling like his mother, it would be unbalanced and embarassing.

snape - lol. yes. lol

sorry - postbel - i didnt realise. i hope i havent offended.

No, of course not!

Awh Post. Listen, there will be a woman out there who loves your son and his quirkiness and uniqueness. I stayed with my ex for 11 years and the reason I left was absolutely nothing to do with his random behaviour. It was his random behaviour that made me love him. He lived at home until he was in his mid 20's, and then he only left to move around the corner. Now, at the age of 46, he has managed to move one mile away from his parents and that's quite an achievement for him, and shoot me down if you like but, despite everything he put me through, I feel a little bit proud of him. It caused him some stress and anguish but he's done it! There will be a woman out there who loves and understands your son, I'm sure of it

I know what you mean watch, I have no envy whatsoever for those who are trapped married. Blimey, even the thought of a sleepover makes me break out in a cold sweat

I hope so Time - it'll do my head in, if he is still at home when he is 33 or even 22 if I'm really honest!

it makes me feel very grateful actually, that i dont have to deal with that, no accept a crap situation because ' its what the majority of people do and its how it is'
it doesnt have to be how it is. I know i had a few low days the other week, but really, it was just a few days, i wouldnt swap it for anything, to feel lonely while you are in a relationship is possibly worse. i feel really sad for them. its a sad situation. You are only alive once, arent you and if you are in your early - mid 30's accepting being miserable - well, thats along life ahead of you like that.

post - glad :)

I think the worst thing you could probably do for him is mollycoddle him, I think the best thing you could do is raise him to be independent and encourage him to spread his wings. The mother of my ex smothered him, she controlled him, and still does, this caused him deep problems and conflicts of which I suffered the brunt of. Your son has Aspergers but it's what makes him who he is, it's when it's seen as a disability and the disability is allowed to define him, that's when the problems start. Imo anyway, I could be wrong, it has been known

I'm back as the last month I spent with someon turned out to be a lie.

I thought he was single, 22 borrowing his dads car till he got his own and that the name he gave me was real.

Found out through one of his friends that he was actually 27, the bug 7 seater was his, he had a wife and a child and that the name he gave me was fake

singlepringle!!!!! there is a word for men like that. In fact there are several.

(only because a bit early for )

How are you feeling?

Watch, exactly!! I spent my childhood growing up in a large family but I was ever so lonely, I spent 11 years with my ex but spent so much of that time feeling lonely. I never feel lonely these days, even though I spend quite a bit of my time alone. I just need to find a man who wants the same as I do, sex, good conversation, a good laugh, then sod off home! Oh, and he can't see me more than once a fortnight cos I have DD. That's not such a big ask is it?

Singlepringle!! OMG! Bastard!!

I feel ok, still in shock.

I told him to come round and when he did I told him I knew and he literally ran out the door!

From now on I will be iding men and doing background checks. Never thought this would happen to me. Only read it in magazines

The sheer fucking balls of the bastard.

Does his wife know?

singlepringle there are some right idiots out there. That's why I appreciate the honesty. And probably why I am quite open. I am sorry he turned out to be a arsehole. But ateast you found out quite early on. I have had a few dates but I always ended up at Mr just (more than) friends. No one quite matched up so I pounced.

Starting to wonder just how many good blokes there are left out there.

singlepringle - oh my god. thats shocking. and he ran out of the door - literally?
bloody hell.
christ.
honestly, i dont know what to say - are you ok?

singlepringle - big sympathy. My first ever internet date turned out to be married the lying bastard. He got a lap full of very cold white wine for his deceit.

singlepringle the twat and a complete coward too.

It might not feel like it now but you've had a lucky escape.

This wasn't even an internet date. A male.friend who I have known since I was 3 brought him to mine when I was having a little party and introduced us knowing full well he was lying.

His wife as now left him so not sure if she knew but I warned him I would tell her.

Feel abit stupid how I didn't notice in a month. He answered to the name he gave very well! So I'm guessing its not the first time he as done it

Some mate SinglePringle! No wonder you weren't suspicious. Feel very angry on your behalf - with both of them.

There is one consolation, you aren't the the one who is married to him! We will help pick you up, plaster the wounds and soak the bruises, and back up you get. You may have fallen but onwards and upwards. I was always told when you fell off a horse to brush myself down and get back on it, or the fear just builds up.

id be absolutley furious with the friend as well. thats utterly terrible.
why would you do that to someone?

Sickening.

decitful lying fucking fuck.

Well I am no longer friends with him any more. If i see him i will hurt him. He only told the truth because the married basterd annoyed him so he wanted to spite him.

If he had not have annoyed him I wouldn't even no now!

Just feel like I was been laughed at by them both