The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

Oops! They wear their trousers...

Totally with you ladies on the fancying younger men thing

I'm 33 but I much prefer men in their twenties. My ex is 6 years younger than me, and Mr Open Relationship is the same age as me but looks in his mid twenties.

It's weird because when I'm on nights out I usually end up getting chatted up y guys in their twenties. Yet on the dating sites I get loads of messages from men 45+ who are usually a bit knackered looking quite frankly.

I'd love to meet an attractive man my own age but by gum there's not a lot going on out there. Mind you I'm beginning to think maybe I'm just not as attractive as I like to think I am.

Andlibby Others may disagree, but I feel that if you are really having to think about whether you fancy someone or not then you don't REALLY fancy them.

I think we make up our minds if we find someone attractive within about 2 seconds of laying eyes on them. If your are still pondering on it after that then it's usually a no.

Milk - I think you're right - I don't really fancy him physically. But I do like lots of other things about him. The problem is, I've been internet dating for wwll over a year now and have only met two men who I fancy, so wonder if I'm just being too fussy. Perhaps if something physical happened with Mr Coffee, and he was a good kisser, for example, I might feel differently about him.

Oh. My. Word.

Any takers? www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?s=1&profile_id=33934415

I don't think you are too fussy Libby. If you don't fancy someone then you don't fancy them. Simples

I'm always getting wrong off my friends for having too much of a 'type' (Elfin faced, fragile looking pretty boys-I know, shoot me!) But you can't help who you find attractive can you?

Hmmmm, I dunno about the kissing. If the physical attraction isn't there then I don't think all the smooth moves in the world will help. I can only use my Mr Open Relationship guy as an example. He's not the best kisser/shag that I've ever had, but I'm literally gasping for breath every-time he comes within 5 feet of me! EVERYTHING about him makes me want to jump his bones

I think a lot of it is to do with chemicals and pheromones. I remember the first time he stood near me and all I could think was 'OMG, this man smells amazing, I'm going to pass out'. He doesn't even wear aftershave or cologne. It just that to my nose he smells utterly edible.

So erm, yeah, where was I? Yes, physical attraction. I don't think it can be forced. Eventually I am sure you will meet a man you are compatible with in that area. Hopefully he won't turn out to be a fuckwit like mine sadly is (fingers crossed for you)

Profile find of the week, surely?

Do I get a prize?

Beer mat penis?

:)-

Yes you do Time the prize is a night on the town with him!

Enjoy

Surely that's the booby prize? I will take the beer mat penis!

I do feel attracted, and then realise their jerks. Have to say I do like a fit cute arse. And sometimes men grow on you. And then there is some who make you tingle.

Hmmmm, yes I do like a nice bottom also MLM

My ex had a bottom like a peach. All pert, and tight with little dints of muscle in the side. Gorgeous firm thighs as well, even though he was really slender.

Christ I had better stop talking about it, or I will be ringing him up lustfully to talk

Aah just think of that bum, I hope someone out there is thinking of my bum.

I've always fancied men who are younger than me but my current is older and still very attractive. He's a commitment phobe which might explain why he is a rare good looking single guy in his fifties.

Forgot to say. Time you need to put that outfit to good use. Hope you can find someone good enough to date.

Thank you adams. I'm kind of hoping I will.

Oh my gosh. Talking of younger men, I am now getting mailed on Lovestruck by a very studly 24 year old!

He's gorgeous, and not my type at all. Perhaps I should branch out? some rippling muscles instead of the bony hipbones I usually go for. Variety is the spice of life after all

Watch thats great, I said I thought you would see him again!

I changed my profile as per Times' suggestion, and not one message I've attempted to look for someone to message, and gave up after half an hour of not seeing one man I would be in any way interested in. The Scot appears not to be terribly bothered about seeing me again (which is baffling of itself - what man in their right mind would turn down great sex with someone they clearly fancied a lot and who isn't looking for anything serious?!) and if I have to wait to find someone myself I'll be waiting a long time...or having to put up with fuckwits like Barbour who think I'm worth no more than a late night booty call. I know I deserve so much more, but there are so few men out there I find at all attractive, and the ones I do have little interest in me - or at least not in seeing me more than once.

I bought a couple of new tops to wear. And some skinny jeans. They weren't too tight though that I couldnt get then off though

Sponge don't give up hope, not yet. Leave the profile as it stands until after next weekend at least. I find Sundays to be quiet on POF so it could be down to lack of traffic. As for the Scot, I wouldn't be surprised if his job gets in the way of his energy levels I don't think his lack of enthusiasm is anything to do with you personally, he did get in touch with you after all. Send him a text and ask him when he plans to introduce you to his sporran.

Milk go for it! A change is as good as a rest.

Milk so do branch out. Me has a date with just friends. Next week not sure when though and our messages are more than friends.

MLM I might just do that.

I hope you will be following the good advice of this thread, and making sure he takes you out somewhere puts on my mummy hat and nods sagely

Time ok i'll give it a try. I'm not going to find anyone worth messaging myself so might as well leave it up, nothing to lose! On the same note, I might as well text the Scot. Nothing ventured...