The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

i didnt mean to break it.

it just happened.

it was just a shame he would have been the worlds crappest boyfriend.

You sound like my DD with your 'it just happened'.

And no one gets stood up, they are just spared the pain of becoming involved with a tosser, because a man who doesn't turn up for a date is a tosser and he has done you a favour by not showing!

at 'it just happened'.

watch it's horrible isnt it the being stood up thing. It had never happened to me before, cancel at the last minute with a feeble excuse yes, but not simply fail to turn up without warning and then ignore any attempts at contact. So as much as I like to make out I'm all confident and assertive outwardly, inside the quivering jelly part of me is saying the Scot might do the same thing as Mr Chemistry. Or give me some lame excuse.

I do get what you're saying Time. Maybe that's a better way to look at it, that it's their problem not mine.

It's definitely a better way to look at it Sponge. Anyone who doesn't turn up to a date is rude and bad mannered for a start, that is definitely there problem. You wouldn't want to be involved with someone like that

Oops! their problem, not there..

Time you're right. I don't want someone rude. I also don't want someone who gives me a feeble excuse because they've had what they mistakenly believe is a better offer, because then they would be utterly stupid . And I don't want a stupid man either.

I don't think the Scot is rude, quite the opposite. He held doors open for me on our date. And let me have all the pillows (because I can't sleep without 4). And he gave me a lift home when he really didn't have to.

Let's just hope he's not stupid :)

He doesn't sound stupid Sponge, he sounds lovely

He does sound lovely. He will come..he said yes!!!
And he contacted you last week too. He likes you :)

And, he hasn't mentioned spanking!

I have dress envy. you look a-may-zing! :)

I've had to read over 200 posts just to catch up, I'm exhausted Most of it's a blur.

lubey lovely dress and you look gorgeous in it. One look and you won't be coming home if he's got red blood in those veins.

watch I get the impression, can't imagine why, that you're excited about tonight's date Have fun and don't do anything I wouldn't which means that do whatever you want to

Miranda good news about Mr Nice.

sponge glad to hear about Mr Scot

Snape sorry to hear work are still being fuck ups, they really should have had it sorted by now.

Time at least you haven't wasted a date on Mr BDSM Btw do we get to see your new dress too

Good luck to all who have dates this week.

As for me...I've disabled my OKCupid profile. I'm considering the same with the Oasisdating one but haven't has of yet. I have had some success with that one but none of them are really grabbing me, iyswim.

I'm considering taking some time out and concentrating on me. I'm not 100% happy with me atm so I can't really expect anyone else to be, so I'm thinking about taking a break and concentrating on learning to eat healthier and, hopefully, to lose some weight.

I think he's nice too. I hope I'm right :)

Watch only a few hours to go! Are you even more excited yet or too busy cleaning/changing sheets?

I have realised my roots need doing desperately...that's my evening taken care of!

Watch : the most appropriate word that I can find is : gosh!
Time 4 Me : I must admit that I went through a period like that, but have been taking catching up lessons...
*Lubey" : where can I see you with that fabulous dress I'm reading about?
Plus I love shoes; got these shoes in London, plus a few others....
Went to the bank at lunch time and I'm definitively not going anywhere until next payday...

This is my dress Chaotic, I wanted one I could get plenty of wear out of, day or night www.next.co.uk/x4996s4#835306x49 so it's plain and simple and doesn't show the chestage. I got some nude coloured shoes too to go with it. I've been doing the healthy eating and exercise too Chaotic, I'm doing pilates and yoga at the moment, stiff as a board today but I shall be pushing through the pain barrier. No pain, no gain and all that.

noluck I love your shoes! I have a thing for shoes, I collect them. I have special boxes for them, all labelled. But I tend to wear my boots more than anything BUT, I'm at least I'm prepared for when I get a job/start dating. that's my excuse anyway

chaotic - sounds like a good plan :) but maybe keep them open and check once a week in case someone amazing pops up :)

im sort of cleaning, sort of watching tv - its my day off work :)
but honestly, im bricking it.
Im not ashy, nervous person at all, im not lacking in confience, so i dont get it, its unlike me.
I seem to have convinved myself it was all in my head and hes only coming because i asked and he has nothign better to do. Which makes NO sense, but urgh. - i need wine before he comes i think.

time - that is a classy dress. I dont do dresses or dressing up really.
Im wearing skinny jeans ( theres a surprise) leopard print pumps.
black cowl neck dangerously low cut top.... grey boyfriend cardigan to casual it up a bit. with the usual messed/ just got out of bed hair.

thats it i make it to this evening without exploding from being too wound up/ nervous.

Thanks watch, it's actually too big so it doesn't look that good. I'm waiting for the smaller size size 12 yippeedoodaa to come before I make my final decision. Being older, I have this issue with my upper arms, in that I don't like them so don't like to show them, so the dress may be returned. I love dresses though. I wear them every day in summer, in winter it's leggings or jeans with boots.

In every photo I've seen of you, you look lovely so you will knock him dead tonight no matter what

watch he's coming round because he wants to see you again not to be polite, or cos he had nothing else to do but because he enjoys your company!

Outfit sounds fab btw :)

Time that's a lovely dress!

I have no idea what to wear on Saturday if he even turns up that is

Time Love the dress, as watch said it's classy.

I love the shoes that went with it more. Another shoe addict here, I have shoes that I've bought because I've seen them and loved them but still haven't got around to wearing them

watch I think I will keep the Oasisdating site open, the OKCupid one wasn't yielding many results anyway. As you say, someone amazing may well pop up, they usually do when you're not looking. Wrt the date, you'll be fine. You are amazing and he's coming because he wants to see you again :)

I'm thinking I may just set up a blog, as a personal diary, for the new me. I already have one, where I've filed a couple of short stories, at google blog thingy and am looking at wordpress atm. Any other recommendations?

Chaotic, you put it perfectly mate! I feel like the Goodyear blimp and when I look in the mirror I see nothing that would make someone want to spend time for me. I always say the first step to being loved is to be loveable, so I'm making a few changes too. I finally convinced the ex to pick up her dog which was carrying on with severe separation anxiety every time I took my border collie Gypsy out for a walk so we'd stopped walking. We're now walking for at least half an hour every second day.

As some of you know I make musical instruments, solidbody electric ukuleles and mandolins and tenor and lap steel guitars, and a mate mentioned there was a ukulele group starting at a local pub. Hopefully being part of that group will lead to a wider social circle, and you never know, someone there might even have a single friend looking to be swept off her feet by my charms... we shall see!

hmmm, i know, but my brain is playing tricks on me.
Its just usually its 3 days and you dont hear anythng, and somehow its an actual date 68 hours after the first date - its like being in a parrell universe - my brain cant handle it :)

time - you skinny mini!!! id be a 12 if it wasnt for my ridiclous stomach, but im working on tit :) it is a lovely dress.

chaotic - okc is rubbish in my area too.

sponge - as little as possible???!?!?!? lol

Thank you! I am a bit of a classy bird I try to more casual but somehow I always end up looking the same!! I am trying very hard to change my image, I want a change. Sometimes I think I'm stuck in a rut, I don't feel 47 so I don't know how a 47 year old should dress and I'm worried of looking like mutton! I love those shoes too Chaotic but the heels are mega! I would need a walking frame to walk in them! And me too re the shoes, I've got many pairs I've never worn, because I save them for best, which is stoopid!!

Good idea re your blog, I would follow it! no recommendations from me though, I wouldn't know where to start!

Sponge! Stop it! He will turn up!!

Watch the thought had occurred to me

I just don't want to frighten him off. Having said that of course he has seen it all already...