The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

Weirdly he seems to have thought.it was fab. He has messaged me saying thanks for a fab night again and next time its naked twister. ( we had a drunk game at his suggestion)

How can two people view the same thing so differently? Or have I been so warped by online dating that I assume no snog after two dates means game over..

And in any case, I can't seriously date someone who lives at home..

Watch that's a shame :( Was it possible he was a bit tired and therefore not as good company as at the weekend? Was there anything about him that might make you want to see him again?

At least you have a lovely clean tidy house...

When he's drunk hes funny. Other than that, no :(

Hmm..yes, house and bikini line are spotless..

Awww watch - that's like my other RL date from a couple of weeks ago - i thought it was a bit rubbish, but he is a little bit in love. It's so weird!

yay for the clean house though.

I am in excitement overdrive here - can't sleep!

Awhhh watch. Though personally, I do think he still sounds lovely, just naive and maybe inexperienced. I wonder if he has some sort of disorder, Aspergers maybe?

You are just a mis match, that's all. Disappointing but not as bad as it could have been. And you have a clean house, yeah!

I reckon rum has a lot to answer for!

lubey your turn now! Let's hope he doesn't mean what he said about picking you up for breakfast!

Oh dear watch never Mind NEXT. I woke up happy this morning. I am hoping to see just friends soon.

And my house is always clean which is why last time he came over I tub around like a headless chicken clearing up and doing hair and make up and getting changed. But it looked clean and tidy so long as you didn't open the cupboards where everything got neatly shoved-- in.

Bummer Watch - but never mind, all good practice for the honing of the twat radar! On to the next one.
Snape - good news on the pimping out of your mate! Glad he saw the funny side & hope he meets up with the lovely laydee you have found for him.
Tolly - definitely don't respond to his text & block him on dating site.
BOTK - hello

In a bit of a lull at the moment, need to get my arse in gear & be more active on the websites. Find it hard to be motivated sometimes specially when the TV seems to be more exciting than the blokes on the internet.

I met a gorgeous man last night, tall, long hair, beard, director of my new play. :) just my type!

I also met his insipid, mousy girlfriend.

my protege is chatting away happily to the lovely OKC lady about cats and fry ups. I am tutoring him in 'chat for a couple of weeks, then nice drinks and NO SHAGGING UNTIL 3rd DATE'

Obviously he'll end up marrying the woman and I shall still be wading through potatoes.

...and watch well, at least it was a 2nd date....

Snape - what is this you just snuck in about your new play? Are you a playwriter?

sorry, that was disingenious - no, I do costume design for a really annoying grindingly middle class small theatre company but I am haphazardly writing a screenplay

Still wow to both. Having always worked in an office, it sounds fun - is it?

I do the office thing as well - as the Dcs have got older and more independent, I've been able to do things I enjoy a bit more.

yeah, it's fun, but irritating as well sometimes - on the upside you get to gawp at a lot of young, fit, beautiful actors in their pants do something yourself that you enjoy outside of family commitments, cast and crew are like a little family and do get close during the course of a production, my best friends are actors. On the downside, late nights, lovey tantrums and it is all a little bit worthy middle class 'theatrrrrrrrrre!' at times.

that said, it's a very good way of meeting men people. even if you hate the thought of prancing around in front of an audience, there is plenty to do backstage. :)

Lubey - have a fantastic day, cant wait to hear all about it/ him/ the dress ;)

Snape - you matchmaker.. new career? and bugger to perfect men and crappy girlfriends :(

Time - i dont know about asperbergers, who knows? hes strange, very flat when sober, better when drunk though. But he seems to be missing somethng, like he sat on the opposite sofa to me, and then later in the evening made a comment about how humungous my boobs were, then spent about 15 mins talking about boobs and how great they were - all from the other side of the room - how weird is that? THEN he was saying about how obessed with POF he is at the momment and talking to people, but hes not getting anywhere but consideres himself a sucess because of me - so i do feel like an experiment. Hes 33 and lives at home, has a child who he had nothing to do with until quite recently ( and was originally upset that it was a boy becuse then he relalised he would have to play more of a part WTF!)

No - its just odd all round. Excitment over nothing :(

watch the more I hear the more I think there is more to him, as in aspergers or something similar BUT, that's by the by. The bottom line is he didn't float your boat so, NEXT!!

I am sorry it didn't work out for you though, I'm sorry it was such an anti climax after all that excitement. I felt a bit the same when Mr Spanking revealed his true colours. DO NOT let it get you down! You experienced some nice feelings and now you are going to look for more of the same. No slipping back into feeling low. That's a very kind and gentle order!

Snape, sounds like you enjoy it (despite the odd niggle). I love hearing about what other people do - specially when it is a bit different.

We have a local theatre company that I'd love to get invovled with, as I used to help out backstage with school & uni productions, but my DCs are still a bit young for me to escape that much of an evening, without it involving expensive babysitters. However, in a couple of years I'll get at least some of my evenings back. I can smell the freedom!!!

Sponge I've found you the perfect dress for your date on Saturday www.next.co.uk/g62446s1#768134g62

Me too Post, I especially love hearing about Snapes life, it makes me wish I was her real life friend

Time - you are very naughty! Clicked on that dress link expecting another bit of understated timeless elegance but howled with laughter instead.

that is a perfect dress ;) lol

it is indeed a shame we are not all in the same town. pah.

time - dont worry, i dont feel bad at all. it was nice to feel excited and positive about dating... so that was just great :) And its not my fault.. so, yeah :)

Interestingly ive also had a group ( group of old friends from 7 or so years ago) email on fb about the dire state of her marriage, and how its been awful for years and she doesnt know what to do. All the married ones agree, some have had councilling, most arent having sex at all any more, they all feel fed up and taken for granted and are doing 85% of the work while their husbands just work and come home to dinner. And they feel they have lost themselves.
This is going to sound awful of me, but im so glad that isnt me. I know myself now, im not lost and im happy with who i am. Its only since splitting up with my ex husband that ive learnt who i am, and remembered what i like and become comftable with who i am as a person. And yes, sometimes i might get a bit lonely, but i get more and better sex than they do and im happy - there is no price on how good that is. I would never go back to ' accepting this is how it is now for the sake of the children'
thats just sad. i feel sad for them.

Morning

watch, sorry to hear about your date but the more you've said about him the more I think you've had a lucky escape.

Snape it sounds very interesting what you're doing.

lubey good luck with your date

Never mind Watch, but nice house and smooth legs are good. You guys are so quick it takes me ages to catch up. Plus, my flat is invaded by nosey nice family members who keep checking up on me and making sure that I'm behaving OK and I can't get to my computer as it's in the spare room. Grrrrr....

watch, yes, it is a shame we don't all live closer, the nights out would be fantastic!

I'm so pleased you don't feel bad, and no, it's not your fault. I always suspected my ex had aspergers, cos he is a bit odd in a similar way to your date and you know what kind of a situation I ended up in, so you are well out of that one! And you don't sound awful at all about your friend, I feel exactly the same, I don't envy anyone in a 'serious relationship', even Zany, I'm pleased for her but I don't envy her! I'm happier than I have ever been in my life and there is no way I would trade this feeling just for the sake of being in a relationship. I want my cake and I want to eat it. I want sex cuddles and kisses the nice bits of a relationship but with none of the dross. I celebrate being single every single day!

(thanks time that's lovely!)

it's probably a good idea that we're not all close together. All those gorgeous women (and poppa!) in one room, filled with potatoes and one fit bloke. It would be like a bizarre hormone based version of the hunger games.